SIL doesn't like her BM dress

I feel your pain! When I chose the dress and the colour my H2B's niece loved the dress, but wasn't keen on the colour. She came round to the idea deciding that as it was a dark orange (burnt orange), she could live with it. Well. I collected the dresses yesterday and they are a lot more orange than I thought!! H2B and I love the colour, it's very bright, but I know the niece is going to hate it and I don't know what to do. I haven't got the guts to tell her. I'm hoping that when she comes down for the fitting in August, she'll be so wrapped up in the excitement that she won't notice! I'm hoping people give you good advice so that I can get some ideas!

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It appears that your SIL accepts that it's hard for everyone to agree. 4 out of 5 liking it suggests they are nice dresses and I'm sure you wouldn't order something you thought she'd look daft in.

From her reaction so far, she seems like a nice person so I think you should just phone her and have a chat about it.

Do you know what she didn't like about it? I wouldn't mind too much if it was something like the colour or style wouldn't be to her personal taste. I would be more concerned if for some reason she felt she wouldn't be comfortable in it - like that it wasn't suitable for her shape. Bear in mind that clothes often look really different in real life and if the others who saw it in person liked it, then maybe when she actually sees it she'll change her mind

I'm not sure what she doesn't like, did ask but haven't heard back. Though I think it's just not the style she would have chosen, it doesn't strike me as particularly 'offensive', here is a link...

http://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_008010215547_-1

She's not a nasty person at all, I guess her reaction surprised me slightly but just because I probably wouldn't say anything unless I absolutely hated it, doesn't mean she should do the same. And to be fair, she sent the message after I said I think it's the one, not her fault I didn't read it till after ordering. She probably just thought "OK, I need to be honest"... Also feel 100% sure it is nicer in the flesh, but she's not here till September which is quite a way off if she's unsure (by then it'll be too late to return too).

I have to confess I don't like it either and I'd be really reluctant to wear it if I were a bridesmaid because I have large boobs and I'd really struggle to find a bra to wear with it.

BUT - I'm not your bridesmaid and she has responded in a very magnanimous way. She's obviously willing to wear it or she wouldn't have said what she did after finding out you'd bought it. I agree with Paula about giving her a call and having a chat with her about what she didn't like. If it is an underwear thing, like I would have, then perhaps you can work with her to find something and assuage her concerns.

That's a fair point - she doesn't have particularly big boobs (the BM that does loves it!), but I know it could be a similar thing that's concerning her. I'm going to suggest we Skype to talk it through, will be easier to talk that way than through Whatsapp!

Thanks everyone - AlmostMrsCWB do you know what type of accessories they are having, as maybe they could 'soften' the shade somehow? Does she not like the colour orange generally or worried how it'll look against her skintone etc?

It is a tricky one... Getting a dress that all of your bridesmaids adored was going to be hard and some if not all would have to compromise. I think it's a nice dress but l know its s personal thing. When l was bridesmaid we compromised as she wanted maxi length (l didn't) and l wanted strapless (she didn't). The colour was the brides choice pretty much.

To be honest what may have not helped is that bar the colour (navy), I'm really not bothered whether it's long, short, strapless etc. Just so happened that everyone liked that one (apart from my SIL!), may have made life harder in the end!?!