so angry!!! need help

As shes a moo be glad shes not coming and 'bump up' some people you'd like to be there? THey'll be thrilled and you'll have a better day?? I totally understand your anger but turn it into something positive maybe??

Is there someone from the eve do you can invite to the day so you dont lose the money as for email older people can be a bit vacant sometimes i would just say

Thankyou for letting me know sooner rather than later, i'm sure our day will be wonderful we hope you enjoy your holiday

Kind Regards

blah and blah

something like that anyway HTH x

I'd accept the apology, and then bump up a couple of friends that will be more than delighted to be part of the full day.

Is it possible her nose was out of joint for not getting her own invite?

I think in almost every wedding there are one or two people who drop out at the last minute. For me my godfather had things come up in his business and a partner of another guest ended up having to take some lectures and come along later.

My honest advice,try not to think about the money,see if you have a couple more friends to bump up or leave it if it mucks things up and most importantly do not stress and do not fall out with anyone or you will regret it in a couple of weeks time. Honestly it won't cross your mind on the day.I think your reply should have no mention of money just how sorry you are that they can't make it and you understand that sometimes people get mixed up.

Try not to take it personally or see any vendetta behind it. Sometimes people really are just THAT absent-minded. My aunt had to miss our wedding because she had a rowing competition in Poland, and only realised they clashed when she came to fill in the RSVP. It's not as short notice as yours is, but it really might be that they got their dates mixed up.

Shrug it off, bump up some other people and don't let it ruin your day.

Exactly this.

Especially as she is your OH's family not yours, I'm not really sure it's your place to say anything apart from 'Sorry you can't make it'. I could be entirely wrong- obviously I don't know your family set up.

TBH she's actually written a nice email and sounds genuinely sorry (better than my worst RSVP, a 1 line FB message saying "Sorry I won't be coming in the day as I can't really get there and we won't be coming in the evening either as we don't like to leave our daughter too often" - She has a car and only lives 5 miles down the road and her daughter was invited!!!!!!!!!!!).

Some people really are just that ditzy. I'd do the same as everyone else has said and see if you can bump someone else up. Let them know that family have dropped out at the last minute and you'd love for whoever you choose to take their place. People seem to feel less like a second choice if they know it's family they're taking the place of.

Thanks girls. you are utterly right.

just going to send a nice email back wishing her a nice holiday

cheers

BEx