Sending invitation- etiquette

Hi

I sent them to everyone, parents and bridesmaids. From experience what ever you put people will still try and add people on you didn't invite, uninvite people etc. My advice would be put the exact names of who is invited. If you want people's kids and partners find out names and put them on, don't assume people will know their children or partners are/aren't invited. We aren't having children and a very limited amount of people are allowed plus ones. So for our invites those who had kids we just didn't put the kids names on and people who had husbands/ wives/ fiancé we found out their names and put them on. We are having a civil ceremony so can't comment on a priest attending.

Good Luck, we had so many problems, I hope you don't have any.

Thats my worry. I have a friend who has just been invited to a wedding, and she is highly offended that it didnt say plus guest, and she will be the only one not allowed to take anyone. I think people do need to be a bit ruthless when it comes to who they invite, its your day and you're paying for everyone, but then again you dont want people to feel awkward standing around on their own.

I guess I like your idea for putting kids names on the invites. I think the most children one family has is 3 so it shouldnt cause too many problems writing their names on the invites.

My Fiance says we should just write (for example) "Sue, Bob and family". I dont think that is prescriptive enough and could cause confusion.

Thanks for the advice, hopefully by Monday they will be done x

I wrote on the names of exactly who was invited. I also made it clear, politely, that it was an adults only occassion (i.e - no kids)

Before we sent the invites, I did a bit of a rekky - there are two or three close friends who have recently started seeing people - I did not want to write 'plus guest' so I phoned round and got the names. To me it is just a bit more polite. (Then I facebook stalked them, obv, to see what they looked like!)

I also checked in with the parentals on both sides to make sure we hadn't excluded anyone.

BUT - Im lucky because my venue doesnt charge by the head - they have a total food and drink spend, so you can invite who you like and if you go over your food and drink spend, you can choose cheaper wine/menu choices etc to balance out the extra numbers.

I sent them to all birdal party and put nice names. Eg for my patents I put "to my amazing mummy and daddy" . I'm a sap when it comes to my parents.

With plus ones made sure I had names apart from one friend who I allowed to bring a random and said he could choose nearer thr time so put "chris plus guest"