I have been a regular hitcher on and off but wishing to go anon for the time being. I know this forum is such a lovely place and have helped a lot of people over the time so now can I please can I ask for your advice?
Basically after 12 years together my husband left our home 3 weeks ago to live with his parents. We have a few problems that have been trying to work through but sadly we can’t seem to resolve these. He moved out to give us both some space. We both love each other dearly, we have tried counselling but to no avail.
Out of the time we have been together we have been married for 2 of those years and living together for 9 years. The current house we have was bought in 2004. We do not have children.
He’s coming over tomorrow to talk things over and I feel I need to be prepared for the worst. The problem we have is one that we can’t seem to resolve so I’m fearing that we will have to call it day.
So, please can you advise me on what happens next please? I am clueless, very confused and don’t know what rights I have or how to handle things really.
The mortgage and house deeds are in both names so does that mean I have an equal right to stay in the house until it is sold or he pays me my share?
If he decides he wants to keep the house would the amount I get be what it is valued at less what is outstanding, i.e. if it has increased in value I would get a share of the equity?
He’s always been the majority breadwinner and I couldn’t afford to get a place of my own...could I ask for financial assistance from him to help get myself somewhere to live?
Is there anything else I should know or be aware of please?
I’m sorry to ask all these questions but I really have no idea how things work when it comes to separating and all the information on the internet is so confusing.
