so are all OH ex's completely mental and what do you call them

I totally understand how you feel. My H has two children by two different women and they are both as bad as each other but in very different ways.

Mother1 wouldn't let A come or would cancel at the last minute etc etc. We spent a year going through the courts (with no representation on our part whereas she had legal aid) and finally got a contact order for pretty much everything we wanted. My H conceded on a few things as it was effecting A. Mother1's barrister was even arguing for more than we'd asked for by the end as we were making all the compromises. She now won't even take a phone call from H - either her husband does or she ignores it and she regularly bad mouths my H to A.

Mother2 on the other hand can never be bothered to look after B. This is fine as we would have her all the time but a) she won't let us have residence as she'll lose her council flat (her words!!!) and b) it means if we make plans for when we don't have her they often get cancelled when she drops her on us. She has even turned up at work demanding he take B there and then (despite her having no job).

When we first got together Mother2 was jealous (despite being with the guy she cheated on my H with). I got a lot of "mummy says you're ugly" etc etc comments (there were also a few threats to burn our house down and to kill H) and when we got married the jealously reared its head again. Things are calm for now but you never know when it'll change.

I told H that to find one mad woman was unlucky but, two was careless ?

Seriously though, he's a great dad and I hate seeing how much it hurts him when they use the kids against him/us.

I do hope that your OH's ex stops causing you problems but as long as you and your OH deal with it together you'll get through it. Eventually the kids will grow up and be able to make their own decisions and they will realise all you did to keep seeing them.

x

omg baz183 i actually think that my OH's ex and mother1 for you is the same person its exactly the same, in july we went through court with self representation, unfortunately they didnt take anything in to consideration, OH ex has what i would call a drink problem i think that 40 cans of fosters a weekend is a problem but i may just be evil. She gets her ex junkie husband to bring the baby out and he deals with the texts etc, apart from when she sneaks texts in ,

she has four kids to three different dads and its a possible four different dads if what she says is to be believed, ie she dosent know, i know circumstances can arise and we dont live in a perfect world, i dont have a problem with that (before people think im judging) but she had children so she didnt have to get a job,

My OH is such a great dad and will never stop fighting for her, and i was there from before she was born, my OH and i where friends before we got together, i love the baby more than life and wish she didnt have to see her mum and her new husband come out shouting at us every weekend

but your right eventually the baby will make her own decisions and hopefully she wont brain wash her

lara x

I have never had the honour of meeting my OH ex....and hopefully never will...but yes she is quite mad....but then again so is my ex H....he is a total fruit loop....I would say all ex's should be shot....but that would mean some of us too?

its such a weird thing meeting your OH ex, i think my OH has completely blocked it out as he dosent refer to her as his ex but as the babies mum,lol she was pretty mental when they where together, and nothing much has changed,

im planning a little party for OH and the baby, not sure when it will be, its killing me the idea of not seeing the baby for two weeks so i cant even imagine what its like for my OH

arrrggghhhh

that is all

lara x

I do hope things improve, ideal world is that she moves away and says "really the baby should live with you, id dont really want to see any of you again so heres the baby and ive deleted your number to so bye."

right ive just woken up and realised thats not happenin' haha.

silly lara as the baby would say,

lara x

I know exactly where you ladies are coming from. My H2B has a son with his ex and she does myhead in, she thinks the world revolves around her and regularly does stuff to piss me off. She always ringing and texting my H2B for absolutely no reason - definately nothing to do with his son. She rang up the other day to ask if his son was going to be a page boy at our wedding which in my opinion has little to do with her, she shouldnt have rang up over it she should have waited for us to speak to her about it and if she really wanted to know she could have waited until my H2B picked up his son. Sorry went off on one there. I feel your pain xx

arrgghhhh i know exactly what you mean, why do they insist on contacting OH's all the time, every single day there is at least one text, for nothing and the weirder thing is thats the texts are from her from her new husbands phone, she thought my OH should of proposed to me in front of her, that the wedding date should be told to her first for approval and that i cannot put the baby in a dress she has not approved.

i think all these exs are the same people rolled into one and i call her the Widnes Witch (please feel free to share you amusing names, there is no holding back here)

lara x

The way our contact works used to be that we'd have J on a saturday night from 4pm and he would go home on sunday night at 5.30pm so she could go out every saturday night and my H2B would go to her house on a tue and thur to put J to bed, so one night he put J to bed and said he was off she told him he didnt have to rush off he could stay for a while so he replied with (typical man) I havent had my tea yet I need to go home for it, so she replies with ive not had my tea yet either, so he answers with Vik's at home waiting for me, and she goes so what. I was fuming!! She even rang our house at 9pm to ask if he had seen her computer disk when he was putting J to bed that night. Again i was fuming, I swear shes insane. Every time we take J home she has a story to tell of her weekend which involves ridiculous amounts of alcohol and alot of promiscuity(sp?). Im not sure i can repeat the things i call her on here!!! But seriously im not gorgeous but to suggest she looked like princess fiona would be incredibly insulting and degrading to her lol x

? oh i love it princess fiona, keep them coming i need cheering up,

even if your no kate moss, its there personality and actions that are the worse things,

plus im a swamp donkey yet i still have names going spare for her,

lara x

My H2B loves me and thiks im perfect so who cares what anyone else thinks lol. Soooo as of an hour ago the eveil ex has become 'the monster', even my sister is calling her that lol its great

I wish my ex H wanted to see his kids (he does but not very often) he thinks giving me money is doing his bit.....sigh

The rows we have had because I try to get him to see them. I dont bother anymore

Hope you can all get it sorted

Thankfully my H2B has no children, I really wouldn't go into a relationship knowing the man had kids, just because of what I've been through with an ex's ex!

When my ex fiance and I got together, his daughter was 8 months old. she would come to us Friday night and go home monday morning. I was banned from even going to the crappy council flat carpark where she lived because the Mum got really jealous one day when J held her arms out to me (I was waiting in the car) while her Mum was holding her. I couldn't help it that she liked me!

She also text/called constantly. One night she called our house phone on a Sunday night, J was going home the next morning. I answered and she said bluntly "Put M on" so I said "Do you want to speak to J?" As she normally wanted to talk to J even though J wasn't interested in a phone conversation at the age of 1! so she replied "No, I said put M on!!" .. I snapped and might have said I wish she'd fall under a bus. Well, that was that, within 5 minutes she was round our house, snatched J and put her in her sister's car and tried to get up the stairs to 'get' me.. M had to stop her. She said he'd never see J again and went home crying. Pathetic. I suggested going through the courts as this wasn't the first time she'd been unreasonable, he said he wouldn't put J through that. She wouldn't have known!! Anyway, glad I'm out of that relationship, although by then J was over 3 and I'd got pretty attached

My friend had an ongoing battle with her husband's ex- she would constantly tell the kids that if they were horrible to her, they'd get treats, but if they were nice theyd never see their dad again. And after agreeing to my friend and her H taking the kids on holiday, they were arrested at the airport for trying to 'kidnap' the kids- yep, she'd called the police on them. I know its hard to see the father of your children move on and remarry, but really- there are ways of dealing with things. Its just cruel- I feel so sorry for the children, thyre both old enough to realise whats going on now, and to be put in that position... its very sad.

? She sounds like a mentalist indeed! I don't understand why anyone would need to be that selfish and bitter.

My H's ex is also a complete nutter so I feel your pain. x