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MonaLisaBrideToBe
Beginner June 2012

Silly Question, but one I would like your opinions on!

MonaLisaBrideToBe, 9 September, 2011 at 21:06 Posted on Planning 0 10
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OK so although my life at the moment is full of my own wedding plans, in recent years I haven't been to any weddings, in fact thinking about it none since I was a little girl.

So yesterday we had an invite through from one of my OH's childhood friends who moved to Scotland when they were in their young teens. Now they have stayed in touch via email, facebook etc but have only seen each probably twice in ten years.

Well the wedding is in January and we have always intended to go so I booked it off work months ago and I sent the RSVP this morning.

Now the question, they have asked for money for their honeymoon, which I have no problem with at all. I would sooner them have something they want but what would be an acceptable sort of amount? Is there sort of a base line I should base it on.

Obviously you have all the usual wedding costs like outfits etc, but also the travelling 6 hours plus and the hotel accomodation, I'm not going to deduct this off the wedding present but just want to start budgeting as we have six weddings next year and our own.

I know what most of you will say, base it on what you can afford, I'm not planning on going in to debt, just curious what other people consider thats all!

TIA x

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Latest activity by Little Madam, 10 September, 2011 at 18:23
  • Twists
    Beginner September 2011
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    I presume you have an all day invite? In this situation, I would probably do £40 or £50.... But it does depend on individual circumstances.

    I would say base it on what you would have spent on a gift from a gift list - if you would have only chosen something for £20 or £30 then thats what you should give in cash.

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  • MonaLisaBrideToBe
    Beginner June 2012
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    Hi It is an all day invite we have got from 1330 onwards and has some recommendations for hotels in the area so they have been helpful!

    Thanks for you help!

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  • Soulmates
    Beginner August 2012
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    I was going to say £20-£30 aswell but thought I was being tight! As Twists said, think about what you would have spent on an actual gift as that is what the cash is replacing.

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  • Barefoot
    Beginner August 2012
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    £30-50 depending on how close the friend is. I'd give £30ish usually, but I gave £50 vouchers to my cousin last year (very close friend) and £50 value gift to my best mate when she got married.

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  • ebony_rose
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    For day invites, I usually spend around the £100 mark, and £50 for an evening invite.

    Although this does depend on how close I am to the person. In your case, i'd say about £50 would be about right.

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  • M
    Beginner October 2012
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    My half brother (who I only see a couple of times a year) got married a few weeks ago and I gave him £50, so I'd say £20-30 would be absolutely fine. My half-sister got the same for her wedding too.

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    I normally spend between £50 and £60 for a day invite and about £20 for an evening.

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  • filoftus
    Beginner November 2012
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    We had the same thing last year and we gave £30 and it was only a friend,

    I think its harder to give cash or vouchers as you dont want them to think your tight if that makes sense but i would say £30, and also your making the effort to travel all the way up there

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  • MonaLisaBrideToBe
    Beginner June 2012
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    Thank you so much guys, really appreciate your opinions!

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  • Little Madam
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    Assuming the invite is for 2 people and based on you not being overly close to them, i'd give £50 knowing the cost of what they are laying on it terms of food/drinks etc.

    If I was really struggling financially then I would go to £30 but certainly no less.

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    Assuming the invite is for 2 people and based on you not being overly close to them, i'd give £50 knowing the cost of what they are laying on it terms of food/drinks etc.

    If I was really struggling financially then I would go to £30 but certainly no less.

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