Should grooms definitely not be involved in bridesmaid dress shopping?

I showed my OH a picture of a potential bridesmaids dress and he went "oh good, it's a dress"(!) ?

I think it really depends on the groom.

I won't be taking my OH to pick the dresses but we decided on the colours together

I was so worried when we first got engaged that everyone would think I'd take over and not involve him at all, but to me it's his day too not just mine so everything I have booked/picked has been done with his approval, luckily for me he's very easy going and the only condition he gave me was no pink, meany! lol

We've talked about colours but it's either pink green or blue. Just don't want to pick something he'll hate. You're probably right about just sending a picture.

Definitely know what you mean about it not being just my wedding. Try to make all the decisions together. Maybe I'm too clingy though- found it really hard picking my dress without him

I showed him a picture because it affected the colours we'd have to have and wanted to check he liked them

Well as a minimum he needs to be consulted on the colour, if you plan to make him and his groomsmen wear something that fits in with it! Similarly, he might need to see a picture of the final dress so he has an idea of how formal it is, in order to have the same level of formality with the suits.

This is a good point.

My OH isn't one of those men who is preened to perfection but he has specific ideas about how he wants things to look including tie colour etc.

I think when I found the BM dresses I liked I showed him and he liked the colour. I don't think I could have chosen without his input.

If I were you I wouldn't take OH with me, I would just call him and say 'what do you think about XXXX colour? Although my OH wants an opinion he would be bored stiff being traipsed around the shops.

I showed mine a pic of some bm dresses I'd seen. I wanted his opinion too...turn out he was more enthusiastic about them than me and insisted I buy them. Although, that could have just been the price as they were £100 cheaper (each!!) than some others I'd seen...

I brought mine along - which he wanted to do. He was very helpful and he felt able to be honest with my sisters about which dresses he thought suited them best. The lady in the shop did seem a bit thrown by having him there but it didn't bother us one bit. He hasn't a clue about my dress though.

I dont see why you cant but most blokes wouldn't enjoy it (just watch any 'dont tell the bride' the unanimous thing is they all hate bridesmaids shopping)

I should add most of our research had been done beforehand so colour and material had been decided, and he had liked the pics I showed him - the decision was which long purple chiffon dress to get, and each of my girls is wearing a different one.

Yeah my OH has seen a picture of the BM dresses and the swatch. I don't see any reason why they shouldn't have a look/say if they want to. Obviously B2Bs final decision though!

I don't see why it would be an issue, involving the groom in bridesmaid dress shopping... I'm surprised you haven't already discussed colours with your OH though.

My OH vetoed pink from the get go, which was a shame because being a bit of a tomboy I actually always wanted a bit of a princess dusky pink wedding.

I sneakily still got my BM to try on some pink dresses, more because I was dreaming of my pink wedding still, not that I would go against his wishes.

I showed him a picture of one of them, to which he replied 'that's not pink.' ......It was pink. Apparently the pink dress I was showing him was a cream colour.....it was pink.

BUT it meant I could have my pink (cream?!) colour!

He may not have cared about the style but if I hadn't have included him in choosing the dresses I wouldn't have ended up with my pink colour.

**In a plot twist I actually have silver BM dresses now but I am getting my pink/cream into the flowers I hope

What's wrong with pink! Good sneaky work with the pinks and the creams MrsBeckiW.

We have discussed colours a lot. We are just both pretty indecisive. I always really wanted green, but then his brother got married and had green so I didn't want to offend. So I thought we'd have blue instead, or maybe dusky pink (he says he doesn't mid about pink- how lucky am I!!). Then when I spoke to his sister in law about it in passing she was like go for it about green, so then green came back on the menu. But after I spent time looking at the nice dusky pink colours I wasn't sure I wanted green after all. How ridiculous am I!

I've also shown him millions of pictures of maybe dresses. I know he's a man so he probably won't care massively either way, it just feels bad making the final call without him. Also I'm obssessed with shades, so liking green won't necessarily mean I like all greens- I'm judging him by that standard when I probably shouldn't because he isn't metal like me.

it does seem very much the exception to bring them along. Sending back pictures is probably the best way. Plus then he can make us all dinner while we're out shopping ...

I'm confused is it bad luck lol x

I saw BM dress shopping as a great way to spend some quality time with the girls. One lives quite far away so we don't see each other often. I wouldn't for a moment have thought of inviting OH along to gatecrash. But we had already consulted on colours.

Hi,

My daughters both consulted their grooms to decide on colour and showed them the dresses on the bridesmaids in the shop before ordering them

Lynne

www.weddingfascinator.co.uk