RSVPS grrrr!

Don't get unnecessarily stressed by this. I think it's perfectly normal to have to chase some RSVPs.

No, you don't just assume they're not coming - you contact those that haven't replied and ask them if they are planning on attending.

This is what these two weeks between RSVP date and venue number date are for surely?

Or you can be slightly naughty and contact them telling them that you're sorry that they are unable to attend your wedding. ?

I would send out an email or a text reminding those that haven't RSVPd. If you haven't heard from them by next week then call them. It is rude that people don't reply by the date but unfortunately it's inevitable.

How many did you send out? And when?

Don't panic! Contact those outstanding to check.

I had most of Mr C's mates come back late... general conversation went like this.

"Alright mate, you coming to the wedding?"

"Yeah, yeah"

"Did you send back the RSVP?"

"No, do I need to?"

"Yeah, the missus is saving them or something."

?

This sounds like 90% of the conversations Ive had recently when chasing them!

The response we got from Mr RB's uncle!

My bloomin maid of honour didn't send an RSVP!

I am totally expecting something along these lines to happen. I shall be like a ninja though and nagging like mad (I am v good at nagging!!)

This is what my OH said to his mates! We then got a load more back.

I wasnt saving them but they dont have to know that.

I totally know where your'e coming from. I was abit miffed by the fact that we had included RSVP tear off pages in our invites and created a website where people could RSVP too but we still had to chase people. I felt like "why bother???" , wish I had text them their invites instead lol! Or just set up a facebook event and invited them that way ?. I think some of our family members think as they are "family" they don't need to send replies.

But I must say some people have left lovely messeges on our website when they have replied or sent messeges in beautiful cards which I will keep. A friend even wrote their reply in the sand on an italian beach whilst on holiday and posted the photo to us in a card.

Our RSVP date was 10th June and I basically text/emailed/phoned everyone that hadn't RSVP'd on that day. Had our last daytime reply today ?.

I hope you manage to chase up the RSVP's in good time.

Pester them, the day after my deadline I text/emailed/phoned anyone who hadn't rsvp'd to remind themw e need their choices soon for the venue. Just one more to chase now. Good luck, but keep hassling people.

We're still waiting for quite a few and our deadline was near the start of the month. A first polite nag has been issued to all and quite a few have had follow up emails...... I know people are busy but this is now just plain rude. Some have made positive noises in person but haven't followed up with a formal ASAP. We've specifically said in writing is easier (because we set up a free website) so we have it all in one place. It also gives them a chance to give any food requirements. I have wanted to un-invite some people but OH is a moderating influence to avoid me starting a row. When someone has a chance to reply to some emails but ignores the one about the wedding, it's tough to take it any way other than personally!

I am now only waiitng for one which is my brother who is giving me away so he better be coming!

I must admit I used to be one to say yes in person but not return a card, this will not be the case in future. In our invites I made sure that everyone had a RSVP card a pre-addressed envelope and even put a stamp on it for them and it still took a while. Just glad I gave them so long to come back to me.

Good luck xx

Some of our worst offenders are couples who have had a wedding in the last few years and spent ages 'whining' about chasing up RSVPs/responding in person..... makes me very annoyed (although I now appreciate that it isn't whining about nothing, it's genuinely frustrating!)! Anyone who's been through this knows what it's like (and it does astound me that some who were the most vocal when it was their wedding are the worst at getting details from now!)

I think people are just rude I always RSVP asap just to be polite, I think it mainly is a man thing, I'd ring/text people or ask OH if they're on his side. We're looking to get married in May 2014 but havn't booked anywhere yet, we were making a budget and when I put invites on OH just looked puzzled and said what do we need invites for can I not just ask people?! No! It's a wedding not a night out!

I'm in a similar position - my RSVP date was 1 June and about 25% of day guests and 50% of evening guests hadn't replied by then! A few replied in the following week and I chased the rest on Sunday and have only got about 8 outstanding now. I agree that it's very frustrating as we have a website too which is surely far easier than posting an RSVP! I'd send them an e-mail/text and ask them to let you know by the end of the week. Good luck!

We only got 2 formal RSVPs. Most people just let us know in conversation which is fine by me. Did have to chase a few alright. One person actually let me know at 4pm on the day of the wedding (Saw the text the next day - evening invite).