Rude guests - rant and laugh - just for fun.

Weddings turn people crazy ?

Mind is not an example of being rude I suppose, but definitely an example of odd guest behaviour.

Last week we received our first wedding card in the post, it was from my parents. Doesn't sound odd until you consider that our wedding isn't until September.

I spoke to them to ask if they realised they'd sent it 3 months early, to which they replied that they thought the wedding was next week, as in Friday 12th June.

Our wedding is on Saturday, 12th September ? The date has been booked since October 2012. It was never booked for June, there has never been any discussion about it being in June. They have a save the date magnet on the fridge and they've RSVPd to the wedding invitation!!

They've managed to get the day, date and month wrong!

SL no way!! Imagine if they turned up at your wedding next week!!

SL - bloody hilarious.

Not sure if this counts, but I had decided not to invite my uncle and his wife, as over the past couple of years they have not made a single effort to be in my life all because she doesn't like my dad. I never got congratulations on my engagement. When I won a big award, didn't hear a word and they stopped inviting me to their family events.

Explained it to my nan and other aunt and they both said it was my wedding and to do what I felt best.

This past weekend I was at party at my Aunts house and my uncle and his wife were there and they had obviously heard about the wedding as they asked loads of questions about the hotel and things like that and where they would be staying... ( was tempted to say "on the street for all I care!".

My nan begged me to invite them as it wouldn't be right if they weren't there. I can't turn down my nan, not least because this almost 80yr old woman gave me the best puppy dog eyes I have ever seen, she totally played on the fact that i would never say no to her. good on her really, she knows me well. So I have agreed to invite them.

But all through the party my uncles wife was making little digs and comments about my dad and sister (who she has never liked). I might just put them on a back table far and away. I know it is going to be drama. they are such snobs!

Eurgh

There must have been a special offer on Vino at the supermarket that week ?

Still, at least they were early rather than late I suppose!

My mum received a note from a guest we invited to the evening to say how insulted she was. She claimed not to have been made to feel welcome, to have been refused a seat and to have had a miserable time because no-one spoke to her.

Strange then, that I have several photos in which she can be seen in the background, laughing, chatting and sitting in an actual chair.

People mystify me - they truly do!

So far I’ve had people question why some people are only evening guests and not day guest, also questing to make sure OH dads family were only evening guest.

3 people ask if they can bring someone.

Also newest news that came through last night, his nan apparently has booked to go to Disneyland on our wedding day, in spite of this being her first grandchilds wedding, booking a hotel room (which confused me if shes now going to Disney land) and having the save the date for almost a year.

Non RSVPing i think is the rudest action, 3 separate guests, despite being married themselves in the past 5-10 years, have not replied. We heard through the grapevine from a month or so after invites arrived they all know they can't come because of x y or little timmy gets car sick. If you know this - why have you still not let US know!? No loss, just annoyed at rudeness.

But the biggest which springs to mind is my SIL buying a near identical dress to the BMs, inc shoes. I think she wanted to cause a reaction, but I can't be bothered. Honestly, she'll only be in a few big shots, and not the ones which make it to my wall anyway.

So glad this topic has come up!

Both OH and I are still fuming from Saturday when his mum had a go at us because we haven't invited her friends to the evening reception??

She was almost in tears at how much we have upset her by not inviting them.Totally perplexed as to why she thinks we should invite them anyway - I don't even know them and my OH hasn't seen them for years and years.

Anyway just to keep her happy we now have to invite another 7 random people for the evening although I have just given the numbers to the venue - grrrrrrr.

My cousin asked what kind of band we were having and then proceeded to tell us what a mistake that was and how nobody would be up dancing or enjoy our wedding because nobody likes ceildh. I was gobsmacked she was so rude, I know its not to everyones taste and was a bit upset (and worried!) that she was right. OH is having none of it as we love the band and its 50% band, 50% DJ so hopefully the dance floor won't be empty. ☹️

Nah, course it won't. I'm sure everyone won't participate in the ceilidh (evidently your cousin won't!) but plenty will. The last ceilidh I went to was in a field at a festival, and people were up and dancing with strangers. Plus if you have a DJ too you've done your best to cater to differing tastes, so don't worry about it!

Don't listen to her Vicki! she's a spoil sport! You always get someone moan at you no matter what you chose.

Tell her that you look forward to attending her wedding when she can chose whatever she wants to have. In the meantime you'll be doing whatever the heck you want thank you very much. That seemed to work well for me ;-)

That festival sounds a lot of fun! ?

Most of my friends dance to anything so at least the dancefloor won't be completely empty. I think I was just taken back at how critical she has been about things, I would never say anything about a persons choice, it's their day after all.

I think I'll say that in future Halloweeny, just didn't expect to have to! X

I had a ceilidh for my 40th and it was a huge amount of fun. Ignore the rude woman. She will be eating her words.

I haven't sent the invites yet so no rsvp issues, but I have had a (former) friend throw a hissy fit, stop talking to me and defriend me on facebook because she didn't get priority over family and people travelling long distance for a room in the hotel we're having the wedding at :-/

I had a distant family friend try to invite her son. This son & his large family stayed with us years before, we took them out, showed them around, lent them a car and not even a thank you card/box of chocolates, nothing. We met him years later & said we'd be driving right past his house on a 12hr car journey north, he suggested we 'peep the horn as you go past'!!!! No offer of a cup of tea or anything. I said NO to him coming to our wedding!

I also had MIL issues. She said she'd pay x amount toward the wedding which was a lovely gesture. The following week, the amount had gone down, then a month later it changed again. In the end, she gave us a lovely cheque, then asked us not to cash it as they couldn't afford it. The following week, she took her daughter & her family to Disneyworld!!!

Some of these are unbelievable.

Another from me but not my wedding

FSIL told me that at her wedding OH's first wife decided to change their (then) baby daughters nappy on the floor right in front of the top table!

Oh where to start......

Friends reaction to no plus ones - told me she didn't appreciate our rules, that it singled her out (all friends invited) and we could have our rules but hers was she wouldn't come - she's now coming and when we offered a +1 she said no thanks...........

MIL - invited her friends to our church service and evening reception without telling us - when OH pulled her up on it response was well you can't control who goes to a church and your fiancee invited so and so to the evening (I was completely put on the spot by her friend) and they all come as a 3 anyway.....

8 RSVP's - still waiting on........one has said he is deciding the week before - g thanks

My absolute favorite - what do you mean your no longer putting a coach on? (we had 4 people come back to us who wanted it) How am I supposed to get from A to B - getting taxi's is going to be a nightmare.....(we offered space in cars, have camping at reception site, suggested taxi shares with others nearby) we can't make it now we have to organise our own transport................. they are still not coming! lol

I've seen a few quite "special" guests that make me realise why I was chosen as the photographer! Some of my couples interview a lot of photographers looking for the right "personality" to deal (decisively!) with problem guests.

The most hideous of all was a woman the bride referred to as her "wicked stepmother." On leaving the ceremony and going out to shoot the groups I heard Wicked Stepmother telling the bride and the guests how sadly, she had been unable to enjoy the ceremony as she had been left without a chair - left to stand up at the back like an unwanted guest. What a disgrace! How could she have been treated like that?!!

I was puzzled because I had been at the front looking backwards the whole time and not noticed anyone standing. So I flicked through the images on the back of the cameras and there she was... the lying cow had a seat!

I took the camera to the groom and showed him and she got a good telling off. She spent the rest of the reception looking daggers at me!

One of our guests has a bizarre vendetta against my mum. None of us can work out why, but she is known to spread lies about her and occasionally turn up drunk at the door and verbally abuse her. Initially i wasn't going to invite her, but - sadly- this woman is married to my Uncle. Mum asked me to invite her for fear of making things worse if I didn't. And several other relatives were on 'L watch' ready to evict her if she tried to kick off. But no, everything went smoothly, she was the model guest, laughing and having fun. Even hugging my mum and telling her how lovely she looked.

Until a couple of weeks later. L was in the hairdressers, and with it being a small town the hairdresser knew me and asked how the wedding was. L proceeded to tell her that my Mum had spent all day trying to make the wedding all about her - that she'd worn a long white gown in an attempt to outshine me, that she'd been gloom and refused to smile in any of the photos, that she'd kicked off in the evening and refused to dance, even that I didn't want to get married in a Church but she forced me (competely untrue) and that the wedding was 'illegal' and mum had 'bribed the vicar' to go ahead with it (It was a blessing not a legal marriage, so not quite the same as being 'illegal', and mum had generously paid the church fees for us). L said it was such a sad day she couldn't enjoy it.

Sadly for L one of my mum's colleagues happened to be in the seat next to her, went on Facebook on her phone in the shop and showed everyone the wedding pics.

Here is my Mum, outshining the bride, acting miserably and refusing to dance at my wedding:

Incidentally L, who ' couldn't enjoy herself' is in the dress with blue flower at the left of the pic.

My mil is still sure that out wedding wasnt legal and uses air quotes when she says we are "married". She also was the main reason we had a party over here as she did not want too come too vegas as she couldn't share a room with us (?!?!?!) so we sent out save the dates for a party which one week before she told us she had booked a last min holiday and would not be coming (she does not work so can really go away whenever and not in peak season too) and then had the front too moan that she wasnt going too see alot of her family as they had refused too come down the week after the party instead of the week of too see her.

We get on alright although its always been very touch and go and now i just give her a wide berth! I probably sound like a right cow..

So so funny. Outrageous and annoying at the time but you have to see the funny side. Some people are just weird.

Ive had some MIL2B issues! She is demanding all her friends be invited some of whom she has slagged off well and truly to me about how she doesn't like them very much blah de blah - she was originally contributing to our wedding so we felt like we had to agree, the guests list got to over 200 people because she kept adding people on. I HATE being around too many people at once, so MIL suggested i get Therapy. We decided to postpone our wedding for a year so that she is not contributing a penny, gust list had 100 people chopped! But MIL2B proceeds to still try and demand who is invited and even said how A should be invited to the day instead of B because A will give us £500 as a gift but B will only give us a bath towel.. I could do with a new bath towel so thats great! Jeez

So it seems she married FIL2B for presents with how she is acting, but fails to realise me and her son are getting married for love, not presents..

I love this discussion ?.
Only issues I have is my FMIL insists on inviting everyone. If she meets a guy in tesco, they are invited. The other day she invited the photographer's mum. Told me a couple of days later about it followed by 'I hope you don't mind'. Then I emailed her about my hen party and asked her if she was coming and the next thing I knew my OH had a phone call saying that so and so couldn't come but such and such are coming. She had invited all my OH's female cousins. My FFIL went mad about the menu saying there is nothing he would eat. Bearing in mind it's a roast dinner and they are always going out for a carvery. His first response was that he was going to have a kids meal (uh no!). 2 people we have invited are not coming because they invited my OH and not me so the family protested and no one went.

I went to a wedding with a hour/ 90 mins of one of these, and it was most fun! They encouraged everyone and taught us all tradional moves!

I went to a wedding with a hour/ 90 mins of one of these, and it was most fun! They encouraged everyone and taught us all tradional moves!

YK, I am dying to know this woman's reaction when she was proven a liar. I know you weren't there to see it, but I bet it was priceless.

I had a ceilidh for my 16th birthday (which was a joint do with my Dad's 50th) and I've been to a few since then. I LOVE them and always dance until I'm completely exhausted. Sadly, my enthusiasm totally backfired at my Scottish cousin's very Scottish wedding in Scotland, where they had a ceilidh but no caller to explain the steps or walk everyone through them slowly beforehand. Everyone there just KNEW the steps from the name of the dance, and sad clueless old English me was thinking 'oh f*ck' and clinging on to my partner for dear life!

Ohhhh this is a good thread.!

I've had the usual stuff everyone seems to have.....having to chase people for RSVP's. Deadline was nearly 2 weeks ago now. We heard through the grape vine that OH's cousin wanted to bring his new girlfriend, didn't ask us directly which is rude anyway, neither of us have ever met her but we decided one extra wouldn't hurt so OH told him he could bring her.......Still haven't heard a word from him either way. The other person I had to chase for an RSVP was one of my best friends....what is wrong with people. I even put stamps on all the RSVP's so there is literally NO excuse!

FSIL was gleefully telling me about her IVORY dress she plans to wear to my wedding. I thought everyone knew you don't wear white, ivory, cream or any variation there of. Obviously not. (also heard through the grapevine that she is pissed off because we haven't asked her daughter to be a flower girl. Who is just 2 so really doesn't know what its all about. Plus she is 1 of 6 nieces I have! I can't have just 1 niece as a flower girl! FMIL has picked a dress EXACTLY the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses for some bizarre reason. Have never ever seen her in anything pink the whole 5 years I've known her!

One of the bridesmaids has been a bit of a pain about the dresses from day 1. Absolutely everything I picked for her she 'absolutely hated'. She kept emailing me links to dresses (that she wanted) that were like wedding dresses and had massive trains on etc! I ended up just choosing her a dress without her input, needless to say she doesn't like it and has bought a massive pashmina to cover herself with. I'm beyond caring now. At one point I told her to wear whatever she wanted because she was endlessly complaining, so there's still a possibility she won't wear my dress at all.

Nightmares

It makes me annoyed to see all these MILs and SILs causing issues. These are clearly sad, confused women who can't let their son/brother go and lead an adult life without their control. It's kind of pathetic and laughable all at the same time. Ladies, if you ever have sons, please don't be like this!

Oooh this is a good thread!

One of my cousins (who I'm not really close to) complained to her dad that she had not received an invite when she had received one for the evening reception! He then rang me asking me about the missing invitation, what food we were having, was our wedding on the weekend because he didn't like midweek weddings!!! READ THE INVITATION AND LOOK AT OUR WEBSITE!! I explained that I had in fact sent her two invites as she had moved recently. He then began dropping hints about his youngest daughter wanting to be a bridesmaid! pppfffff. A few weeks later, said cousin RSVPs and adds on her BF, who I've met once for about 5 mins! ?

I've had a number of guests (friends and family) asking for plus ones too which I just think is so rude!

Gaaah!!!

This is quite a funny thread - you'd never believe what a wedding brings out in some people!

My sister, (who is MOH,) has been harping on about a plus one since we got engaged - she doesn't have a plus one and has a three eyar old to look after too! She's now insisting that an old family friends of ours, (who is single,) be sat next to her!

My dad's side of the family have not been in touch AT ALL, depsite the RSVP date being 1st June! My mum and dad were in Glasgow last week and chased them up for us. Nana has said she's not coming because she can't afford it, no word to me. One Aunty and Uncle told mum and dad they were coming, but I've heard nothing. Another Uncle said he never received an invite and then decided he wasn't going to mention it to anyone. (It was sent later than the rest, but that's because he and his girlfriend couldn't decide if they were an item or not!) One aunty has said she's probably coming and will be wearing cream - as long as i 'don't mind!' The final aunty and uncle are 'trying to make it.' All of this commnicated to my mum and dad while they were chasing up RSVP's on my behalf!

FMIL invited her best friend and husband to the evening do without asking us. (We were going to invite them anyway, but FMIL didn't know that and it's still rude!)

OH's best man has decided he doesn't want to be best man as he doesn't want the attention, then decided to not talk to any of our circle of friends for over a week!

Trying so hard not to let any of this bother me - but SERIOUSLY! Some people!