So its off...what now?

Can't you take your parents with you!

I think you should do what makes you happy! An empty venue may remind you of the hurt and upset thats been caused!

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If it was me I would go to my local registry office with my nearest and dearest and then treat them to a wonderful meal afterwards.

If you say that both families were involved in the arguments then I would probably go with marrying abroad, just you and OH. If neither sets of parents were involved and it was other members of the family, then I would still go abroad but maybe invite both sets of parents, like the poster above said. If you organise another big wedding here, then who's to say it won't happen again? Obviously I don't know what the "bust up" was about but I would not want to risk it happening again and causing all that stress when all you and OH just want to be married. That's why I think going abroad or wherever, just the two of you would be best. Like I say, invite parents if they weren't involved in any of the arguments.

Sorry to hear that.

Whens the wedding? Is there no chance that you will make up?

Personally I would do what makes you happy. Going abroad sounds lovely, is there no chance that you could take your parents with you?

Can you take your parents abroad, or have a small ceremony? I wouldn't leave my parents out of it if I were you when it clearly means so much to them.

This.

Really sorry to hear that ur cancelling your day

So you're both friends with the parents, it's just the extended family/siblings that are warring?? I would definitely plan a small registry office do or even abroad if you fancy it. Was there a load of mates coming to your wedding too or is the 12 just family? I think if that had happened to me I'd want to look into the abroad thing and take the parents.

Blo**@y families eh!

If it's not the parents that were involved in the bust-up, I'd love to just get married on a beach somewhere with immediate family. You could also combine you're wedding and Honeymoon.

This!

We did this, the day of our legals, and it was incredibly intimate and special. Only 6 of us but it was so meaningful. I would do that then treat yourselves to the honeymoon of a lifetime!

Thanks guys. The argument was over why our foster son is a page boy but OH cousins partners daughter (who we have never met!) wasn't a flower girl. The uncles got into it and then it evolved from there to 'if s/he's coming, I'm not' sort of arguing and all the little niggles people have had over the years got dragged up and insults thrown about. The only people currently talking to each other is the mothers.

I like the idea of going abroad as we could pay for the mothers and our two closest friends and their partners for the money we have left then maybe if everyone makes up we could have a 'reception' type do when we get back or later on.

What's frustrating is when we first started organising, OH joked about there being a big falling out and no one coming to the wedding! How right he was!

How sad that your plans have been cancelled due to other people's childishness! I think this sounds like a perfect solution and could end up being better than your original plans as you won't be sharing your day with people capable of such ridiculous behaviour.

I really hope you do do the abroad idea with the mother and close friends and have a blast. Thompsons do a wedding package i think. really really hope its a thousand times more fun! shame it all broke up over other peoples petty squabbling.

So sorry to hear this. Such a shame people just can't bite their tongue for the sake of others!

I have to agree, the abroad idea sounds lovely x

Could you have a small wedding abroad but invite both parents/mothers? X

Wow, what a ridiculous argument from their point of view. Weddings, sadly, do bring out the worst in people sometimes.

I'm really glad you've got the support of your mums, I hope you get sorted out with something intimate and amazing (I'd get the holiday brochures out!!)

Def go abroad and do it with your nearest :-)

Very sorry to hear it's came to this.
I'd take it as a completel positive that you haven't spent loads of cash on people who you clearly don't need there, treat the people who mean something to you and go abroad just you & OH and your parents, have a lovely time and if theres a few others back home, come home and have a nice meal with them to celebrate. x

Well I think it's settled that we're going abroad. I've got some brochures from Thomas Cook today so going to sit down this evening and see what's what. We're thinking a week with just my mum, OH mum and a few select friends then another week just for us as a honeymoon.

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Yay! This is great to read. A flash maybe needed when u have sorted where u going.

A good plan from disappointment, enjoy your wedding in the sun.

That is terrible that both of your families have spoilt your original plans, but by the sounds of it going away with those who really care will be a wonderful option for you and your future husband, good luck with searching for the perfect venue!

Glad to hear it, sounds perfect!