I've ummed and arred (sp?) about asking this because on the face of it this seems a bit petty, but here's my 'problem'.
I love my MIL (who's in her mid 70s) to bits: actually I think I'm very lucky. My only issue is that she talks with her mouth full of food.
I have a real issue with anyone doing this. It's not just that I think 'that's a bit gross': it really makes me feel ill. It's a completely involuntary reaction on my part and I'd say it's almost approaching a phobia (that I can possibly pinpoint to when I was young when my grandma would do this and would end up spraying my food with, well, you can imagine and my mother would frown at me to not make a fuss so I would have to eat it).
I try not to look at her when she's doing it as I hate to see the food in her mouth, but obviously you can hear it, and to even hear the sound of talking through a mouthfull of food makes me feel physically ill. I have to breath very slowly and deliberately and try to concentrate on my own food otherwise I find I can't eat it and feel very nauseous. I'm aware this is an overeaction to the situation and please believe me that it's not one that I cultivate: it's totally involuntary and one that I find difficult to control.
I'm sure she's noticed that I go very quiet at meal times and then, bless her, she tries to talk to me. Which obviously doesn't help.
H knows I have an issue in this area: I've had to talk to him about the way he eats cereals as he uses them as emergency food when he's not eaten enough, and then eats them too quickly sometimes and really noisily (almost with pig noises, if you see what I mean) and tends to hit his teeth with his spoon, which causes the same reaction in me. But I'm not sure I want to tell him about the problem with his mum because as I say she is lovely, she would be mortified if anyone told her, and I don't really think I should be asking someone in their 70s to change anything because of me. I've tried dropping hints at the table: e.g. H tends to join in a bit and willsometimes talk with his mouthful so I'll tend to say 'oh, M, don't talk with your mouthful!' in a kind of joking way which has a short term effect but can only be done when H does it himself. And hints are not an approach I like to take.
But what can I do? I really dont' think I can address this without upsetting anyone so has anyone got any tips to 'zone out' so that it's not so obvious that I'm ignoring people at the table.