Shocked at family decline !!!!!

Tell him to jump up his own arse. You've done nothing wrong.

Thats pants!!

As if he had the nerve to be so rude! I wouldnt worry yourself Little Miss sounds like theyre unimportant family members anyway xx

It shocks me that people automatically think they have a right to come to a wedding. Its up to you who you invite to your wedding and people (family or not) should feel pleased that you want to spend any of your day with them. We have had a lot of people assume that they are coming to ours telling us that they will need to dress up warm (as it's in December), I'm too much of a wimp to tell them that they really won't need to unless their heating is playing up at home!!!

Im a bit stubbon so proababy wouldnt even acknowledge them with a response but if you want to I would very politely explain the restriction due to budget and the fact that the invites have just gone out and that you are very sorry they feel that way. I truely believe that weddings bring out the worst in people but you will have people there that are pleased to be there who will make you forget all about the others.

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I know your pain (or annoyance). My mum and dad split when I was 9 and I found out that he was cheating on mum for 7 years. Only found that out a year ago so we're not on the best terms. I invited him and my aunties to my 21st birthday party and they were really rude to my fiance and mum's side of the family.

I've decided that I'm not inviting them to the wedding unless they make an effort between now and Christmas. If they make an effort between now and, say, a month then invite them to the evening, and make it clear that that's the case.

It's your wedding so do what you want, of course your fella gets a say but he probably won't even notice. It'll play on your mind all day so make sure you're happy with your decision x

Absolutely discusting!

If you feel like replying I would reply in a way to make the jumped up twerp eat humble pie. Something along the lines of: dear arrogant counsin, I am sorry that you have taken the invitation to our wedding in such a way. However my fianc has been made redundant so we are working to a strict budget. There are many people who we would love to come to the whole day, of which you are one, but due to financial constraints we are unable to invite them. We have been trying to work out a way of being able to invite everyone that we want to invite hence all the invitations only just being sent out. Thank you however for your kind wishes for the day.

If you don't feel like replying, don't loose sleep over it. Being invited to a wedding is a privilege not a right.

I would try to not let it bother you as much as possible if you can, weddings tend to bring out the worst in some people. We've had people almost stamping feet because they don't like our plans and we found a reasonable compromise. I would just either ignore them or thank them for their well wishes but say due to financial restrictions, they did recieve the correct invite. If they choose not to come it is their loss, and you will be busy having fun on the day and hopefully won't mind all that much.

Jeez! With an attitude like that I'd thank your lucky stars he isn't coming. What a t0sser!!

Lol, WSS thats brill xxx

This.

Weddings certainly bring out the best in folks.

I had family members moan they weren't invited to mine. My own parents weren't invited, so wasn't going to invite cousins i rarely speak to ?

I'd be shocked by that too but I'd write a really polite email back explaining the circumstances - I always find being polite to someone who has been rude winds them up even more! Then I'd forget all about the w@nk$r and be glad someone like that isn't coming.

I am amazed at the way some people react honestly! No one has a right to be invited to a wedding/party! So to act like they should is really bad taste. Tell them to sling their hook and put their dummy back in!

Agree with all that has been said above. Such a shame we can't choose our family! You will have a great day regardless.

I agree with everyone else really. My auntie got re-married (a small wedding) and invited her nieces and nephews (who we never see) to the evening. So their parents (her brother) didnt come.

Weddings can bring out the worst in some people.

Tell him to sod off. Kn0bber.

I am in the same situation with my cousin. He wont come because its his step sons birthday! x

I would happily miss a cousins wedding for my stepsons birthday- especially if was young. I think that's totally fair.

Tell them to jog on. least it opens up some spaces for people you want there! x

Totally agree with everything thats been said, some cracking comments really made me giggle

I sent him a reply not rude and straight to the point so he can take that and swivel and miss out on whats going to be a great day ?

Tell him that he may be surprised to learn that the world doesn't revolve around him and his reaction was not only untrue but completely self-absorbed and unjustified. If he wants to be a *** about it, let him.