Suit argument with the OH...**RANT!**

I understand about dreaming of certain things for your wedding but I think this is one thing you should let go of. It sounds like he wasnt keen about wearing a morning suit at the first wedding but was forced into it.

If he feels more comfortable in a nice suit then let him have it. Its him who has to wear it on the day. Im sure you would tell him where to go if he said he wanted you to wear a specific dress type he dreamed of seeing you in, but you hated.

Think compromise is the key. Its not like hes asking to wear jeans and t shirt lol x

Aaw. Hugs. It's a difficult one but look at it this way. Who picked your dress? He has no say in that and will love you whatever you wear. As he wore the morning suit last time it's understandable that he doesn't want to this time. Xx

I know the vision you have in your head is important to you and i do understand that it upsets you however imagine the roles were reversed.

Your OH is telling you what dress to wear, and he is adamant that you must wear a (for instance) mermaid style, however you have your heart set on a tea length.

how would you feel if he was forcing you into a dress you didn't want even though both are perfectly lovely dresses.

Can you find a compromise? prince edward suits are sort of halfway between, or could he wear a normal suit with a waistcoat and tie to add formality and change it from what he wears to work?

At the end of the day i think that your OH has the right to choose what h wears on his big day.

What about throwing both ideas out the window and going for a tux? your own personal james bond

my friend and her oh had this same argument- she wanted morning, he wanted work suit with nice tie. they went for a bond tux and he looked AMAZING.

just a thought xxx

I know I'll love him no matter what he wears and will look gorgeous to me and it's not a big issue in the grand scheme of things.

I suggested the prince Edward style and he hnm'd hopefully we can come to a compromise somewhere! And if it is a plain suit he wants then it will be a new one not the one he suggested wearing that he wears for every formal occasion lol.

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With both of you having an open mind have a play with this website

you might find a happy medium

I agree with the others that I think you might need to let this one go - how would you feel if he started trying to dictate what you were wearing on the day. I personally would be pretty peeved. Ultimately it's a big day for both of you & you should both feel comfortable. The fact he's been married before is neither here nor there but it does explain why he might be sensitive to some things if he had no input. Would he consider a cravats & waistcoat so that he looks different from his work gear?

My H2B picked his own suit its not what i would have picked but i reason that its his big day too and be needs to be comfortable. Id hate him to feel uncomfortable or self concious just because of a suit. That said if the suit is really important to you maybe you could find a middle ground? The tux idea sounds great!

You got me going into over drive now and drooling at suits lol

Xx

glad i could help

Would you let him choose your dress because it's his vision? Think about it from his point of view he wants to feel nice on his wedding day just like you do! I totally get what your saying but you want him to feel comfortable right ? My OH really didn't want tails and I'm pleased he's told everyone to sod off that's told him he 'should' x

I totally agree with slou, u wudnt wear a dress he picked if u didnt like it so why should he wear what u want

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I don't think you have a leg to stand on here. He doesn't get a say in your outfit, you don't get a say in his.

I have no idea what my OH is wearing! I told him the colours to get and suggested a cravat and waistcoats and he has done the rest - I don't think they have even rented suits so him, my dad, the best man and the usher will all turn up wearing different suits! haha x

Sorry but you really don't have a leg to stand on. Surely what your OH wants is more important? He needs to feel comfortable on the day and if that doesn't match up with the picture in your head then that's just something you'll have to get over.

I have no idea what my OH is wearing. He's very much of the opinion that if he's not allowed to know what I'm wearing, then I'm not allowed to know what he's wearing. Slightly frustrating for me, but it's nice that he wants to surprise me on the day! What's helpful is that we haven't got any particular colours or themes for the day, so he can go with what he wants.

Obviously I would never want him to wear something he's not happy with and I wouldn't force him to that wasn't even an option.

He's asked me to go shopping with him so after trying a few on we will get a better idea!

Completly off the topic tho but I went to a bridal shop a couple of weeks ago and there was a guy in with his bride choosing a dress together. Actually really put me off trying on dresses!

Xx

It would me too! I don't have an issue with them breaking tradition and choosing a dress together - was it deffo her groom? But you don't want a man in a wedding dress shop. B2Bs are often barely held in dresses etc lol. I would have felt uncomfortable too. That was one of the issues I had when I went to a Bridal Outlet. There were quite a few men present which I found off-putting. Might be old fashioned but it's not what I was expecting.

To just add a little more to your original post - it's very common for brides to work with grooms on what the groom will wear because many just don't know where to start themselves. But the final say needs to be for him. Mine's told me he's deciding. I've just to tell him the colours! I bet he drags me in nearer the time though - he always does bless x

My OH really didn't want a morning suit either, he just said it wasn't him. He also wears suits every day for work but has decided he's going to buy a more expensive suit than he would for work/have one made by a tailor and then have a tie and pocket square to make it a bit more weddingy. I'm completely leaving it up to him to choose what he wants. To be honest I don't care what he wears as long as he is stood at the end of that aisle as I walk down it! I think you should just let him choose what he wears, you want him to be comfortable and happy on the day and I'm sure once the day comes you really won't care either as you'll just be happy to marrying him! ?