Should i feel guilty

You definitely shouldn't feel guilty, he should be the one feeling guilty for not wanting to see you or his grand child - maybe its sadness you feel, not guilt.

Like you say, the people that you have invited are all close to you - that's worth more than someone you never see and doesn't want to be a part of your life

xx

Well, do you actually want to invite him? Or do you just feel like you should out of some sort of sense of duty? Cos it's your wedding, you don't NEED to invite anyone. And if you want to, what's stopping you?

I agree that he's the one who should feel guilty - having said that you will never have this time over again and you don't want to feel after the wedding that you should have had him there. Maybe if you still feel like this in a week or two then send him an invite, just as a guest obviously, not to have a role in the wedding xx

Can I be so bold as to ask why you havent seen him in 4 years? Was it an argument or did he just walk out of your life!

Does he even know that he is a grandad or youbare getting married if you havent seen him? X

My dad has no idea I'm even getting married or that my sister is now a wife and a mother. We last spoke to him about 3 years ago just before he walked out of my life for the second time (and the third time for my sisters) so I can't feel bad for him.

What happened with you and your dad to make you have these feelings of guilt that he should be there? Do you really want him there or would he cause a load of grief if he was?

He just stopped all contact and never replied to any of my emails or calls. I am still friends with his wife on facebook so she has defo seen all my pictures of my son and all the updates about the wedding. So i suppose if seeing all them he still doesnt want to be part of my life i shouldnt feel guilty at all. Yeah probably sadness more than guilt. I always thought if i got married i would have my mum and dad there, even though they arent together they are the ones that brought me into this world

He knows he has a grandson as have sent my cards and pictures but still heard nothing

Thanks everyone, feel a bit better now. tried to tell my partner how i feel but he doesnt understand as his mum and dad are still together and doesnt have this problem :-)