Still having dress wobbles - Please help me

Listen to your mother!

Don't even bother try on a dress you think you 'should' be wearing, the one you LOVE, which is the one you have is the dress you SHOULD be wearing.

Stop wobbling, your dress is drop-dead-gorgeous.

Silly billy, on your wedding day I have no doubt you will say to yourself, 'what the hell was I wobbling about?'

Stick on that happy face, 25 DAYS TO GOOOOOO! YAAAAYYY!! Can't wait to see the report

Screw what people expect you to wear! People may not be expecting me to wear a shift dress, but I'm doing it anyway. You love your dress, that's all that matters

Oh my goodness.... Your dress is absolutely gorgeous! I've never seen it before but I think I want it!

The other dress is nice but the one you have is amazing. I actually think you'll be more comfortable in your dress - the other one looks a bit diva-ish to me.

25 days to go - woo-hoooo! Can't wait to see pics of you in it and looking fab on your wedding day ☺️

Enough said!!

Everything every one else has said above - stick with the Benjamin Roberts, it's absolutely gorgeous, as will you be wearing it.

Get thee to a hairdresser, and then start worrying about having fun, rather than anything else!

Your dress looks amazing, as will you do when you are in it. There is no "should" about it. I am 43, and getting married for the second time. My children are 18 and 20 so I originally thought I "should" wear something conservative.

Then I found the dress of my dreams, fell in love with it and said s*d it, I'm a bride, I will wear what I want to wear and anyone who thinks differently can go swivel.

So there.

^^^this! It is a fab dress, you will look fab, and everyone else will think so too :-)

OMG! Your dress is beautiful! And I prefer it to the one you think you 'should' be wearing. Your dress will balance out your pear shape perfectly, whereas the other one will only accentuate it. Who gives a cr*p what other people think you should be wearing?! As long as you love it then who cares? IMHO I think you should stick to what you have and forget about the other one. Do you really need any addition worries 25 days before your wedding?!

Oh my god, your dress is amazing! Don't doubt it! You chose it because you look and feel amazing in it, so go out there on your wedding day and look and feel amazing! I bought a big dress, because I loved it and because it suited me. On your big day everyone will just think you look amazing, no one will even consider that you could have gone for a different style, because the one you're wearing is YOUR dress

I agree with the others - your dress is beautiful and sounds like it suits you perfectly! As a fellow dress wobbler, I understand exactly how you are feeling. Try and enjoy the run up to your wedding... you will look stunning in your dress!

OMG I am overwhelmed!! Thank you so much for all your responses

Yup I am older bride too (36) with two teenage children and a baby but I wanna be a princess and how often do we get to be a princess? I can wear a dress like the second one to a formal event that might get invited to one day. I will never ever wear my dress anywhere else

To the lady that loved mine and wanted one like it. I think its a 2011 collection, but mine was in a sample sale and there are a few knocking about on ebay

Thanks again, I do tend to have a tendacy to be ultra laid back but then to fixate one thing that I am worried about, in this case it is the dress! I hate making decisions on my own and originally it was a decision I made alone have more confidence in myself is what is called for I think

Older bride at 36- pish!

you go young princess! (love the 80 yr old woman in a 30 yr olds body (real age 30) with the mind of a 17 yr old!)

If only I was 36 again! I would have no qualms about wearing the dress you love. You love it - nothing else matters.

Just want to say another massive thank you to everyone that helped me Feeling much better and a lot more positive. I am sure the doubt will rear its ugly head again but it will be fine and I can shh it up haha.

Still cant fit in a hairdresser appt to have my roots done, ahhhh Why didnt I think to book sooner!! haha

Just want to say another massive thank you to everyone that helped me Feeling much better and a lot more positive. I am sure the doubt will rear its ugly head again but it will be fine and I can shh it up haha.

Still cant fit in a hairdresser appt to have my roots done, ahhhh Why didnt I think to book sooner!! haha

Hi PP, I think your dress is lovely. If it makes you feel any better, I was convinced the other dress was my dream dress and I am a 12/14 pear shape. Hunted it down and Tried it on expecting to be blown away - it looked AWFUL on me. There is no boning or structure in it to hold anything in. It showed up every lump and bump even with spanx on. I can't explain it but it made me look like a heffer lump. I was really upset but the lady in the shop said most brides didn't end up with what they thought they should have and rarely look like what they think they will from seeing size 6 models in them. Put it out of your head and try on your current dress again. There is a reason you picked it.

Btw the dress you have linked to is actually a Photo of the Maggie Sotterro dress which is the one I tried on. Dylan Queen do copies using much cheaper material so not sure it would even look anything like that. I don't think you have time to order a Maggie dress in time for your wedding.

Your dress is lush. Everyone has wobbles. Stop being wobbly.