Tempted to call it all off :-( :-(

You poor thing, you must feel so awful. Having said that, I wouldn't call your wedding off. Your lovely hubbie to be has said that he will support you and wear an eye patch too. Why don't you contact as many people invited to the wedding and say that they have to wear eye patches too! It could make it really fun and quirky!

I know that now this must feel like the worst thing inn the world but life is made up of such a rich tapestry I really wouldn't worry that this isn't exactly how you imagined your day to be. I think brides to be worry so much that their day has to be perfect but in the end what matters is that you are marrying the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and sharing it with your family and friends. No one who cares for you will care 2 bits for whether you are wearing an eye patch at all! (and if you're worried about the photos, don't wear the patch- photoshop is a very wonderful thing you know and any photographer worth his/her salt will be able to edit out scars and blood shot eyes!)

You could have Gabrielle for your first dance!!

On a serious note, I think you've got to keep the planning going and have a wonderful day (possibly without eye patches). But you may want to ask your photographer to come back another day (another excuse for you to dress up) for you his and hers close up shots. As you won't be able to see anything in the big group photo's but you may feel slightly concious of it in your solo shots etc.

Is it possible to have the op done privately? it will probably cost less than cancelling the wedding would. Then they would operate immediately!

Otherwise just go with it. I remember a bride on here a few years ago who developed Bells Palsy a couple of days before her wedding. One side of her face had drooped, she couldn't speak properly, eat properly or smile, but she had a fantastic wedding day. The photographer took some lovely shots of her, including some from the other side and she looked wonderful!

Although you might be self conscious alot of the time guests are chatting, eating, dancing, enjoying the day, they will not be looking at you all day long. ?

Aww that is some bad news, but I would agree with all the above and wouldn't cancel.

Hubby and nearest would support you and would do the same if it makes you feel better, you could be a Gabrielle with sparkly patch - but you can take off for photos.

Its something that you can't change if it happens, and your health is important and everyone will support you and you are marrying the man of your dreams who loves you no matter what. and a small 2" piece of material won't make that much difference on the day.

Please go ahead with both

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this, you must feel like its all against you at the moment!

Have you looked into getting the operation done privately? Maybe it won't be THAT expensive? I'm not sure though, I just think it may be worth while looking..Or could you ask if you can go to a different area to see if the waiting list is any shorter? You'll have two weeks after the operation, have they said how long it will need to heal?

I dont think you should call off the wedding either. You can have an eye patch that is made of crystals or something really special! I know that probably doesn't help at all I'm sorry

Dont go cancelling girlie!! Give them a wee phone and tell them the situation in the hospital. but tell them that if you can get a calcellation date anytime in the next few weeks that you would like to have the opportunity to take it. that gives you longer to recooperate, and sorts ther cancellation problem.

Don't cancel!!!!

Definitely check to see whether it would be worth going privately...

Check with the hospital about cancellations...

Speak to your photographer about touching up the photos - it's amazing what they can do...!

xxx

Really sorry to hear about your eye - I really hope that you manage to get it sorted

In regards to the wedding - I am sure if you explained to the hospital your situation they may have a cancelation.

Also speak to your photographer and explain the situation to him - these guys are creative and can probably take some amazing shots and make you feel at ease.

I can understand how you must feel and this must be difficult for you. Best wishes for what ever you decide to do. xx

So sorry to hear about you eye.

But i think everyone has given some fab advice. Get on the phone tomorrow and see about cancellations (cry that always helps!) and if not try private, but please dont cancel!

So sorry to hear about your eye. Like others have said - don't postpone the best day of your life because of this. Get your name down for a cancellation.

Posts like this always make my stomach flip when I start reading them, but what touched me most was when I read where your h2b has said he will wear an eye patch too. I thought that was so sweet and even more reason to marry this man in 12 weeks as planned !

As others said, don't cancel it. Call the hospital and beg! Call the tog and beg! Then relax!

Thank you all SO MUCH!!!

REALLY!! You are ALL great! :-)

Thanks for having a listen :-)

Claire ("ARRGGGHHHHHH") < (Pirate Chat)

I'm a bit late for this one but - poor you!! hope your operation goes smoothly and that perhaps they can fit you in earlier - do call and explain the situation, try again in about a week or so if you don't hear back.

I think your OH is an angel - don't cancel the wedding! its about the two of you getting married and your commitment and love to each other - I think some of the suggestions above - regarding everyone wearing a patch and definitely the photographer are brilliant.

Best of luck xx

First off, big hug,, I know this must be very distressing to you with the wedding looming. But there have been some fabulous suggestions made, and I just love your hubbie and his best man for their show of support.

I second what has been said about discussing this with your photographer, perhaps even see if they will do a little meeting with you to do a mini session to practise poses where you can see that you will look amazing even if you don't have the surgery yet, or if you are healing with an eyepatch. I think that would go far to reassure you and remove that concern. Give your photographer a call and explain your worries.

Good luck with the surgery, hopefully it will happen soon.

Hugs,

Teri