Suit dilemma

I don't see the dilemma here? Surely your h2b should be choosing what he wears, not you?

With him wanting to stand out, I'd have thought a gold cravat was an excellent way against the champagne colour of the rest of the groom's party.

After all, isn't champagne a gold shade anyway?

It's not essential to have everyone in exactly the same clothes and shades by any stretch of the imagination, although of course some do prefer that.

Hi Claire Lou,

What about getting a sash made for your bridesmaids in a similar color to your O/H's cravat?

My colour scheme in ivory and oyster which sounds not far off from your color scheme. We will be hiring all the morning suits and morning coats but I am having my dress lady make the cravats and hankies. what I have decided to do is have the BM, ushers, page boy and fathers cravats in the same material / colour as the BM dresses and my O/H's cravat will be made our of the same material as my dress.

Is it that your O/H does not want an ivory cravat as looking at pictures from other peoples wedding a cream waistcoat and ivory cravat looks really nice. Another idea is if your planning on button holes could his not be a different more vibrant colour maybe x

Well ultimately he will have the final say but if he rocked up on the day in a blue cravat I wouldnt be very happy. The gold will work I guess and I do agree that it is isnt essential that everybody match but it would be nice at the same time.

So if he turned up in a blue cravat, what would you do? Refuse to marry him?

My guess is the answer is "no", so like with many things, on the day it actually won't matter to you one bit what anyone is wearing, so there's no need to stress over it and make it a big issue now.

I couldnt get away with a sash for the bridesmaids the dresses have a bit of detail on the waist so it wouldnt work I cant even add the gold into the flowergirls dresses for the same reason.

I personally think that the ivory looks lovely but if he thinks champagne has no contrast to cream I wouldnt even suggest cream on cream lol!

yes I would AJ I would stand there at the alter and jump and kick and scream infront of all our guests and then refuse to marry him slamming the door on the way out.

Of course not! As I said I wouldnt be very happy.

I think the gold might work really well. The fact that it is that bit different from the rest of the bridal party will help your OH feel a bit 'special'. Sometimes small details like this aren't worth the hassel of stressing over them. If it keeps your OH happy & stops arguments, personally I'd tell him just to get the gold.

Thanks Panda - I think you may be right.

I think the gold will work well.

I went to the suit shop on Saturday with my OH, his brother and best man and i had set in my mind what i wanted him to wear, although of course i was going to let him think that he had picked it all. He really liked the black suit over the grey one that i liked and i was dead set against it. But in the end he decided on the grey but the more i have thought about it, the more i have realised that if he had picked the black it wouldn't of been the end of the world. But if he had gone for a completely different colour cravat i wouldn't of been happy.

But again i think the gold will work well with your colour scheme

I agree especially as gold is just dark champagne.

Thanks guys

To me, the colour of a cravat seems to me like a really trivial thing to get upset over. Would you like it if he was trying to make decisions about your dress? It's one thing to make suggestions but if he flat out told you that he didn't want you wearing a specific thing? If he's happy with the gold then he should wear the gold, why would you want to make him wear something he doesn't like?

Valid point.

Can I ask where your suits are from? Just this argument is mighty familiar to me....

We have chamapagne/gold/very pale pink colours. I would have liked my boy to wear a white cravat and the rest in champagne but he preferred a darker gold altogther and having the rest in white. However, I have used gold as an accent colour in other places so wasn't bothered about it too much. BMs are in champagne, with pale pink and gold jewellery. Various decorations for the venue are in gold as well. I think without any other gold, it would be fine though, it's a tonal colour.

Just thought - our buttonholes are white roses with gold centres, which might be something you could do to tie all the boys in and drag it back to white...

I wouldn't stress too much about trying to fit gold into your colour scheme as (not to sound harsh) I doubt anyone is going to notice anyway. And I think its a nice idea for your OH to have something that makes him stand out.

With 8 weeks to go I expect you have a million things to worry about as it is, no point stressing about the little details ?