save the date disaster

Oops. STD cards are normally for day guests unless you tailor them. But as you've done it by email, I think you can recover it.

Just send a follow on to the evening guests now with further details along the lines of:

"Hi - following our save the date email, we're delighted to be able to let you have some more details. We'd love you to join us for our evening reception at venue on date starting from time. We will send a formal invitation nearer the time."

You could also send a follow on to the day guests in case they start to talk to one another:

"Hi - following our save the date email, we're delighted to be able to let you have some more details. We'd love you to join us for our wedding at Venue on date at time. We will send a formal invitation nearer the time."

This way you're telling them now when you would like them to join you.

Hope this helps.

I think pammys advice here is great, it will sort it quickly and then avoids all the confusion. I'd send out the follow on email ASAP x

WSS^ and Hello and welcome to hitched ?

First off, dont panic!! Me and OH sent our save the dates out in October last year for our wedding in August but after looking at how much money we actually had to spend and the number of epople we'd invited to the day and evening do, we unfortunately had to move some people from the day to the evening even though they'd recieved save the dates. Luckily it was only about 2 or 3 people but when I'd spoken to them individually they understood. To be completely honest, your guests should be pleased they're coming at all and not be so fussy over being 'day or night people'!!

Thank you for all your advice. I think we are going to do as suggested and send out a follow on email with a few more details just to be sure, we don't want anyone booking hotels or buying outfits etc. having made the assumption.

I've kind of taken Pammy's suggestion and added a bit to it, something like this:

Hi,

Following our save the date email, we’re delighted to be able to let you have some more details. As much as we would love to invite many more friends and family, the venue that we are marrying in is very small and has strict capacity numbers. Therefore, we'd love it if you could make our evening reception just as special at ... on ... from 7.30pm onwards. There will be lots of music, dancing, drinking and a hog roast provided. We will be sending formal invites to the address you have given us closer to the time.

Apologies if our previous save the date caused any confusion and we hope that you can and still want to come.

Hopefully that sounds okay! I think we are expecting the guest list to change a bit though, my guess is that a few people may drop out last min etc. and that this is quite common?

Thank you again everyone, big help

I think you are over-thinking it, I would keep it short and sweet like Pammy suggested, this way it doesn't sound like you made a mistake. I think the apology line is unnecessary at this stage.

100% this. Just put what Pammy put, it was very well written and a great save!

This may be contrary to the other responses but I don't see it as too big a deal to be honest.

We sent our Save The Date cards to everybody, regardless of if they were to be an evening only guest or an all day guest... The point is to remind people to keep the date free and not plan anything else, the invitations are to tell them which part of the day they are invited to.

Dont stress, I'm sure none if your guests are ? x

I set up a 'save the date' event page on facebook, and invited all potential guests (day and evening) to join. It became clear from the first couple of posts on the page that people were assuming that amounted to an all day invitation, so I did some ninja editing and set up a separate event page for evening guests.

Agree.

I agree with the early posts. With your follow up email I would stick to the delighted etc line with more details. Don't explain the venue size etc just stick to the script as per initial post.

And don't feel panicked. Its your day, don't explain your reasons.

People realise its expensive for a wedding breakfast etc and particularly if they are married themselves and have planned their own weddings.

I would wait a month if you have sent the save the date. It is important to clarify but if you do it straight away it looks obvious that you have realised about the potential confusion.

Wait until you actually have more details and then send it. x

This! Keep it short, sweet and up-beat x x x

I know what you mean but then people might start organising child care/time off work when it is unnecessary. If send the follow up email.

I know what you mean but then people might start organising child care/time off work when it is unnecessary. I'd send the follow up email.

I still don't know how to use this 'quote' business so I'll just post lol!

this may sound harsh, but in my opinion, that's their own fault if they do.

By sending a Save the Date card you are not stating which section of the wedding celebrations you are inviting them to and if they presume it's their own problem...

I know that may be contentious but in our family/friends circle the invitation is what gives you the detail lol ?