....*stands up and clears throat*...."hi all my names Jen and ive just had my first internal bridzilla moment"...

Now now, breathe...... and relax!

She will have her own ideas for her own wedding which she's been dreaming about for the last 8 years - she won't be stealing yours.

Your MOH may be busy for a little while with the first wedding but will have a year after it to focus on yours with you - that's more than enough time.

Don't panic!!

Ha, I know, told you it was pathetic of me lol

LOL, just remember that pretty much NOTHING at a wedding is unique, so when your friend starts ordering Loveheart Sweets, birdcages and heart shaped umbrellas, she is not stealing YOUR ideas. She is stealing pinterest's ideas!

If you think you have something truly special, just for your day, and you really think it is unique, ask you MOH to keep it a secret for you, so that you don't end up getting piss'd with the pair of them.

Plus, you are going to have to be graceful and not be too needy of your MOH until she's finished with the other wedding, tbh!

Thanks and good points. I've already been helping them with venue options.

I would see it as a good thing. Let her try out the ideas, stress over local suppliers then u don't have to worry a year later. It's a mini practice run for you. And every wedding is different so I wouldn't worry. Enjoy you're planning xx

Don't worry about being petty, it's natural to be a bit put out by this. It sounds like you are making a real effort not to let this show and to be happy for your friend which is the important thing.

I had a total meltdown when my friend got engaged before me! She'd only been with her boyfriend for 9 months and I'd been with mine for 3 years and suspected/knew he was planning on proposing imminently. Totally unfair but I felt that she'd stolen my proposal and mine wouldn't be as exciting when it happened. The main thing was that although I spoke to a friend from a different friendship group about it, I was careful not to let my engaged friend know how I felt and made an effort to celebrate and be excited with her. I didn't feel guilty for being resentful and by accepting it, it kinda just went away after a while.

I would concentrate on you and your partner, and making your wedding really personal to you, that way it will be yours and unique xx

I no just how your feeling, my FSIL met and got engaged to her now husband within 6 weeks (engaged 6 weeks after I got engaged)

She then booked her wedding exactly a year before mine, which sent me into complete bridezilla meltdown as I thought she was " stealing my thunder".

after numerous phone calls to my mum ranting that she was obviously copying all my ideas as she wouldn't tell me any of her plans but asked all about mine, her wedding was completely different and just showed me what not to do in my wedding, which is this Sunday.

like everyone has said it's a trial run for your day, you've got an extra year to make yours super amazing!

Think of it this way: She's training you MOH up for you, and as her wedding comes first, you can steal all HER ideas (if they are good ones - if not you know what to avoid)!!

LOL, I know how you feel, my bro contacted me the other day to say he wanted to propose to his GF but was worried about 'stealing my thunder' -i was a bit stunned as I didn't think he'd be thoughtful enough even to think of that! I said that as long as he didn't propose on my wedding day, or get married before me (unlikely, I only have a few months to go) then I'm fine with it..........but secretly I'm hoping they wait a while as I don't want everyone comparing my wedding to his!

It happens to the best of us! I was mega pi**ed that my friend was engaged & married within a year of meeting her husband whilst I was still waiting 5 years on! I thought it must show her husband loved her more! To add insult to injury she used lots of ideas that I had mentioned & I was annoyed. I have since become engaged & am knee deep in wedding planning..the only influence her wedding has had on mine was turning down a wedding dress choice as it was too similar to hers.

I have a friend now who is getting married a year after us who is mega competitive..so there is absolutely no discussing our ideas with them!

Thanks for the replies guys, just hope that's the worst I get lol, but I can see my having a major strop over something totally stupid down the line, and if/when I do I will come back and tell you all how daft I have been and you can all have a little giggle te he he ?