sensitive- its been 10 years today

quote:Originally posted by cariad
since my dad died

why doesnt it get any better , i have come into work to take my mind off things but i feel like having a good cry ?


i am so needy arent i ?


my sis is the same as me and my mum and gary is as good as useless when i am upset like this but he is trying , he even offered not to go to fotie tonight to keep me company but i think he will get on my nerves if he was in the house

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Have a very inadequate ? and it doesn't make you needy at all ?

What's wrong with having a good cry if that's what you need? It might help?

quote:Originally posted by KJX
What's wrong with having a good cry if that's what you need? It might help?

id="quote">WKJXS. ? for you today cariad. ?

You're not needy at all - just feeling sad, with perfectly good reason. ?

Aww Cariad ???

If you need to cry then cry, It does usually help ?

I still cry daily for my Nan who died nearly 2 years ago, someone I work with pointed out that I should be past that stage by now ☹️!]

You are not needy either?

Edited as I cannot spell this morning [:I]

There's nothing wrong with having a good cry if that's what you want to do.

I always make sure I light a candle for my Dad on the anniversary of the day he died. I invariably end up having a good cry too, but it would feel wrong if I didn't. I lost my Dad 7 years ago. ?

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Cariad, it was the 10 years of my dad this year too back in Feb.

Of course it will hurt, I think you need to let it out and have a good cry, I certainly did I felt awful for about 2 weeks.

? for you....I don't have any words of comfort I am sorry, but don't feel bad you are still grieving. I have learnt this is natural.

Not needy at all ?

Nothing wrong with a good cry ?

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Cariad - this year it will be 30 years since my daddy died ? i think about him every day, talk about him most days and still get upset that he didn't see me grow up, didn't meet any of his grandchildren and didn't get to grow old with my mum ?

I buy my mum flowers when it is dads birthday, their wedding anniversary and the anniversary of his death.

Reckon i will always miss him and wish he was here ?

? to you and swampy,
i still get upset about my nanna and she passed away 10 years ago this year,
every one says i am silly, maybe i am but i miss her every day,
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This year i am going to buy a rose for the garden for my nanna but it has to be yellow and i will think if her every day i see it.

How very strange - on the way to work I was thinking about my dad. He died 16 years ago now so he's now been dead for the same period in my life that he was alive and it feels so, so wrong. I have found that it has got easier but the silly little things, as well as the huge moments in your life, that can really get to you. If you want to cry then the best thing is to cry, you have to deal with the grief and bottling it up will always make it worse.

I tend to block out moments of importance (the day he died, his birthday) because I do find it hard to deal with.

Group ? for everyone that's lost someone special.

??? for Cariad and everyone else

I still cry over my mums death 28 years ago, you're not needy, you're normal.

?for you.

Cry if you need to ?

Not needy at all?

Well I still cry sometimes about my grannie, and she died nearly 20 years ago, so I don't think you're being needy at all.

? have a good sob if it helps a little bit.

No that's not needy my lovely, it's entirely understandable. My Mum still cries for her Dad once in a while and he's been dead for 20 years. It's still a loss and whilst time does heal, it can't bring that person back so there will always be moments when you feel upset.

You have a good cry if you want to, it's the most natural thing in the world.??

Cariad you are not needy. You are a person who clearly cared for your father very much. It's 14 years since my dad died and I miss him every day. It's worse at the moment because I get married in 2 months and he should be here to share the day.

I bore people talking about him to much, but he was my dad and I love him.

Have a very inadequate?

Thanks girls

if i didnt have appointments in i would go home i am feeling worse and worse as the day goes on ?

And i forgot to give the rest of you hugs too ?

I really feel for you. ?

I get really sad when i think of all the things my dad has missed out on... he was only 47 when he died and had been ill for 4+ years before... so many of my early memories are of him being ill ?

I feel so sad for my mum - she never met anyone else - and so she is getting old alone ?

gah - welling up here now [:I] have a cry for me too cariad - i will when i have collected victoria from nursery [:I]

? Not needy at all Cariad ?

quote:Originally posted by swampytiggaa
i get really sad when i think of all the things my dad has missed out on... he was only 47 when he died and had been ill for 4+ years before... so many of my early memories are of him being ill ?

I feel so sad for my mum - she never met anyone else - and so she is getting old alone ?

gah - welling up here now [:I] have a cry for me too cariad - i will when i have collected victoria from nursery [:I]

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my dad was 8 months from diagnosis to death , he was 50 and i feel the same, i feel robbed , tom was born 3 weeks after his funeral and i wish he could have been around to see him , and josh being 7 and my dad being like a dad to him , i wish he was here to help me with Josh he wouldnt take any of this nonsense he would have given him a good hiding by now [not really but the threat would have been enough]?


sorry i am so long coming back and fore i am trying to keep myself busy and when i do have a cry tonight i will cry for you too Swampy ?

? Have a good cry, it might make you feel better. You're not being needy at all.

Cariad, you're not being needy in the slightest. It will be the 1 year anniversary of my dad's death on the 30th of this month and I am dreading it.

I have come to the conclusion that I don't think it is something I will ever really get over, I think it is just something I will learn to live with and from reading the replies to your thread, it sounds as though most people feel the same way.

I think about my dad every day and I still cry at the oddest times and I am still very, very angry at the cancer for taking him away from us.

You can't help how you feel and if having a good cry makes you feel better then go for it.

Annabel.

Annabel its horrible isnt it ?

? cariad.

My dad died 17 years ago and I find it unbelievable to think he's been gone that long, he has missed so much of my life.

Some days are just so difficult, I'm welling up just thinking about you ?.

Take care of yourself and a ? for everyone else going through this too.

Not needy in the slightest ?

I think Annabel has got it right. You'll never get over it but you learn to live with it most of the time.

? to all of you who have lost someone close

Cariad ? ?

Have a good old cry ?

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Cariad ? ?

Have a good old cry ?

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i can get to your toaster now and get it posted as my bathroom is now in my bathroom and not in front of the box in the dining room

will do it next week

? to Cariad. TBH I still cry about my dad sometimes, and it's been 28 years. And even today I was in Woollies of all places and welled up because it reminded me of my mum. It's shit sometimes, isn't it?