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We are also just having 3 suits. Groom, best man and FIL as my dad is refusing to come to the wedding. Ties are called cravats x

I am a believer to go with the wedding as you'd like to. So feel free to ignore me if you are looking for advise concerning fashion/etiquette.

That said, I think if your groom wants to stand out, nothing wrong with him having tails and top hat and the other men on the party don't. You can still tie them up by having the buttonholes. That would show they are part of the wedding.

Does your H2B know what he would prefer?

Your tie question has been answered, yes they are called cravats.

Hope it helped!

As the others have said, they don't have to, but I would personally put them all in matching suits.

You could always have no top hats for the others, but I'm not sure about one having tails and the others not because of the differing cuts of the suit.

The people in the suit shops are generally very helpful so I'm sure they can help.

It's just personal preference. Do what you and your OH want

Hi,

Thanks for the replies, he said hendef wants to wear top hat and tails and I think i may go with nice suits for the others with the same waist coat tie etc. My dad wouldn't be upset if he was thought of as a guest neither would the best man after all that is what they are but with special jobs attached ! my dads trying to get out of the speach duties at the min haha

Hayley x

We had this discussion OH wanted tails (no hat) but my Dad wasn't sure so we were going to have groom, best man and ushers in tails and the Dads in matching lounge suits. The man in the shop said we could just have the groom in the tails and the others in lounge suits but in the end it looked very odd so everyone is in tails. However that was our choice of suit so it may be different if you are having a different feel to your day than we are. I would try and get a group of them to go and try on together that way you can decide what you all like the look of and what is comfortable for everyone. My Dad had never worn tails so wasn't sure if he would like them but he loves his suit now.

Hi Hayley!

First of all, I do this all the time (sort out wedding suits etc, not post on Hitched, I don't get here very often anymore) and I can tell you what advice I normally give my clients but feel free to ignore it and do what feels right. I think, like all things wedding related, there is no 'right' or 'wrong' only what you feel is right for your wedding and what you feel is not.

When concerning Morning Suits (Tails) I would recommend that you dress all of the mens party in the same suit. Maybe using different accessories for the groom. (waistcoat/tie etc). I recommend this because morning suits are a type of dress, like 'black tie' or some other dress code. To me, it would be unusual to see a singular morning suit, in the same way it would look unusual to see one dinner suit or one cocktail dress.

However with all other suit styles, I always recommend that the groom should 'stand-alone'. I would usually recommend that groom wear something more 'groom-y' or 'wedding'y' than the rest of his party. But this is a more contemporary look than 'morning dress' (tails, hats, cravats etc.).

Like I said there is not right or wrong answer to this but when I have a consultation with our bride and grooms here I usually ask them to consider the wedding as a whole and pick the most appropriate suit for that wedding. if 'morning suits' would go with the dress, the venue and the style of wedding you are having then fantastic, go for it. If however they don't, it may be worth reconsidering even if the groom has his heart set on tails. Just a thought.

If i can be of any further help, let me know.

Thank You

Marc