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Beginner March 2014

Slightly stupid underwear question - to bra or not to bra?

littlejevans, 5 August, 2013 at 20:14 Posted on Planning 0 9

Hello ladies! I'm brand new here - getting married March 2014 and having a nice worry in advance. I've got my dress on order (it's Mori Lee 1612), but have been thinking about what to do on the underwear front. It's quite a heavily boned style, and one of my bridesmaids (who got married a couple of years back) says you really don't need a bra when you've got lots of boning, but the concept is just freaking me out! I'm a 30GG and haven't gone braless since I was 12 - so the concept of doing it for the first time in 16 years on my wedding day seems a bit of a worry. Any advice? Will the boning really hold everything in and up? And would a bra + boning be stupidly uncomfortable?

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Latest activity by littlejevans, 6 August, 2013 at 18:26
  • J
    Beginner June 2013
    Jensing ·
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    Ooh, nothing like a good worry!

    I wore a mori lee boned strapless dress, and a strapless wonderbra, and to be honest it was a bit much in the scaffolding department. With hindsight, i would wear a light, stretchy strapless but un- boned bra, for comfort, and let the bodice do the rest. My mates did a "fame" lift on me at the weddiing, and the 'girls' stayed in place, but afterwards i had blisters on my ribs from all that metalwork... Go a bit lighter if you can, something like a stretchy bikini or bustier would go well with a boned bodice i reckon.

    Best of luck!

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  • M
    Beginner August 2013
    MrsChaneytobe ·
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    I had exactly the same worry as you, previously having a bad experiance when i was bridesmaid, i spent the whole day pulling my dress and felt like me boobs where staring in a show of there own lol! However, i collected my dress on Sunday (getting married 11th Aug) and it fits me like a glove. The designer and seamstress have put some much work into it for me in such a short space of time. I feel more supported them i ever have before, i am a 40h and had a baby 8months ago so no the firmest hehe! Of course all depends hoe comfortable you feel but if the dress is fitted correctly you should be fine x

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  • slou90
    Beginner April 2014
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    I am a 32A so on a different end of the scale ( and rather jealous ) but i'm having fillets put into my dress! And going braless! for the first time since I can remember! I mean my reason for wearing a bra is completely different to yours of course! lol x

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  • Maldives2013
    Beginner December 2013
    Maldives2013 ·
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    Hi,

    I was a 30GG seem to have shrunk to a FF in recent months. However i was the same as you when i got my dress. It is a strapless dress, boned on the body. I definitely didn't need a bra when i tried it on, so I am sure you will feel fine, i actually think a bra would feel uncomfortable as well as the structure of the dress.. My chest looked fine in the dress and a few years of running has certainly taken it's toll on mine!!

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    The best thing to do is to wait until your dress arrives.

    I knew at my first fitting I was going braless - I'm a 34FF and never would have believed anyone who said I wouldn't be wearing a bra on my wedding day but my dress was structured and a bra on as well was just really uncomfortable.

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    Beginner March 2014
    Sprollie ·
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    Every dress i tried on i was told not to wear a bra in (i am only a a/b cup tho) until i went to a dressmakers who told me she always suggests brides wear a bra of some sort because "you wear one every other day so why wouldn't you on your wedding day" i got some lovely wedding underwear because frankly i needed a bit of help in that area! But if it is heavily boned maybe just get something quite light, you could always find a bridal underwear shop and have a chat with them.

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    Embrace Bridal Boutique - Exclusively 16+ ·
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    This must be a hot topic at the moment.... ive just posted another answer very similar. The reason you can get away without wearing a bra under your wedding dress is that your gown should have all the support you need in it, including bra cups, unlike your every day clothing. If you buy a bra especially leave the label on it, that way you can take it back. You may find that the boning in your dress (which is designed to fit your body in a specific way) is doing something different to what your bra is trying to do and you may be bulging in places you don't expect. This is one of the big cause of the dreaded back bulge, its not the dress fitting badly its wearing a strapless bra that by nature has to be tight to hold it up. No matter how well your dress fits the tight bra will give you back cleavage.

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    Beginner August 2013
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    I would wait until you've tried on your actual dress before deciding, I went for my dress fitting a few weeks ago and wore my strapless wonderbra, when I tried on the dress with the bra I felt really uncomfortable, the combination of the boning in the dress and in the bra was just too much. So I tried it without the bra and although I felt quite supported I just lost my 'oomph', so I went and bought just a normal strapless bra, it's less supportive than I would normally wear but combined with the boning in the dress it does the trick nicely!

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  • BlossomJ
    Beginner July 2014
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    My dress fits better bra less but as I have small boobies I want some slight padding or something just to make my silhouette look better as I'm pear-shaped. Going to ask the seamstress to do that for me. It does feel very strange without a bra there and I'm a bit worried about getting into the dress with no bra on and a lot of people in the room? I'm not shy, but I don't wanna flash everyone - their poor eyes ?

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    Beginner March 2014
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    Thank you everyone for your views! Think as a few have suggested I'll wait til my dress arrives before making a decision - when I tried it on in the shop i remember thinking that there was a lot of structure which would likely hold everything in place, but as that was a few months ago now I was wondering how much to trust my memory. Sounds like I was probably right though, and since strapless bras are horribly uncomfortable at the best of times I want to avoid wearing one if i can! I'll be getting cap sleeves added to the dress anyway, so that will take away a bit of worry about it staying up.

    And I hadn't even thought of the back fat - definitely something to avoid!

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