Speeches..

I think it's a good idea for a bride to speak, not sure I'd be brave enough, especially going against convention.

I think it's a nice idea for you, but from what you've said, I would try to keep your piece fairly brief, as I think it'd give the quieter groom a confidence boost to have the 'main' speech, IYKWIM.

We're having the traditional speeches in the traditional order which is Father of the Bride (Or brother of the bride in my case and your friend in your case), then Groom, ending with the Best Man!

I'm going to find it hard not to say anything as I wear the trousers in the relationship and have organised pretty much everything with the wedding too but I'm going to stick with tradition and let OH speak on both our behalves!

Maybe, as DHughes said, give a speech but a small to the point so as not to over shadow your OH!

Any wedding I've attend the traditional order is -

FOB - welcomes and thanks everyone for attending etc

Groom - thanks and praises the bride, maybe her parents ?, thanks BMs for everything they have done( comments on how wonderful they look) etc

BM - tells revealing stories about groom, returns thanks on behave of BMs, possibly a few words about how they couple met? toasts them a happy future together?

one of these normally toasts absent friends n family aswell

Hope this helps

L x

I'm not saying anything - first time in my life - FIL calls me turbo gob - hahaha.

Others that are saying a speech are keeping it relativly short - bout 5mins max. As a guest at a wedding I always find them a bit boring as they are usually full of 'private' jokes that most guests just dont get!

My Dad not a big public speaker and dont want him to feel too uncomfortable on the day. Want everyone to be laid back and enjoy it.

Thanks ladies your right i probably wont say anything id rather say nothing than say a small something lol. ill get them to keep the speeches short also nothing worse than a somthing droning on and on..

My friend who is giving me away is one of my best friends from being teenagers and went to school with OH so probably has a few tales to tell on both of us his wife is one of my bridesmaids too!

Hopefully the groom will have written his speech in advance as when he was bestman for his brother he wrote it the night before! tut tut! lol

I didn't say anything at mine. We were very traditional with our wedding though, we got married in church, we had the reception at a hotel and that is where the speeches were. We had FOB, BM, Groom that was it

Danish wedding tradition means that speeches are basically a free-for-all therefore to avoid absolutely everyone saying something which could take absolutely ages we're going to have my dad, my husband-to-be, the best man ... and then two others. I'm also thinking of saying a little something but I'm quite emotional and I don't want to say something incoherent due to buckets of tears! We'll see how it goes, I'll probably prepare a little something and then just play it by ear on the day.

Ive made a video with our favourite song (which isnt appropriate for any traditional wedding moment) to which Ive done a montage of phots of the two of us, some recent some of us as children. Ive given is an opening title of "the story so far" and it finishes with "to be continued. Its only the first verse and one chorus to make sure it doesnt go on too long and bore people. Maybe one day we'll add more pictures to it and use the rest of the song.

I wanted to do share this but didnt really want to speak