Right, I am saying this out loud in public for a reason "Claire, meet the end of the line. Do not pass it, do not collect £200, otherwise you will have a nervous breakdown"
I have been push-push-pushing myself for a number of years now. I have been on anti-depressants for a year now and they're not helping, it's my workload and ambition. I need a good long break before I get ready to go again. My PT job has become pretty much full time, running a small business in the current conditions is a nightmare and it's leaving no time for my almost teenager, toddler (who are pretty stressful ATM in themselves) and my H.
I have long believed that women need to be financially independent and that women can, indeed, have it all. However, that logic is not helping me at the moment. My reserves are fucked. I have had shingles 3 times in 6 months, and have managed to have one day off because of it.
I am not writing this post through some form of self pity, more that I have a problem with admitting that I can't be everything I want to be (simultaneously). This is quite a painful lesson for me. I doing a lot better, last week I was in the depths of despair and thought it would mean I was giving up on my business, letting everyone down, everyone would laugh at me, it was career suicide etc etc etc.
However, thanks to the wise advice of a good friend and a supportive husband, what I have decided to do is go PT (2 or 3 days) for six months. It's a financial risk but, hopefully at the end of that time I will feel more able to take on the world again, and not feel like a failure.
Tell me about your 'end of the line' moments when you just KNEW things had to change. And tell me what happened afterwards. I am still not at all comfortable with feeling vulnerable, even if it is self indulgent.
PS Do you reckon this is just a normal life lesson and part of growing up? Can you still be growing up at 35??