Seating Plan

Tell them to suck it up and act like grown ups instead of spoiling your big day?

Seat them so that your dad and his mum are on one side of you and your H2B and his dad and your mum are on the other side (this is the 'proper' way to do it anyway) and scatter their new partners (if any) around the other tables? Or you could put the partners further out but on the same side as their current partner on the top table (going to need a big one for that).

If they can't promise to behave themselves, scatter them all around the other tables and just have bridesmaids and best man & ushers on the top table?

The nuclear option is not to have a top table at all, but that seems a bit harsh on you and H2B.

Thank you for your reply bellaZ!

Thank you for your suggestion, we may have to do that. Me and h2b did think about having a table by ourselves, but we didn't really like the idea of being seperated from everybody.

I suppose we cannot please everybody xx

Our table doesn't contain any parents. OH parents were very negative when we told them we were getting married (long story grrrr) my mum died 20 years ago and my dad is remarried so if I put them both On top table my sister would kick up a stink! So easiest solution so no,arguments, was no parents on top table just us, best men, and bridesmaids

YES these are all adults!!!! Lol. Families!!!!!

That is our solution to keep everyone happy, and there is still 7 of us on top table ???

x

That sounds like a really good option for us Clairebo! Thank you. That would make 8 at our top table.

Families eh!! Makes things so difficult when they don't get on! I just want the day to go smoothly (as does everyone). Future MIL keeps telling me not to stress as its my day, but I'd also like everyone else to enjoy it with us xxx

I'm already worried about my seating plan and we haven't even sent out the invites yet!

My parents are sperated and both have new partners but my OH's parents are still together. My mum wanted to sit with her new partner but that means allwoing my dad and his partner too which would make our top table incredibly lop sided! My mum went on about adding bridesmaids to one side but I don't think that would look right! I told her the other day she's just going to have to suck it up and sit with my dad or OHs dad for a couple of hours!! But I'm still worried about where I sit their partners, my step-dad shouldn't be too hard as both my step-brothers will be invited with their families but I don't know any of my step-mum's family! I think I might just have to sit her with my grandma and hope for the best!

I think sitting yours and your OH's parents with each other (ie your mum his dad) would work if needs be? But if not and they kick up a fuss as to not being on the top table then just tell them you can't trust them to behave in front of everyone!!

Good Luck! x

My OH's mum is widowed, my parents are divorced - mum has remarried dad has no partner.

My plan is that i will sit my mum, step dad and dad on my side of the top table and then on my OH's he will have his mum, brother and best man. i haven't told my dad about my step dad sitting with us yet, honestly i'm a bit worried about how he will kick off but i have made things clear since i got engaged that my wedding will be how i want it. Any aggro from anyone i would be more than happy for them not to be part of my day.

Sorry this probably hasn't helped you at all haha. If its easier not to add parents at all to the top table. How about just you, your H2b, MOH and BM.

xx

Its easy for me to spout as I'm having a small wedding, no top table and no table plan.

In your lovely shoes I'd make the top table you two and your attendants - no one else.

I agree with others, have top table with no parents, maybe add BM and BM other halves instead of parents - makes numbers up for the top tables and is nice for BM's & BM to sit with their partners. Then let each parent host their own table for respective family/family friends. Could that work?

families are tricky!! Good luck

We at having a small top table of 4 - just me, h2b, BM and MOH (it makes it easy for us that both BM and MOH are single).

my mum and dad are divorced, dad is remarried, mum has no partner.

our plan is for my mum to host her own 'family table', my dad and stepmum to host their own 'family table' and h2b's parents to host their own 'family table'. Everyone seems happy with this idea, even FMiL, who initially seemed upset that we weren't having a traditional top table but immediately changed her mind as she liked the idea of hosting her own table

This page has lots of suggested layouts for the top table.