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So upset! Am I in the wrong?? HELP

Busybride2013, 16 June, 2015 at 21:06 Posted on Planning 0

I need everyone's advice as I'm sooo stressed out right now!

i have two bridesmaids. My friend and my sister in law.

my sister in law had her hair trial (I choose the style) she protested but ended up liking the style. Then my other bridesmaid had her hair trial and she's got a graduated bob so the hairdresser tried her best but just couldn't do the same style so she said we could go for a messy bun/updo with curls pinned at the back it ended up looking lovely but was similar to mine so I decided that my sister in law would have the same messy bun hairstyle and I would go for something different.

i messaged my sister inlaw and said that I was going to have to change the style slightly and sent her the photos etc. this resulted in her going up the wall saying she didn't want her hair like that and that it wouldn't suit her. I've explained to her that I want them to be the same so it's important to me that they have the same style.

ive had her mum on the phone having a go. She's turned very nasty over it all saying she's not having that style so take it or leave it. I've been so upset about her behaviour so my other half texted his sister saying that she was upsetting me and why was she making such a big drama over it? She texted him back 'F*** Off' then followed that up with a text to tell him to tell me she isn't coming to my hen.

ive offered to pay for another trial for her her to see the new style and she texted me back refusing to have a trial with a hair style she doesn't like.

its all up in the air and it's made me so upset, I don't know if I'm the one who is being out of order or if she is making drama over nothing

shes 37 years old buy the way.

please can I have your opinions as it would really help me

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    She's behaving like a child, throwing her toys out of the pram because she thinks she won't like the new hairstyle. There's no need for her to behave this way. She should at least have the trial and see what it's like. If it doesn't look good then you both need to come to an agreement on an alternative style.

    It really doesn't matter if your BMs have matching hairstyles. If their hair is very different then it's unreasonable to expect them to be able to have the same styles. No one will even notice / care.

    ETA: Oops, just realised this is a duplicate thread!

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