Silly question I know - but opinions/help please re invites

Hiya....I would put Mum and Dad as it would probably sound like its come from some one else and not yourself (when do u ever call them by there actual names) and with the uncle n cousins I would name them indivdually. When my parents got christmas cards when i was younger we used to always joke the person who had sent the card couldn't remember mine n my sisters names as the card would always say to alan karen and kids lol

We're putting the parents names on in full. I decided to do this for everyone as there are a few guests who we know would expect the formal presentation of their names, and we are happy to do that, so we just as well do it for everyone, as if it were me, it'd make me feel a bit more special ie 'Miss Debra Hughes is invited...' better than 'Deb is invited..'.

Also as the invite is coming from both of us it doesn't really make sense for it to be coming from OH and calling my parents Mum and Dad (they're not that pally), and vice versa etc. etc.

I'd always put the names of everyone the invite is intended for to save confusion. Julie, Tony and family - could include anyone from their family. sounds mad but a girl in work put and family on hers and someone brought a mother of one of the couple with them!

I used formal names on all the invites as they were from OH & myself. On the envelope you could write 'Smith Family' but on the actual invite, I wrote each persons name to make it clear who was/wasnt invited. You dont want people assuming they can invite other family members, +1, neighbours etc

I'd put the name of each person you want to invite otherwise there's the awkwardness of not knowing whether the children are invited/whether aunt peggy is part of 'family' etc.

To my parents, we wrote "Mum and Dad". To Boy's parents, we wrote "Mam and Dad". His grandmother was "Nannan". Invitations to aunts/uncles that are usually referred to using the prefix (those on my side) were addressed to "Uncle Mick" and so on. Our envelopes were addressed in the exact way the names appeared on the invitation. The first and only time people's surnames were used in our wedding was on the table plan (and only then, because we had three Helens).

I would avoid using the generic "and family" as it can be confusing enough trying to work out if/which children are invited, can people bring a guest and so on.