RSVP worry!

Really don't worry about it until you've had them all back. Ours started the same, we had more declines and I started to think no one would come. Wedding is in peak holiday season and I thought a lot of people would've already made plans. I didn't send all the invites out in one go, sent about 20 a time and then added a few people on because of the declines we'd already had....wish I hadn't done that now! Got a big guest list and could've done with a few less! Doesn't matter, we originally had 110 and now just under 90 are coming but I would've liked a few less. People who we thought wouldn't come are coming, so it's happened the other way round.

Don't worry about it, wait until you've had them all back nearly and then take action!

Don't worry! We haven't had many replies but a lot of people have said they are coming through word of mouth so I sure by the time your deadline comes you'll have lots of acceptances! :-) We've put the deadline as a month before the wedding... I'm beginning to regret that! I wish I'd have put 2 months or at least 6 weeks....! Never mind!

I've not even sent out invites yet and I'm worried. We can only really currently think of 25 people we want there - 25 is the minimum number of guests at the reception venue

I'm in the same position, I sent our invitations 2 weeks ago and like you have only had responses from immediate family who we knew were coming. Even my MOH hasn't replied as yet and I know she, her husband and both kids are coming. I'm not too worried at this point. I think I'll hang on a couple of months before I start to worry.

i know the most important thing is that me and H2B are there! Everyone else is optional.

People who cant come will let you know as soon as they get invite. People who are coming will rely on telepathy until you chase them.

I sent my sister, BIL & nephew their invite & haven't had the RSVP back, and we live in the same house!!!!!!! ? Obviously I know they're coming my sister is my chief bridesmaid & their house has been turned into wedding planning central lol, might sound daft to have sent them one in the first place but it's got drink and food preferences on them. On the other hand, my friend gave me hers back straight away, as did OH's friend, so it just depends on how organized they are I guess. As others have said I wouldn't worry about it just yet, are you having separate day & evening guests? If so what me & OH plan to do is if anyone declines the day invite we can 'promote' an evening guest!!!

Thank you ladies!

We sent all our day & evening invites out at the same time, partially because the venue would pay the postage and partly because there are some people on the evening list that we are only inviting because we have to (my family) and so don't want to upgrade them to daytime too!

I am a natural born worrier, so I'm sure it will be ok and I'm just getting worked up for no reason. Didn't stop me waiting for the postman this morning though! (No RSVPs today.)

I like the whole telepathy idea. I'm guessing that could well be part of the delay too!

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We sent our invites out 2 and a half months ago, we have an RSVP date of 30th June and are waiting for 9 day guests to reply and about 20 couples to reply in regards to the evening. We don't get married until August but its nice to know if day guests can't come because like the OP we have been 'upgrading' evening guests to the whole day. Plus until we know the numbers we can't sort out our table plan or confirm numbers with the caterer and for someone who likes to be super organised like myself it is really getting to me! I guess I find it hard to understand that although my wedding is an important thing to me it isn't necessarily the case for people we have invited!

People only RSVP if they're not attending, those who are attending assume that you know it and don't feel the need to actually tell you. Also if your wedding is 5 months away people will not see it as a priority to RSVP yet, some wont even see it as a priority if it's 5 days away... (Like my FIL & BIL). It's definitely not worth stressing about yet.

For our day and evening dos we've invited 200 people. The invitations went out a month ago and I've had 23 rsvps on the website or by hand. I've had about 20 tell me they're definitely coming but I haven't included them yet. I don't want to be a naggy bridezilla so trying not to mention it but part of me desperately wants to phone them all and beg them to rsvp now please lol deadlines are July and august so I think I'll hold off for now ?