RSVP question

We chose not to include an RSVP card and just put RSVP to our address on the invites so that our guests could chose their own. We have recieved some really lovely and individual cards back which we can keep rather than just have all the same bits of card. However, if you do this you probobly will get people asking if you forgot to put one in with their invite and people who when you ask why they haven't replied tell you "but you know we'd come, we don't have to reply do we?"

Ha ha, I'm exactly the same - this wedding planning business is all about random thoughts and questions floating about the head isn't it? Especially when trying to sleep!

I personally think whichever you do there will be a few people who do the 'Well you know I'm coming don't you?' without rsvp-ing properly! We did the same as emily as I really wanted nice little keepsake cards all over our fire place! My friend sent reply cards with her invites (but not stamps, don't think that's expected and will be pretty costly for you.) She probably got hers back quicker as people didn't have to go out and buy a card, but she still had a few not replying 'properly.'

If I were you I'd either do it for all, or do it for none. Nobody asked us if we'd forgot to put an rsvp card in, as on the invite we wrote RSVP By 12th June to.... and our address. We didn't have any problems really, just the typical few stragglers we had to chase, everyone else sent a little card. The only ones I had to badger to reply funnily enough was my Mum and my good friend whose boyfriend is the best man!

Hope that helps! x

We didn't include RSVP cards either.

Alot of my family members have just told my parents they are coming but it's not them asking for RSVPs it us as parents paying nothing towards wedding. Drives me nuts that people don't RSVP as they assume you know. But I don't know that's why we asked for RSVPs. My RSVP date for day guests was 3rd July and I've still got about 5 not replied. They also have my email address so they could've done it that way.

Sorry that turned into a rant x

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I think the norm nowadays is to include the rsvp card - just because it incentives the guest to actually fill it in and send it back, rather than relying on them to remember to send you something.

I wouldn't bother adding a stamp though. I just put the cards with an envelope inside the invitation.

This RSVP thing is a nightmare!!!

We put RSVP cards in our invites and it is amazing how many people odn't bother sending them back - some of the responses we have had when asking about them are hilarious, 'Oh I didnt realise you actually wanted me to send this back to you' - well Yes otherwise I wouldn't have spent an extra £150 having the RSVP cards printed!!

Even our best man hasnt sent his back nor my mum!! Oh well different people - different expectations!! xx

We included RSVP cards to make sure we got everyones dietry requirements. We made our own postcards to keep the costs down.

We didn't put a stamp on, but did put one of those wobbly-line stamp outlines to give ppl the hint. We also numbered all of the RSVPs and kept a list, in case any guests forgot to put their names on.

Our day guests had to send us back menu choices and a bus slip but they provided their own rsvp cards.

evening guests were more about emails/texts but they were like-minded young 'uns..

I borrowed the ides for a bride on a planning board somewhere. I put a tiny little number in the bottom of one courner so that the guests probably didn't notice - so no one could get offended about the number they were!

included there for all daytime guests, as our invites were worded formally, we went for a formal reply. for evening invites, just included an RSVP address.

My friend went the other way, she had a dedicated RSVP email, to an account which both her and her Mum had access.

We put paper RSVPs in, with their name, and tick boxes for coming/not, veggie/not, need a bus/don't need a bus, and the address and date to RSVP. Wish I'd thought of numbering them though, then we wouldn't have needed to put their names on! We've had some guests RSVP with a lovely card, others just stuck it in an envelope and sent it. Not sure how succesful that strategy was since we still have 50% of day invites yet to come and the RSVP date is next Wed!