spin off from guest list

Thanks for advice, think your right about +1. OH did say we should invite his daughter to keep him company but then he OH and two kids will come and now im just putting my foot down.

How funny, I love the fact you dont like anyone you work with! I was a saddo and typing up list in a spreadsheet and ive got to 111 and there is still more I can think of, I just dont know where to stop but when OH (who works alone so doesnt have many friends) put down his friend (who isnt much of a friend anymore, and I HATE) and his wife and HIS PARENTS, they were crossed straight off the list ?

I'm having a bit of a problem with regards to inviting people from work.

It was an easy decision @ my old job because I only liked on person & she was the only person I was going to invite, she is one of my best friends so will be there for the whole Wedding, didn't like any of ther others so wasn't going to invite them. I had worked there for 7 years & felt like I didn't have to invite them just out of politness.

But the place I work now I will have only been here 10 months by the time the Wedding rolls round so I'm not sure what to do, I really like them all apart from 1 person & I really don't want to invite that person but will feel a bit bad if I invite everyone else. ?

I like that criteria, also reserve list {{she opens up excel}}

Probably I have with socialising I dont hold many 'dos' (Im a lazy mare) but my BF does and over the years Ive meet loads a people through the random things she does and wonder how many of them to invite?

Keelz - I know what you mean about not inviting one person, but think you have to if your inviting everyone else.

My friend got married few months ago and works at biggest junior school in europe. He invited only 4 people all day (and their partners) the rest in the evening even the one he hated (we gave him evils all night, mature I know!), he also had a few that didnt come. People keep saying not everyone will come but in my eyes 'its my wedding and EVERYONE will turn up!' lol

Lol you have to have a bit of spreadsheet action!

I think with wedding lists its easy to get carried away and invite everybody - I think stop and think :

- do you actually want them there and will them not being there affect your day? If your not bothered -cross off!

- do you actually socialise with them as friends ie out of work?

- if you havent seen/ speak to them reguarly like every 3 months or so not due to geography - cross off!

- if you only see them as part of your friendship group - and wouldnt do anything individually with them - evening do only ladies!!

Im being very harsh as OH has a huuuuuge family so we need to cut down numbers.

Be horrible, I am. Im a mother and its strictly family children only. Otherwise it will turn into kids party! No-one I know is offened by this, if they are tough! haha. I have been invited to weddings without my daughter and loved it!!!

Not harsh, very good advice!!

Charlie to go back to your original questions - I agree wi NoviceBride and say give him a call and ask if he wants to bring a friend along. As you say, maybe he'll bring his daughter.

Now the evening list.......ah its so difficult!!!!! I would like to invite most of the people I work/worked with in this job to the whole wedding but there are too many and we just can't manage it so they are on the evening list just now which is a shame. Problem is there are a couple of them (they've left now) I'm not really wanting to invite to the whole thing but if you invite some, you have to invite them all so in the end none will be invited and they'll come in the evening.

My OH has gone mad with the evening list - hes a maths teacher and has every maths teacher + partners listed for the evening do - that makes at least 40 people!!!!! I know that they won't all come but I had to do another stationery order cos I didn't know he was going to go this mad....lol. He had a deadline of today to get names to me so I can actually get these ones made. I doubt he'll have done anything about it though. Keeps saying we have loads of time - whats the rush????

Thats what I keep thinking aswell.

I think I will just invite said person & hope they don't actually come ?

Elizabeth: We have a son & we are not having children @ our wedding (aprt from the 5 involved in the wedding) & everyone (except 1 person) thinks its great that they don't have to bring their kids.

When our friends got married it was no kids's so we couldn't take our son & it was great, we stayed overnight in the hotel & everything it was like a mini weekend away, even though we only actually stayed out 1 night but it was great for me & my OH to have a day / night out on our own.

My OH wanted to invite just about evryone from work to the evening, and a few of those to the day. My criteria......................

Do I like them enough to pay £70 per couple for the meal and drinks? In any other occasion would I buy them dinner? (Day guests)

Evening guests - WOuld I pay £20 per couple for evening buffet?

sold!

i know the feeling! i work in a garage with 7 lads, my H2B used to work there (thats how we met) n can't stand at least 3 of them. i can get on with 6 of them but would only think of inviting prob 3 max to the wedding so 1 is coming (who happens to be my boss). Our head office is next door (mostly female) n decided not to invite any of them cos it'd be a case of where do you stop n someone will always get grumpy if they're not asked.