secret wedding

There are a few people on here who have done that. Either for similar reasons to yourself or just because they wanted to.

I think the important thing is to make sure that's definitely what you want first.

Those that have done it said it was a brilliant decision so if you're sure it's what you want I don't think you'll regret it.

Just to give a balance of opinions I know a couple who did this and they now regret not doing it the conventional way, so I agree with Kharv that you should make sure it is what you truly want. If it is, then go for it, there's something quite romantic about eloping.

This was something we seriously considered for a while. For us, the key consideration was family and friends feeling hurt that we didn't want to share our day with them. It was never about that - more that we loved the idea of disappearing off together and sharing it with just each other, but in the end we decided against it.

I'm glad we didn't in the end, although part of me wishes we could have had both. However, if the family/friends issue isn't something you'll have, or are worried about, then I would go for it!

It looking more likely that we will do it. We are looking to actally have the service on a remote beach in Australia and then spend a couple of months there or maybe Bali or somewhere> like i said money is no object and we would love to have the best day possible

Yes, we did. Report is in my sig.

I don't regret for one moment doing it how we did, and every time I think back to it and remember the day, I smile since it was so personal and intimate. Just what we wanted. Our families knew what we were doing, and once we explained our reasons, we had their love and blessings.

Have a read of my report (there's a link to a photo montage in there as well on page 2 I think) and see what you think.

xx BBB

When you have the situation we do there no regrets about who to invite

If thats what you want go for it, the only input I would suggest is that my sister did this and it caused a lot of upset in the family.

However that may not be an issue for you so could be irrelevant.

I want two weddings. I want to be married in Britain with all family and friends, and then get married on holiday in Germany as I'm planning to move their later in life.

Do what makes you happy. There's no sense in sacraficing your own happiness to make everyone else happy.

I think you should do whatever you want, Its not for everybody, but if this is for YOU then do it!

x

Sounds amazing! Do it x

Difficult call. You know the circumstances best. If it feels right for the right reasons and you can deal with any family repercussions, then you have the answer. Nobody on here has the best answer for you.....only you know that......

Best wishes in whatever you decide

Peter

The Hitched mantra is "your day, your way" so go for it. I knew someone who eloped to Fiji, their pics were amazing and she got carried by traditionally dressed Fijian's to the service on a beach. In a throne thing. What a memory!