Talking of non-traditional things...

No way - Im not one for tradition but Im just seein it as a good excuse for another night in a hotel!

We were sat in the hot tub drinking at midnight before the wedding - so yea lol we stayed togeather.

No, I'm off to a hotel with my family for the night before. The stress caused by both our families trying to get sorted in our house on the morning of the wedding would negate any relaxation from the night before!!

Aww.. not so popular then.. I am not sure what to do.. I know my Nan would advise it is bad luck but... I kinda think I will need him to hold my hand when I have a last min panic and 4am!

1st wedding - nope

this one - I hope we do, thinking hot tub at midnight sounds a great plan doodle.

Nope no way. We are spending a couple of nights away from each other. And plus theres no space for error, so he will be also shipped off to his parents!

Haha a couple of nights... I def can't do that - I need my man around in times of panic...

He is the layed back on who chills me out

I'm spending the night before wedding with OH, we will be getting kids and each other ready together, he will be here while I get hair and makeup done, we will be travelling to registry office together and also walking down the aisle together, very non traditional!

Do it if it's what you want! Someone was saying the other day on here they are then going their separate ways after breaky! I like the tradition of not spending the night together and missing each other / getting excited about seeing each other for the next time just as we're about to get married! But I so know what you mean and I really felt for OH yesterday when we were talking with the video man, he was saying OH would need to get to the church 40 mins before it starts, and I think it will be so strange for him without me - and I'll find it really weird that on such an important day we won't be together for a quarter of it! Would also be lovely waking up together on your wedding morning!

If it's right for you both I would def do it, do what feels right!

Im still torn with this idea. Love the idea of not seeing her until the actual morning in all the get up, but then i think about how i wont be able to sleep. May have to just stay with each other and then one of us disspears into another room to get ready!

I would prefer to stay with my OH the night before the wedding, but its just easier if were apart, I think that if were going to have bad luck, were going to have bad luck, it wont be because he has seen the dress or because we stayed together the night before

We are having a family dinner at the venue the night before and we are all staying over but im going to stay in my mums room!

im not a 100% sure why but i think i just like the idea of tradition!

some friends had a similar situation where it was a whole weekend wedding and we all stayed at the venue the night before and they stayed together but then he went and got ready with his brothers. also the bride had breckfast in her room so none of the guests actually saw her until she walked up the aisle! I think im going to do the same!

Im kicking my OH out on the friday morning, while i go out with my sisters an get myself pampered. just think it adds up to the excitment of seeing them at the alter, must admit im looking forward to this has much has im not, lol. x

Lamby - H2B being in the church on his own for 40 mins alone does concern me, so I am going to get a letter to the best man before hand, so that if he does get nervous he can have a letter from me and maybe an Ipod with some songs to calm him down.

I think I am going to stay in the hotel with him all night and then disappear before he wakes up! haha. I know he sleeps very heavy so it's achieveable.

Plus we get married at 3pm so thats a long time to not see him on our special day.

I know that this is traditional and perceived as bad luck, although in my case, my mother made my wifes dress. My mother had been a "court" dressmaker and made outfits for the queen in her(my mothers that is) early career. Circumstances lead to me seeing it before the wedding. Did it bring us bad luck??? Well we are still together 28 years on so I guess not.

Edited to add that a dress on a mannequin bears no resemblance to when it is worn by the one you love.....

Aww Peter - thats it, I am going to check out the hotel - I dont know why I am thinking it is an issue because I have no problem scrapping other "traditional" things!

I don't want OH to see the dress until everyone else see's it on the day - just so that it has the most impact with me being all made up etc.

No I won't be. I like the tradition of not seeing him until I walk down the aisle

Same here!I think it just adds to the excitment of the day that the next time you see eachother is when your getting married Just hope he remembers to shave!lol xx

We are satying together the night befor not that my mum likes that very much but we have 2 little kids and my famly live 30min away so i would be on my own with them. But he is going to his mums the day of the wedding we are only getting marred at 4pm and not been apart for a night or more than 5hrs in 8yrs so not gunna start now

Aw thats really sweet thr1234 - sadly I am used to being away from OH.

Am going to leave it to H2B to decide...

I'm definitely not staying with my OH the night before. I like the idea of him staying the night at his parents and me with my mum. Also, can't bear the thought of having to wait for him to get dressed and ready to go to the service on the day. I'll be up at about 4am in a panic and he'll just roll out of bed ten minutes before he's supposed to be there! And probably still be in the shower when the car comes to pick them up....

No way...my nerves just couldn't stand it! ?