RSVP's

Its quite likely that some people will think they don't need to respond as you know they are going to be there but obviously this is anoying for you, youre not overreacting. Did you give people a date to get back to you by?

Yeah which in fairness is a few weeks away but even so, I thought since al they have to do is write their name on a card, people would have done it straight away. I am becoming a monster lol

My first response was 'ha, you plonker!' then I realised I am an equal plonker! We sent ours out almost 2 weeks ago and yesterday was the first day we didn't receive a response (even though the RSVP date isn't until 2nd April).

Goes to show, when you get this close to a wedding, your normal behaviour alters!

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Lol, I am just way too excited and turning into a spolied brat. The whole WORLD should be revolving around my wedding!!!! ?

I thought it was just me, I do believe some people are just extremely lazy (and rude) about replying.... We've had around 47 or so acceptances so far, but still got another 20-25 for the daytime left to chase over the next two weeks!

Like you, people I expected to chase have infact already replied and its the obvious family members - although three different ways to respond I would have thought was more than ample!!!?

I sent a few texts last night and it turns out a few of them never received their invitations in the first place so I was panic stricken and now have no spare invites and having to try and make something. I just hope the people whose invites got lost in the post don't think they are B-listers if you know what I mean!?

I had to chase a lot of people and we had put the stamped RSVP in the invitations too! Some of them have never arrived but people said they did post them so could be postal issue? Other people (mostly family) assumed they would not need to send the RSVP back as they wouldn't miss it for the world! I emailed people and just said I needed to let the venue know by a certain date and was wondering if they had RSVPd as my parents had not received anything... I'm sure people are excited about your day!

I'm not holding out much hope for us when it's time for us to send out our invites - I'll probably get a day or 2 of handmade RSVP cards by my craftier relatives but the rest will probably just either text or facebook their responses which seems a tad un-special lol I want to save all my RSVPs in a box or scrapbook

Hold a space in Plonkerville for me.....

I have just sent out my invites (well last week) and have had a couple of replies, but not close family etc and i have come to the conclusion that because they are close fam and friends thye tend to ASSUME you know they are coming.

To combat this, we have sent out texts/msgs etc to say anyone who dont send their rsvp WONT be fed. and that includes my mom, sister (MOH) etc etc!

It is rude but not an intentional rude i think

I'm pleased i'm not the only one too !! ?

We sent our invites out 1st week in Jan, RSVP by date is 28th feb, so just under 2 weeks left til we said harassing people properly lol

We had a few rsvp's initially, then its been a few here then nothing for a few days, then a few more.

Some friends of h2b and his family who live away from the area had told h2b's sister & parents that we were coming, only found out on wed eve, so i said 'well can you get them to let us know please'. One couple claimed they are to reply ON the rsvp date, according to the invite (READ THE INVITE PROPERLY!!!! Its says Please RSVP BY 28th Feb 2011), another couple said they'd already told us. When?!? we haven't spoken to them or had any contact since we sent the invite out lol. We have about 4 or 5 families where they either haven't decided yet or haven't booked the time off work yet, when they've had 6 weeks to decide or book the time off work so far. . . 2 families were adamant before the invites went out that they definitely couldn't come. I still wanted to send them an invite, and said i would and then they could officially decline the invitation. They've then done their best to try and attend lol

We're now sending messages to people this week just to politely remind them that we need their rsvp by the 28th of this month so we really are hoping that it encourages the remaining guests to reply. Initially all the rsvp's were yes's which started worrying us a little as we were expecting approx 20 - 30 people to not attend and have provisionally booked the catering/food at 75% of the lower figure, luckily we can relax a bit not though as we've had 15 of the no's and we expect another handful from the remaining replies!

Still about half of our invites not responded yet, with 2 weeks before the rsvp date.

I really don't think people grasp that "RSVP" means a reply is required, not "just let us know if you're coming".

Not looking forward to chasing people - quite tempted to just write out to those that haven't replied to say as you haven't replied we're sorry you aren't able to come along, and see if that flushes any out of the woodwork.

We put in stamped, pre-addressed reply envelopes and all people had to do was tick a couple of boxes and write their names down - nothing too strenuous but evidently it is for some.

I'd be honoured to get an invitation to share in someone's wedding day celebrations and would reply as soon as I could, not just leave it to see if I got a better offer for that day which is what it feels like with some people.

One of my friends has just decided to start ignoring me completely?! I have emailed him, FB messaged him, texted him twice about the wedding and he's just not answering me. It really pees me off!!!! I know what the issue will be. He will be all woe is me cause he's single and feeling sorry for himself because he'll "never get married". He is such a drama queen and even though he has had it tough, he hates it when everyone is not pandering to him and I am REALLY questioning my friendship with him.

Wedding's can really bring out the worst in some people. GRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

I think this is just, infortunately, normal!!

Just think about how many things you have got through the post and thought 'oh I must reply to that tomorrow', then it gets moved, then it falls behind the key rack where you propped it up to remember to reply, then it goes on the kitchen table so see it in the morning and remember to reply, then you find it a week later under an electric bill and the cat's vaccination reminder (so now there are TWO things to remember to do....) and so on, and so on.....

We are all probably gulity of doing exactly the same thing at some point in our lives but when it is OUR wedding then unholy hell is bound to break out people do not RSVP immediately and I know that I will be exactly the same....even after saying all of the above....bcause so much hinges on getting those RSVP's back!

Try not to stress too much, some may have been lost so I would wait until two weekd before the deadline date and just gently nudge via email or text or call those who haven't replied, well that is my plan anyway...

Have packed up and moved to Plonkerville myself. Mine's the corrugated iron shack on the road just past the "welcome" sign...

It's so annoying. We sent our invitations three weeks ago and although the deadline is not for a few weeks yet, I had expected people to reply a bit sooner. Or even mention they had received an invitation when I speak to them? I kniow the world does not revolove around our wedding but these people are suppposed to be my closest friends and family.

Grrrr..

I have already informed everyone if they do not reply (using the card & pre addressed envelope that we are providing in our invites) by the requested date THEY WILL NOT BE FED UNTIL THE EVENING DO - WE NEED TO KNOW FOR MENU & SEATING PURPOSES.

I said it like a joke with a jib but people have took the hint! If people do not have the courtesy to let you know they are coming it really is rude - I agree not intentionally so but still wrong.

People dont realise the planning & stress there is involved in planning a wedding - sending an RSVP should be no hindrance to anyone!

You'd chase before the RSVP date? Interesting thought. Time is on our side - we wanted an early rsvp to have a chance to invite others if our numbers were short, so I don't know if I need to worry too much about chasing early - but is this common?

Probably not common at all AJ but in order for poor little control freak like me to get any sleep I think I probably would! Though most likely only to close friends and family, or those I already know have said they are coming....don't want to come across as a complete mentalist to my OH's distant friends & relatives until we are married and then it is too late mwah hah hah!! ?

I'm already chasing them before the deadline but people we thought were definitely coming have dropped out so I am glad we've chased as we can invite other people now.

Our invites only arrived with our guests on Saturday - and OH is already moaning that people aren't replying quick enough!! He is officially Groomzilla!

One of my friends never acknowledged they had their invite, so I texted to see if he had it. The reply was "Yes, Thanks". Not "Yay, so excited" or "Thank you, can't wait". This got me a bit peed off. Still had NO RSVP so I left and FB Message "Are you coming to the wedding?". Nothing again!?

Welcome to Plonkerville - population steadily on the increase!

One of my friends said yesterday that she wasnt going to RSVP cause she wanted to keep the invite intact lol

NO WAY!!! My friend said that yesterday too! Although she is getting married next year and wanted to keep hold of it for ideas for her own wedding.

That would really annoy me... you don't have to send the card back to RSVP, just buy your own card and send it! My H2B's grandparents did that, they bought us a 'wedding acceptance' card. (They also managed to find a "Merry Christmas to a Special Grandson and his Fiance" card... I think they must have a warehouse full of very specific cards LOL!)

I don't think I'd expect people to reply to the save the date, or for most people to even acknowledge it, it's for information only - I know there'll be some people who will immediately call/text/facebook me and be very giddy about it which will be lovely lol

I'll definitely be making sure I include a gentle kick up the bum for people - if I mention that they won't get fed if they don't reply I'm pretty sure most of my family will hand deliver their replies lol

Hee hee on Four Weddings US last night, at one of the weddings anyone who hadn't RSVP'd were ushered outside while the 'proper' guests got their dinner - it was so funny!

Excellent incentive for people to RSVP ?

Yes, I saw that and although it must have been embarrassing for them as it was shouted out over the microphone "anyone who didn't RSVP have to wait ouside" it was funny (only themselves to blame)! I wouldn't have the balls to do it personally ?

Hahaha, so funny! I missed last night's!!! Wonder if it is repeated.