There's only one thing relating to the wedding that's causing me any stress and it's that my little sister hasn't spoken to my dad for nearly three years. She hasn't told him why, she just stopped talking to him one day (it's been easier for her to ignore him because he now lives in France). She once told me briefly why (she's decided he's selfish and that she didn't have a particularly happy childhood because my dad and stepmum -her mum-didn't have a happy marriage and she wishes we all lived closer to each other and that she knew all her relatives on both sides far better). But she's never mentioned it again.
Obviously my dad has been devastated by this (and I haven't told him why - I wanted to keep my sister's confidence and secondly, I don't think I should be the one to have to break his heart by telling him the detail). I know my grandma has tried to get my sister to build bridges and she's blown her off.
Without wanting to be selfish or all bridezilla about it, I feel sick, tearful and really anxious about the fact they're not likely to see each other until my wedding day. I know dad will be desperate to speak to her but that she's likely to ignore him. She's hidden from him whenever he's been over and he goes looking for her. She's ignored all his calls & emails. I just don't want my wedding day to be the day they have it out/she actually tells dad why she's not speaking to him.
So - do I speak to my sister and tell her she needs to at least have told dad what's bothering her before then, on the phone/via email/in person the week before the wedding? If I'm honest, I think she's overreacted (I work with kids whose lives are a whole lot more crappy than hers ever was and kinda believe you've just gotta get on with stuff rather than dwelling on something nobody can change) but I don't want her to fall out with me too. I don't think she realises it regularly makes dad, gran and me cry.
WWYD? Thanks
