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Beginner April 2012

Text message stress

babelfish42, 10 January, 2012 at 15:00 Posted on Planning 0 7

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I really didn't think i'd get stressed over the wedding. Me and my partner organised most of the main things ages ago as we got engaged Christmas 2010. Since Christmas 2011 my phone has gone mad with texts from family and friends and it's starting to really annoy me. The people aren't even being annoying they are asking sensible things but it the constant intrusion. I suppose i saw it as my thing up till now.

My Brilliant bridesmaid has organised then Hen do but phones me every night to ask questions that i really don't care about e.g. Do we need 7 sashes or 8? who is staying on the sunday? What kind of restaurant? Couldn't find a mexican restaurant with this one do?!!

It feels excessive and i'm starting to find it difficult to concentrate.

My partner has severe depression at the moment and i'm fine about going ahead as he could go through it at any time. He is still good at organising while depressed but it adds to my stress worrying about him.

Am i the only one who gets stressed by these little things like text messages?

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Beginner June 2012
lurvlytwink · 10 January, 2012 at 16:34
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Do you see your bridesmaid often? could you not say "oh i'm so busy, can we talk hen do on tuesday when i see you",

if not then you do kind of need to accept that they are being nice & your bridesmaid it organising your hen do for you..

i've done the easy option and said i want nothing to do with it want a full suprise so then i am not being asked at all x
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Beginner March 2013
Nutella · 10 January, 2012 at 17:07
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Consider yourself lucky, if only my bridesmaids were that interested!

Just tell her straight that you can't cope with all the constant texts, could you arrange to meet up once a week for a planning session? Or short of that just ask her to email you instead, adding all the bits she thinks of through the day onto 1 email for you to get back to her about rather than constantly texting.
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Beginner June 2012
jojo2 · 10 January, 2012 at 17:32
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We usually get posts on here about BM that are totally uninterested so that makes a pleasant change but I can see how annoying it must be.

I would tell her you can't be on call every minute to talk weddings so if she could make a note of all her questions as they pop into her head and then you hook up once a week or month dependant on how long until your wedding.

She is clearly really excited and wanting to do you proud so I would be careful how you approach her with this. She can be mine if she likes I lost one who couldn't care less!
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Beginner August 2013
debs35 · 10 January, 2012 at 19:28
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Same here! my friends are uninterested and my family have finally backed off for now! there just isnt a balance! lol!
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Beginner June 2012
vebec19862 · 10 January, 2012 at 21:18
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Lol can we swap?? you can have mine who isn't doing anything haha
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Beginner July 2012
Vickydrip · 11 January, 2012 at 15:52
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I have to laugh, when I first looked at the title I thought it said 'Text message dress' and wondered how that would work!!!!

I am organising most things myself, as I am a control freak, and I think my BM's are happy with that :-)
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Beginner June 2013
HAR5678 · 26 December, 2012 at 23:52
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I think it is best if you organise a time to have a phone conversation about it all - she can write down all the Q she wants to ask you. Surely if she has organised it she knows who is staying for which nights & now many sashes to order? if she isnt already, get her to email direct to the other girls on the hen do. and if that doesnt work, politely say that you have lots to organise for the main day and that you *NEED* her help to run the hen do. people love to feel needed!
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