Short Bride

I would agree with your mum on strapless dresses in church being inappropriate but I don't like straplesses dresses anyhow being busty myself they don't suit me.

However I don't think a high neck would make you look taller & would be less flattering on your chest.

I think it would make you look shorter, not taller and i don't find it disrespectful at all.

I've got to be honest I always thought that a high neck would be unflattering on a bigger chest. Not really too sure how to approach the strapless dress / respectful in a church issue - I'm going to be having my hair down (which is pretty long) and was hoping to have a veil that covered my shoulders (I quite like the ones with the flowery / lace detail around the sides) so I'm hoping having my actual skin covered by hair / veil may make it a bit more conservative!

I think the problem is that I always pictured myself in a strapless dress so am a bit reluctant to try others on. Think it may be worth trying though as I may shock myself and love it and keep Mum happy by atleast trying it!

In a nutshell - no & no

lots of brides get married in church in a strapless dress - personally I don't think it is disrespectful to wear a strapless dress, but if it is something you are worried about would you consider wearing some sort of bolero for the ceremony that you could then remove later on?

I don't think straps will make you look particularly taller. my sister is 5"1, and when we went looking for BM dresses she was adament that she wanted to look taller, but honestly the style of the dress was more what made it than if it has straps or not (eg, she tried on a couple of 50's style prom dresses that made look like a little girl) - but you could always try different styles when you go dress shopping and see what you prefare.

Ultimately it is your decision what you feel comfortable and beautiful in, but honestly - you're 5"2, there is only so much taller you can look!

ETA - I also agree with PP, I have a big bust and always think of high neck as a no no, the only way I would wear a dress with straps would be a deep V... maybe not so appropriate for church!

I thought it would make me look shorter too (I think the word I used to Mum was frumpy!)

I'm the same height and own nothing that covers my chest(other than jumpers) as i just look tiny.

A bolero is a good idea - it's more my Mum that is worried about it than me (I just like keeping her happy) I'm definitely going to try some on as it won't hurt, and I may even like them! I just think I'm more concerned about being 'swamped' by the dress but won't know until I try I suppose - haha I will just have to accept my 5"2-ness ?

Firstly, wow! That is a gorgeous dress!

If it helps, I'm 5ft, have D cup boobs and tried on several styles. All the ones with the chest covered looked to old for me.

Clearly you don't want to be showing the congregation all of your assets, but I don't think a strapless dress, especially the style you've mentioned would be that bad. I've seen some with straps that are much lower cut!

If you are really worried though, why not consider a lace bolero, just for the ceremony? :-)

I don't think it is disrespectful, and have been to a few church weddings where the bride wore strapless and no-one thought anything of it!

I'm not that well informed on how it all works, but if you are really worried could you contact the church secretary, or even the minister/vicar/priest and ask if they have any issue with it? My guess is they would say it is fine but at least then you would know for sure and not have to worry x

The short thing sounds like a ploy to make you cover up in church.

I'm a regular church goer and don't see anything wrong with it. I didn't wear a strapless dress on the day (i don't think they suit me) but nothing could have stopped me if i had wanted one.

I'm pretty sure God's seen it all before anyway ;-)

You could have a lace shrug/bolero type thing if you worried for the chrome and take it off after. Also would give you 2 looks for the day and night

Agree with what everyone's said about getting a shrug or a bolero if you're worried about the church thing. Perhaps ask the vicar; at my sister's wedding the vicar insisted everyone's shoulders were covered - including the brides! So she wore a shrug to cover them up.

As for the high neck to make you look taller I would say that's your mum trying to make you cover up for the church thing! I'm a 34GG and I would dream of wearing a top that was high necked! They make my bust look ENORMOUS! And not in a good way. The only thing I wear that is high necked is a rugby shirt and that's because I don't have much of a choice in that!

I think you've got the nail on the head - I think she just wants me to cover up! I think I'm just going to have to put my foot down if worst comes to worst (without sounding bridezilla...) hahaha I'll try the God's seen it all before line on her - no arguing with that!!!

I think so too! I'll have to try and post a photo (if I can work out how!!) I think a bolero may be a good compromise...!

I don't think it'll be an issue to be honest - especially as I've seen several other people get married there in strapless dresses! I think it may be a case of her being worried my 'assets' will be too much on show! I'll try and duct tape them down at the appointment haha!

This is what I'm worried about!! I'm a 36GG so have exactly the same concern!!!

I find a sweethert neckline is the most flattering without my assets boucing around all over the place! Also a lace-up back, make sure the puppies are in there good and proepr! ?

I can't help much re church, but I'm 5ft 2 and have a 34E chest, take a look at my photos (report linked in my signature) and tell me if that would be disrespectful or shows too much off? I personally don't think so! I tried a dress with straps/sleeve type things that covered up more and my goodness, my chest was all you could see!

Right, terrible quality pic but here's what I mean:

Huge chest (rejected dress):

My dress:

Oh you looked so beautiful in your chosen dress - i totally agree I think the lace covering draws so much more attention to your chest! Your strapless one is classy and elegant - doesn't look at all inappropriate!! Thanks for this - you've made me feel so much better!

I think the dress you have picked is lovely. I am under 5ft 1 and have 32E boobs - I would say covered high neck makes your chest look even bigger. I thibnk the suggestion of a bolero is a good one or even detachable straps - but I have had many friends who have had chuch weddings in strapless dresses. What time of year is it - even a shrug or faux fure stole could work.

Best of luck.

Thank you it's 1st August so will (hopefully) be too warm for a faux fur shrug! I think I'm going to have to stick to my guns on this one lol!

Glad that helped! good luck finding the one

Mrslh2b we are date twins! Yeay! I do like a twinnie!

I don't think its not respectful its not like your flashing them!

If it helps I'm having a strapless dress and my dad is a Baptist minister were getting married in his church and he never tells brides what they can and can't wear!

Hello, a fellow shortie here! I'm about 4"11 - I have got a lace covering/sleeves on my dress........but my dress is a 50's tea length style dress, so finishes just below my knees. I did try lots of full length dresses on, all of which were strapless as I felt it made my body look 'longer' and less 'bulky' in the boobage (definitely a word) area.

x

Yayyy! I'm so glad I've found a date twin! Are you getting the usual "ooo a Monday wedding.." comments too?

Haha "boobage" - agreed - definitely a word!! Yeah I thought the same - I honeslty think having my chest covered will make me look frumpy. I'll have to pop back after my appointment and let you all know how it goes!

Ah, is yours 2016? Mine is this year - sorry!