The cheek of some people!!

No, and I've never understood why some people do! We had something similar happen to us. We trotted out the "we're only having a very small wedding etc"

Loads of times! One girl said the other day about how hard seating plans must be and I was like, yeah I guess so, and she said, oh just seat me wherever. I said, erm no need, you're only coming to the evening!

This one of those things that is so bad you have to laugh!!

I havent had anyone invite themself, but my mum has asked people if they are coming (who are not invited) so have had to invite them now! (only to the eveing).

I dont think I would even invite them to the evening if it was me, specailly not as not only is he assuming that he is invited he is demanding that you give him a plus one with out any regard to if you have venue restrictions or anything!

Pure cheek as you said.

It IS really cheeky and whilst I'm not condoning it AT all, sometimes blokes don't think about things like this the same way we do. He probably thinks it's just similar to asking to coming along to a night out and by offering to pay his costs he'll be thinking he's doing you a favour and I reckon he would be shocked that this could annoy/offend you!! Until you plan a wedding it can be hard to understand about seating plans, numbers, budgets etc etc...

Men! Pah! (I'm a little bit hormonal at the moment so I do apologise to any men reading this)

"Ha, very good. It's all sorted mate, sorry. Can we catch up another time?".

We had OH's dead best friends mum beg to come (did you follow that)?

She asked 3 times eventually we relented and said she could come to ceremony and that was all as we only had one seat available but she could not come to the rest of the day as the venue was now at capacity.

She emailed saying great Her plus her 2 daughters couldnt wait. Emailed back saying no no there is just one seat left no one else can come so she said her pregnant daughter could have the seat she would stand. Again emailed back no sorry fire regulations we can have no more than 60 people only one human being more can attend and that is you. So she said Oh well Daughter can watch I will wait outside.

In the end I got MOH to call and tell her and her family to F off we were only being polite letting her come and then she invited her daughters as well.

Then a few days before the wedding another guest emailed us to say he was bring his kids. Not can I bring them but I am bringing them. Mad panic had to buy extra kids packs, rearrange the entire table plan and do new name cards and table (all name cards were linked to the table names so we had to redo near enough everything)

We found out by accident another guest was bring his mistress not his wife...

? Haha, That made laugh! It sounds like my nan, hears but doesnt listen!!

Yes I agree about the man thing, I was quite surprised actually that OH laughed at the cheek of it I thought he would just say let them come. Even though I've never met her and have no idea who she is, I can imagine the plus one is mortified that he's just invited them along!!

Or..."sorry mate, don't recognise the name, where do I know you from?"

Yep! I (perhaps foolishly) got overexcited and put a post up on Facebook saying something along the lines of "sent invitations x days ago and already had some replies, very exciting" and one of H's distant mates said "haven't received mine"! Er because you weren't invited! Then he sent me a message saying "Just wanted to check if I AM invited".

Then to complicate matters it turned out the best man had invited him to the stag do and he was coming to that. We decided to send him an evening invitation to avoid awkwardness, but we did have a large evening reception so it wasn't like he was crashing an intimate wedding.

The bloody cheek!

I invited a colleague of mine (who isn't a particularly close friend) and she asked at the time if it was ok to bring her 13 year old daughter. I said no, really sorry, we're up to the capacity already. Thought no more of it. She turned up with sulky daughter in tow (who I've never met, who didn't even say hello or congratulations!) My parents were too polite to turn her away so ended up rearranging tables to accommodate her. Luckily someone else dropped out on the day due to illness so we had an extra seat but I couldn't believe it! I was fuming but just didn't know what to say. I didn't see her again for a few weeks because of honeymoon etc and by that time it was a bit too late to say anything. I wish I hadn't bothered inviting her in the first place. It was only because we had a boozy after party for all our workmates and friends a couple of weeks later that she wasn't invited to as she would have been uncomfortable in that environment (she's quite religious) so I thought I'd be nice and invite her to the ceremony instead. No more mrs nice guy from now on!