self harming

Hello Angel, I'm here. Just logged on and saw your post.

Well done for abstaining from hurting yourself for 3 months. That's a mighty achievement.

Do you think you'll get through the night ok? What has triggered your bad day?

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Thanks peaches....i think its just because the weather has been so lovely and i would so much love to spend this summer as a family, (I have 15month old twins and me & H have seperated) I saw H and his new partner today and its kind of thrown me a bit. I have had a few drinks so please feel free to ignore....

I'm here too.

WPeachesS re being able to stop yourself over the last few months, can't have been easy.

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I'm also here. You don't have to do it, you know. You can just talk it out if you prefer. Tell me about your children- twins?

That can't be easy for anyone Angel, seeing your husband with someone else. Stay strong girlie .. you and your twins need to be in good health for each other.

Do you think you'll be able to sleep if you go to bed now?

What have you got planned for tomorrow with the children? Do you have a girls or boys or both?

You do know that the summer to come can be lovely for you and your little ones don't you? ?

Thanks guys, it hasn't been easy, I won't lie but I have been going to bed by 8pm so that I don't sit up alone. Now the nights are getting lighter it may be tougher.

I have twin boys, they go to bed at 7pm, and I'm usually shattered by then. By the time I put them to bed I have trained myself to have a bath and snuggle up in bed with a good book (usually by 8/8:30pm ) Now I don't quite know what to do with myself, I suppose I'm just feeling a bit lonely.

Am I going to be a hermit and the grand old age of 27? ?

Recovering (abstaining?) Si'er here too, Feel free to message me if you want to chat!

Have you tried the usual distractions? What normally (apart from that) makes you feel better?

D'you know what, you needn't be a hermit, but nor do you need to surround yourself woth people to make yourself worthwhile- you are worthwhile without others.

I bet, though, that if you are feeling like you want to meet new people, there are loads of Hitchers in your area just ready and willing with cake and coffee! I know I would be. Where are you in the world?

No sweetie, you're not going to be a hermit at 27.

You're a Mum to twins, 15 month old at that. No wonder you're feeling tired - I'd be in bed 5mins after the children I think.

Seeing your ex with a new partner will have hurt you, you need to be good to yourself until time heels things a bit more. What you're feeling is shitty but it's not your fault. Don't hurt yourself further ?

Do you have any family support around you?

I am in Bedfordshire, I text my friend earlier and she has just arrived with an over night bag....so I am off for a chat with her now, thanks to all who replied, I appreciate it. Tomorrow is another day ?

Angel, I've just come back after my computer crashed .. wanted to make sure you're ok. Glad you've got a friend to stay over. Enjoy the company. Take care ?

Now don't you two sit up all night and wreck the place!

You're gonna be alright madam.... Although if there's any cake about... I'd still get it out. ?

Take care. Be Good....

Hello my lovely ? well done for going three months that's a huge achievement, especially as things have been so tough for you for the last few months. You should be very proud of yourself your doing a grand job looking after you and the boys on your own, you too young to be a hermit and far too outgoing for that matter!!

Hope you had a good night last night with your friend, and i'm usually around at that time of night on here lurking or on FB so if ever you need to chat... ?

Take care.xx

? angel i had no idea you were struggling with this. you've had SUCH a hard year my love, it's no wonder your 'comfort zone' is calling. if you ever start feeling like this, post post and post some more - on here or on BT - there will always be someone around to talk xx

I don't know you but i'm also an recovering self harmer and i still sometimes want to. If you want to talk there's plenty of lovely people on here who i'm sure will talk to you! i would gladly sit and talk to you, i'm often around quite late on here.

Hope you're feeling better today xx