ThanK you presents - in general

I say only get a gift if you want to - after all gifts are to show appreciation / say thanks / spoil someone and if you don;t want to do any of these then you don't have to buy a gift!

Maybe a thank you card would be enough

At the risk of sounding a little abrupt I think the best man "not expecting" a present seems an odd reason not to get him one? I personally think it's bad form not to get some token of appreciation for a best man or bridesmaids.

this, even if it just a thank you card, for being part fo the wedding party on the day!!

Mr F wants to get the nest man a watch and have it engraved on the back..

We have two ushers, we will get them somethign small

I have got the 3 BMs jewellery to wear on the day and My Beautiful Journal and some other bits and pieces..

I kind of agree, i cannot envisage our BM or Bestman doing anything at all to do with the wedding other than turning up on time at the right place, ushers are my brother and cousin who are probably going to be messing winding my mother up rather than actually doing their job.

I'm sure I will get them something, though im not sure what!

I dont think you are being mean, We are having gift bags for all our guests (having a small wedding 25 people) just to give something back to our friends and family for all help and support over the years rather then thank you gifts for contributing to the wedding as like you nobody else is actually contributing financially or in the organising/planning so dont see why we should single some guests out over others for special gifts. However i must point out my OH works in events and gets loads of freebies so putting together our gift bags wont be at much expence to ourselves, we probably wouldnt bother if it wasnt for this.

However I will be buying thank you gifts for is the wedding manager/coordinator on the day as OH works in events i appreciate how hard these people work to make sure everything runs smoothly (service charge is already included in our bill so i another cash tip isnt really appropriate) that is assuming the day runs smoothly if not i will keep their gifts for myself LOL.

We are doing everything for our wedding ourself, paying everything, planning everything etc. My BM hasn't done anything, not even planned my hen party (this was due to a family death), I have bought her full outfit for the day. I will still be buying her a gift - prob her jewellery on the day.

We are buying the mums (and step mums) flowers and will make each set of parents an album with the photos from the day.

Best man has got a "brick" engraved with his name at the stadium of the football team he supports and my 3 pageboys will all get a gift. (They will also have done nothing except show up).

Dont think you have to buy anything and it is completelly your decision as it is your wedding but I wouldnt not buy any gifts.

The fact you are asking the question suggests that you are doubting your decision? (maybe im wrong on this one)

Generally I think that at least the Best Man and Bridesmaid should have a thankyou gift. Mainly because although they may not be doing anything in the "run up" to the day, they will be busy on the day helping, the Best man has a speech to do, the Bridesmaid generally helps the bride with things like the train on her dress etc.

In the end though, it's your wedding, so entirely upto you

If you do decide you want to buy something, we do stock a wide range of items that would be suitable, many can be engraved

We're doing gifts, my parents have helped us a lot so couldn't imagine not giving them anything. The best man and bridesmaids haven't really helped a lot but considering what they have to do on the day and the fact they could have said no we wanted to give them something as well. It won't be a lot but just something to say that we appreciate what they have done for us. We have also got oh's Mum and Nan something as they will be contributing some money as well.

Even if the bridesmaid/best man/any significant others aren't doing much to plan for the day, I still think its polite to get a thank you for them being part of it. Did you ask them because you wanted them to be part of your special day, or because you wanted them to help stick done ribbons on invitations? I don't envisage we'll get much help from ours, but that's not why I asked them!

I think it's nice and just 'the done thing' to get the bridesmaids and best man/men something. Even if they havne't helped as such with the planning they will surely have an important role with this on the day...keeping you both calm, holding flowers, rings, adjusting outfits etc. I suppose if your parents aren't helping in any way at all then maybe don't get them anything, I'm not sure about that one ?

We are getting everyone in the bridal party something; our parents have all contributed some money, BM and moh are arranging our stag and hen nights and will be helping with last minute details the day before and day of the wedding. We are going to make our bridesmaids and ushers work for their presents with readings, seating people and looking after the kids if they get cranky ? and the the flower girls and pageboy just for being there.