Save the date problems

I think you normally only send STDs to day guests. Could you spread the date via word of mouth to your evening guests?

Alternatively, maybe you could change the wedding on the STDs to state that it's going to be an evening invitation?

I would assume a "save the date" card to mean I would be recieving a daytime invitation.

Our save the dates went to daytime guests only. A lot of our evening guests are friends/work colleagues who we told the date and said they would get an invite in due course.

Hi Princessgardner

i am havin 50 people in the day and loads on the night i sent save the date to the day time guests and save the evening to my evening guests tht way they save the date but are not disappointed when they later get the invite and it says they only invited in the evening

hope iv helped :-) xx

This. Plus, not sending to evening guests saves you some money. We didn't bother with Save The Dates at all and just told those that we really wanted there in person. Also, we were organising our wedding 2 years in advance so didn't want to be committed to people we might not be that close to by the time the day comes round.

WSS I would assume i was to save the whole day and not just the evening.

I definitely wouldn't send save the dates to evening guests. Or, if you do, make sure it specifies evening reception.

This was us too Bazza.

I am sending "save the night" to the night time guests

They are fab xx

We sent STDs to all our guests due to a) everyone constantly asking and b) peak summer holiday season and wanted people to be aware of our reception date in case they wanted to desperately attend versus go on holiday. Also via word of mouth we let them know the day was for family only. Everyone was fine with that.

I had been pondering on this but realised if I didn't send something to my evening invitees then there might be some confusion as to whether they were invited at all, particularly those in the same families if you see what I mean.

So we're going with a slightly reworded card which asks them to save the 'evening' rather than the whole date. That way at least they feel included and also it avoids disappointment when an evening invite arrives rather than a full day invite.

Tell you what, it was so much less complicated when I got married the first time. We decided to get married, we got married 11 weeks later. Everyone who needed to know got told fairly quickly. Invites were from a tear-off pad. Our gift list was a tiny spiral bound note book with one Argos item on each page and this got shared around the family and they tore out the page for the item they were purchasing. Every supplier was a family member, a friend of the family or a friend of a friend. We had a fantastic day! Those were the days ... (Ok, where's my zimmerframe?)

We sent STDs to a selection of 'evening' guests, but our evening starts at 4, and we sent them to those that would have to travel - granted some may be expecting a whole day invite - but we felt there was mucgh more than a party and disco on offer with the eveing invites that people wouldn't mind!

Nothing wrong with a "Save the Evening" type wording if you feel you want to, but if it helps, I've been to 28 weddings in the last 4 years (mostly day but some evening) and I've only received one Save the Date. Most I heard about through word of mouth, some I didn't know about until I received the invitation.

WSS!! I sent out STDs to all our guest due to these reasons too! Also our most of our guests know that its family only for the day!

I like this idea

I'm doing this...