Suits and dresses

Get the suits sorted now - the colour of the ties can wait if needed!

And remember, if YOU think your bm dresses are perfect, then that's what is important....they will just have to suck it up for a few hours!

If your BMs are being awkward about the dresses then it's time to remind them that this is your wedding and you would wear whatever they wanted you to wear if it was the other way round.

BMs aren't chosen to make your day more difficult, they are supposed to be supportive and go along with practically everything you say (even if secretly they think you are Bridezilla!!). Tell the guys to go along to the suit appt and see where they go from there. Tie colours can definitely be changed along the road!!

It's so difficult, and completely stressing me out. I've got people saying that I should want my bridesmaids to look their best of the day (to which my reply was that I really liked the dresses therefore I think they will all look nice - the response to that wasn't good at all) and whilst I know it is my day I just feel like it's causing friction. 2 of my bridesmaid have seen my dress 'in the flesh' as it were whilst the other two have just seen pictures. That means I have got opinions coming in that say that I should be taking the advice of the two that have seen my dress more because the other two don't really know what they are looking for (despite them seeing pictures). I dare to respond to say that I am taking everyones opinion into account and the response I get is that they feel like they can't talk to me because I just beat down their opinion on everything and don't agree with them! (This is family by the way). Whilst I appreciate their opinion, if they don't agree with something they make it very clear - unlike my other 2 bridesmaids who have said that ultimately it is my choice and they will be happy to wear whatever.

The dress that I really liked I am torn now. Part if me thinks I should stick to my guns about them wearing it, and the other part feels like, she though I like it, they have ruined it for me now and can I be bothered to deal with the fact they don't like it? I know they all talk about the wedding behind my back and how I don't 'involve' them (despite me booking cateres, photographer and possibly dj based on their recommendations. My mum is doing the flowers, they helped me make in invites... I don't know how much more in a involve them in!!), and they are completely stressing me out. Can't tell them that though because everytime I do I get accused of not taking their opinions into account or caring what they think or feel. So stressed about it all!!!

You wouldnt get your BM dress before you own would you so I would say its the same with the grooms suit x