Slightly OT....Getting pregnant

Everyone handles pregnancy differently. But one bit of advice I can give you is just to wait until the wedding is over before trying. I know it would be exciting if you could announce your pregnancy on the day but in all honesty... the likelyhood is, if you are a few weeks pregnant, you will feel very tired and drained, you may end up having oily skin (i.e. possibly spots!) and generally just feel YUK! Enjoy your day... its not going to make one iota of a difference if you fall pregnant a few months after the wedding as opposed to already being pregnant on your wedding day...!

Thanks twists, that is my opinion too...but I`m finding it hard to explain to my OH who has got it in his head he needs to be a dad before he is 30!

I would not have liked to be pregnant on my wedding day,when pregnant i think everything smells funny and tend to be quite sick in the early days. I also feel really bloated. I would wait until afterwords and when the excitement of the wedding has died down you will have another huge excitement and happiness.It is one thing i miss a bit actually as i have had three and won't be having anymore but i think it must be brilliant to try for a baby after all the wedding buzz has gone and life gets a bit boring again.

Me and pregancy were not the best of friends. I spent most the early days with my head down a toilet or fighting to stay awake!

We all different tho! Some people 'glow' during pregnacy and say they have never felt better!

I know someone that was bout 12-16 weeks preg when they got married and had a small cute baby bump. Sadly she lost the baby a few weeks later and she will not look at or display any of her wedding pics as it too painful for her.

I think for the sake of a few months i would start trying on honeymoon at the earliest!

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My H and I decided to start trying for a baby 5 months before we got married. It did bother us if I was upduffed on the day. Needless to say, I was 10 weeks pregnant when I got married and had to get a new wedding dress (a week before the wedding) as my waistline had expanded so much.

If you want to wait, then wait. A few months won't make much of a difference.

Me and my OH are wanting another baby but have put it on hold until after the wedding. I was always feeling ill through pregnancy and had morning sickness morning, noon and night!! I also carry really bad and ballooon so would definatly not fit in my dress even if I was at the early stages. I am glad we are waiting though as I really want to let my hair down and enjoy the day and it will give us something to look forward to when the wedding is all over and done with. If my OH had his way though he would love to be able to announce at the wedding we are expecting our third child....sadly hes got to wait ha xx

I don't think I would have liked to have been pregnant for the fact weddings are stressful enough without trying to deal with pregnancy symptoms as well. I also wouldn't have fitted in my dress probably and there was no way I was changing that! lol.

skybright is right that it gives you something exciting to look forward to afterwards and might mean you don't have any wedding blues.

Mrs henderson that is such a sad story.

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If you were pregnant it would be possible that you would feel or be sick, be too tired to last the day, be unable to have a drink and feel fat in your dress. On the other hand you may not. Among my employees very few of them get away without any days off sick in the early days and personally I had hyperemisis so I had 9 months of it.

I would tell him it will be more romantic to try on the honeymoon, and being pregnant might make you feel less able to enjoy your honeymoon too. Have a baby for your 1st anniversary. However you may take months to get PG.

We have actually done this and I'll be about 11 weeks pregnant when we get married in three weeks time.

For us, the main reason for getting married is to start a family anyway (we've been together 11years), and this means we get our baby three months earlier.

I think it's a very personal decision. I wasn't very well earlier in the pregnancy and I have missed a lot of work, but I am starting to feel like me again now.

It hasn't meant many changes to the wedding. I'm getting a corset back put into my dress to give me more space and have changed the veggie main course as you can't eat goats cheese while pregnant. I wasn't going to drink much at the wedding anyway (didn't want to be even slightly drunk) so that doesn't matter. I'm going to pay more attention to the non alcoholic drinks now though!

Don't want to repeat myself, but it really is a very personal decision and you don't know how you will feel, but I think it'll be lovely when (hopefully if the scan comes through in time) my OH grabs the microphone before the band plays and announces it to everyone.

We had the same kind of thoughts.

We decided it was a No-no because our lives were just so busy and stressful that last month before the wedding as we moved 300 miles into a new home 2 weeks before the wedding it just wasn't practicle as I needed to get stuck into moving, heavy lifting etc and there wasn't a lot of relaxing going on.

We also researched and found that the first Trimester isn't the best time to fly, and we had a fabulous honeymoon booked.

We also had an all inclusive package on HM - I didn't want to have to be worrying about what I can/can't eat and have no one to ask - and this would be our first pregnancy so I know I would need that reassurance.

Re: Morning sickness - you really can't say whether you'll get it or not but the main worry for me was the Tiredness that comes in the first Trimester - being on my feet all day, for a long night is exhausting enough already without being pregnanct.

It also means you need to find reasons why your not drinking, if say you were only 6 weeks and not ready to announce it yet etc.

That said, we have the luxury of being young and knowing we can wait. I know my post is all about why the negatives of doing it, but as you said it would also be lovely to know you were expecting on your wedding day, and to know when you looked back at the photo's that your LO was there.

Personally I have too much on plate planning the wedding to deal with the thought of also trying for baby ... one thing at a time ... a few months will not make a difference!

Weding first and enjoy without being distracted with anything else ... however roll on the honeymoon!!!

Like Lucy I am also pregnant- I will be 8 weeks when we get married in 2 weeks time. I came off the pill over a year ago and the last month or so we decided not to carry on using anything as it was so close to the wedding...hence now the baby! ?

We are over the moon, and I will only be 8 weeks so it shouldnt make any difference to my dress. It really ia a personal decision though. What I will say is that I have also had sickness and thats the last thing you want on your big day, I am just hoping that it isnt too bad on the day itself. Im not a massive drinker so that part doesnt bother me.

Its your decision, everyone has their own opinion but do what you feel is right ?

TBH whne you consider the morning sickness & nausea, weight gain, hormonal skin & mood swings, and the not being allowed champagne on your wedding day, I would say bad idea. But it is personal choice. If I were 10 years younger and wanting to start a family I would come off the pill a few months ahead and try for ahoneymoon baby - then you can make the announcement with your thankyou cards (if you're lucky) afterwards and invite the guests back for a 1st anniversary/christening shindig!

Its a very personal decision, i was pregnant 5 months when i got married the first time i had swollen ankles and my back ached and it limited everything i did, i have just had my 2nd and every pregnancy is different i couldnt have got married at the start of this one i was so ill up until i was 4 months i couldnt keep anything down and had spd after that, if you want to get pregnant asap i would if you are on the pill stop taking it now and use something else up until the wedding then that way the pill is out of your system this can take up to a year it took me 7 months of trying this time and you may well fall straight after but ultimately its up to you maybe explain to other half you may or may not be well at the wedding with all the changes that happen so maybe its best to wait till the wedding night :-)

When my cousin got married she was 10 weeks pregnant and I was the only one that knew - being her Chief Bridesmaid, I spent a lot of the day with her. She said it was her biggest regret, she was ill and tired all day - she didn't touch her dinner and was in bed by 10.00pm. I would wait till after the wedding for sure.

Hi

I work as a midwife. Early pregnancy symptoms can be very debilitating, I have worked with pregnant women who are being both bridesmaid or getting married whilst pregnant and i would say that 90% of them would rather be getting married without the effects of pregnancy. Also, the early weeks of pregnancy can be disrupted with episodes of bleeding and I have had a few brides to be miss their wedding due to miscarrying. It was very distressing indeed. I wouldn't want to put a dampener on your plans but as a professional, I would wait until after your wedding. x hope this helps x

Probably not the best idea to reveal my occupation!!! Sorry hitchers I can't take personal messages regarding pregnancy xx

I had quite a noticable bump at 8 weeks, although it wasn't my first pregnancy so I showed earlier.

I wouldn't want to be pregnant on my wedding day, even though mine is only a very small "do". I had awful sickness and dizyness, aswell as early bleeding, which if i'd had on my wedding day would have completely ruined the day. My skin and hair also looked awful until I was in my second trimester. There's no way i'd want photos of me olooking dog rough.

Obviously not everyone suffers with sickness, but I personally wouldn't want to risk it.

I would have to say that based on my first trimester, I'm glad I wasn't pregnant on my wedding day! i was sick every day morning and afternoon, my hair had a constant greasy sheen to it and my skin was so oily I got spots- so much for that pregnancy glow! I was also really tired, all of the time! I actually don't know anyone who has breezed through the first trimester without feeling ill or tired.

I can see why you're considering it but based on my own pregnancy, I'd say don't do it!! I felt soooo dizzy, tired and sick most of the time. I couldn't eat and couldn't stand the smell of cooking. A wedding day would have been awful.

Some people don't experience any of these horrible early symptoms. I know it would be lovely to make an anouncement on your wedding day but it sounds like you are a little worried and hesitant.

I'd say enjoy your big day and start after!!

WSS!

I know a few people who started trying for a baby some months before their wedding because they didn't expect anything to happen straight away. Quite often it does!

If I'm honest, I think you should wait. 8 months is nothing, enjoy your wedding and honeymoon!

I'm pregnant and there is no way I would have wanted to be at our wedding. I felt sick for the first four months constantly, and my skin was a mess, full of spots. You also get really bloated. so my lovely dress wouldn't have fitted properly and yes it was a tie back. Also, you won't be able to drink and you have to be careful about what you can eat, there is lots you have to give up, would that mean re-doing your menu just for you? I love soft cheese and salami etc and ate loads on honeymoon, which is exactly what you want to do on honeymoon, and drink wine!

Also, i don't want to be a downer, what if something happened? I had to have early scans due to some bleeding, thankfully everything is fine, but I can't imagine having to go through that stress and get married.

And finally, if you got pregnant now, what would you do about your dress?

There is loads to think about, mainly that you feel crap at the start of pregnancy. Don't forget that although it's lovely that your OH wants kids, it's not him that has to deal with being pregnant at your wedding. He won't be the one not being able to drink and feeling sick.

In the long run, 8 months isn't going to make any difference, do what we did and try on honeymoon! We came home with a suprise!

All i will say is i fell pregnant after one month off the pill. found out a month after we got engaged. we had already booked the wedding which the baby will be 5 months at ( its on saturday). I didnt get much time to wedding plan after baby born which i suspected would happen so did it all planning whilst preg which wasnt really fun either. had to buy my dress at 16 weeks preg so i could fit back into it after the baby. dont get me wrong i wouldnt swap her for the world but if i could have planned differently ... but hey fate has a way of intervening in life!!

best wishes in whatever you decide!

Mmmmm a very difficult one. If i was 10 years younger I would wait.

Unfortunatley I am 37 and I am still trying, 6 months later I am still not pregnant. I lost a baby 6 months ago. we had been trying for 6 months. Had I been 27 I don't think it would be taking over my life the way it has started to become. Time is not on your side after the age of 35.

So I guess for me it depends on your age.

Yes you are really tired it the first trimester but I guess on your wedding day you would be running on excitment so I doubt you would want to go for a lie down after the reception. It would be really easy getting away with not drinking.

Loosing a baby is quite common. One in four pregnacies result in a loss. Hopefully this would not happen but if it did your wedding day would be ruined. Everyting else in the world does not matter. You would cut your left arm off if you could save your unborn child.

Sorry don't have a clear answer.... good luck!!!

It's your decision, only you can decide. I was 16 weeks pregnant when we married, the wedding had been arranged for 2 years and it was a total "surprise" pregnancy. If I am totally honest I suffered badly with morning sickness from 6 weeks and was very ill on our wedding day. I just squeezed into my dress and had quite a large bump! I remembsr not being able to drink, my skin look awful and spotty, I couldn't eat much as I felt sick all the time and by 7pm I was exhausted and just wanted to go to bed and sleep!!! I didn't enjoy my wedding night lol ? I couldn't join in any of the activities planned for the day after and i look pale and not at all glamerous in the wedding photos. Don't get me wrong I love my hubby and my little son but deep down i wish things could have been slightly different on our wedding day.

If I hadn't of had children I would say yes go for it but knowing what it's like to be pregnant I would say no! I found being pregnant the difficult bit and giving birth the easy part!

It kind of depends what stage you would be at but for the first 5 months of my pregnancy I couldn't stand the smell of lamb or gravy, the smell used to make me puke! And if I didn't puke the nausea would stay with me for ages!

I was also huge during both my pregnancies, even earlier on. Not everyone is, some people don't even show till they are months gone. Me being a short arse the only way for baby to grow was out!