*Sens topic* Friend overdosed what can i do?

Awe hunnie. I would be tempted to speak with her boyfriend I know that's talking behind her back but it's doing so to be kind perhaps just in a heads up concerned sort of way that he can act on it himself but he needs to know the situation and he can support her when you can't.

Other than that be there with a hug and look after her back.

psychological disorders are horrible when somebody has a physical problem people understand but psychological problems are just far to ignored.

It's not the right time for her to come to your hen do. She might be totally overwhelmed and you might have a bit of a dramatic scene on your hands if she can't cope, which would stress her and you as well as the other hens out.

Can you suggest that she relaxes this weekend and you go on a special spa weekend together or have a 2nd hen do? She wouldn't be able to come if she had the flu. It's no different to that. She's not well so just needs to chill for a while. No shame in that!

It's sad that she isn't willing to speak to her OH about her illness. She has nothing to be ashamed off. Surely he knows she's taken an overdose? Is she seeing a therapist? Have you asked her if she's told her therapist that her OH doesn't know about the faces and voices? She's probably scared he'll leave but she needs to face that fear. It's not fair on him if he's kept in the dark and can't support her effectively because she doesn't trust him.

is it a good relationship? It's a bit worrying that she doesn't want to talk to him.... Is there something going on she hasnt told you?

I do regularly talk to her boyfriend about what is going on and how she feels, what might be helpful but not in complete detail as i dont want to betray her trust. I'm worried she will find this weekend too much too. It will be a full day event with about 15 people and drinking etc later on in the evening. I'm frightened she will disappear off on her own or something.

He knows about the overdose, that she has BP and he is in touch with her parents via email/phone so he is doing his best but she thinks she will scare him off. it's very frightening, i'm worried every morning when i get up that she wont be here anymore.

Couldn't agree more.

I don't have much advice to give as I've never been in that situation before but I think you need to be there for your friend but at the same time give her a bit of space to get her head together or just to rest from her ordeal.

I wonder whether you could speak to her GP about your concern for her? If, as you say, she hasn't been with her other half a very long time he might not be fully aware of the situation and so someone who does know needs to take the reigns so to speak.

I hope she gets the help she needs.

You must feel so helpless. That's such a tough situation to be in. I know someone who volunteers for the Samaritans and he mentioned before that sometimes they phone people where friends/family are worried about them. More info here http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/what-speak-us-about/if-you%E2%80%99re-worried-about-someone-else/what-should-i-do-if-I They are obviously highly trained to help people at risk such as your friend.

I agree that she might find the weekend too much to cope but equally it might enable her to park her issues for a short while and just have some fun. You obviously know her better as to whether she has been able to do that in the past. When you have only been dating someone 6 months it is a lot to put everything on their doorstep so I would be reluctant to suggest speaking further to her bf about everything. If she thinks you will simply pass on things to him she might be reluctant to talk to you which would be a huge loss to her.

Maybe try repeating to her that you value her in your life and you would be devastated if she wasn't. People generally don't tend to commit suicide because of one thing that has happened but because they don't see that things will be different in the future. Is she worried therefore that as the new medication isn't working properly she will never lead a normal life which may spiral into her bf will leave and she will be all alone kind of thoughts? Maybe also remind her that whatever happens you will always be there for her. Maybe she is worried that as everyone gets married and moves on with their lives she will be left behind? It may seem like what you are saying isn't helping but just keep repeating it. Some of it may stick.

Big hug too as you must be stressing about it.

Hello everyone, thank you for your advice and for listening to me. My hen do was yesterday, it seemed to be ok for her. Noone else knew about it apart from my sister so there was someone else to keep an eye out. I have decided not to get in involved or say anything about her mental health to her boyfriend apart from offer him advice and a listening ear if he needs it. He has my number and knows he can call me.

Cinnamon - i will ring the Samaritans tomorrow, thank you.

Good stuff!