The Diet Issue!

Hiya! If you feel happy & comfortable as you are then i agree why loose weight?! Don't feel any pressure to do so.

Me on the otherhand, I've steadily gained 2stone over the last 2 years. I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel like me & I couldn't think of anything worse than seeing pics of myself like this on my wedding day & hating them. I tried doing slimming world, worked in the first couple of weeks then nothing. Have now started herbalife this week & so far so good. You eat or have a shake every 2-3 hours, i don't feel hungry & i feel great after only 3 days on it!

I think loosing weight for your wedding is a personal choice x

I am/have lost weight, for 2 reasons

1. My dress was a sample and was too small.

2. I felt rotten about myself, had done for a while.

BUT I say If you are happy and comfortable with yourself then don't do it. There is no reason why you should diet if you don't want to. I've always said I don't care what size I end up, bigger or smaller, I just want to be happy with myself.

just want to add....stupid gym people, what gives them the right to tell you that you are overweight. Jerks!

If you are happy with yourself and not putting your health at risk (and it really doesn't sound like it!) then why bother?

I get married in 10 weeks, I have been engaged for 6. Over the last 2 years I have gained 2 stone due to being lazy and an underactive thyroid. I feel uncomfortable how I am now, my thighs rub and my arms wobble, both things that never happened before so I plan to lose weight and tone up before thebig day because although my dress looks stunning just as I am, it flatters my pear shape and hides my mega hips I feel my face is puffy and rounded and that I just don't look as good as I used to and I want to feel like I look good on my wedding day.

You will definitely find a dress that flatters you, whether you are a size 8 or a size 30. Go with what make you happy.

I lost nearly 2 stone for our wedding. I am fairly small built but having got far too comfy with OH, had gone from a size 10 to a 12/14. I didn't do anything other than calorie count and got back to a comfortable size 10 easily. As long as you are happy with yourself then don't be pressured to lose any weight. I only did it because I wasn't comfortable and knew I was being lazy. As it happens I am now pregnant and piling all the weight back on *sigh*!

I initially wanted to, and early this year I lost a stone and a half. Then about Easter I just lost motivation and stopped. I was constantly obsessing about calories and making myself miserable, so I decided it was better to stop and try to be happy with how I am now than send myself crazy. I am still eating sensibly and maintaining my weight, but I'm having my dress made to fit me now and remembering that my H2B loves me just as I am.

If you feel comfortable in your own skin and your health isn't suffering stay as you are.

I won't be getting married until 2016 but I need to lose weight as I have high blood pressure. I am like you as I always think that I would like to be smaller but to be honest I bloody love food and hate exercising.

Hmmmh I must get onto losing a few inches though.

I initially planned to but with the stress of planning the wedding, work getting in the way etc I haven't. If anything I've put a bit of weight on. Bought my dress and thought I'd still lose a bit before the day. Had my first fitting for my dress a month ago and it fits so now I'm just thinking why bother. I'm being careful-ish so I don't put loads of weight on and find that I can't get in my dress but that's it.

If you're happy I wouldn't bother, why give yourself something else to stress over when you already have enough to think about!

InkedDoll, that is exactly what I think i'll end up doing! I lost about half a stone at the beginning of last year but just lost motivation when I got really busy with work. I don't want to end up not having any fun because i'm constantly worrying about what i'm eating.

If you're comfortable then stay as you are! You're the perfect version of you and your fiancé obviously thinks so :-)

I need to lose a bit of weight. I had a baby 6 months ago and the weight is just literally 'hanging' around! I'm making a conscious effort to eat properly and put down the sweets. I don't want to overdo it though. The lady in the dress shop has ordered my dress a size smaller. She said I should have lost my tum by then. I'm feeling a little bit of pressure!!

I wanted to order my dress in a size smaller but the lady wouldn't let me

Much easier to take it in than let it out- you are also more likely to get a better fit anyway as no dress fits perfectly. The wedding shop people know their stuff.

I didn't want to order it in a smaller size :-( I would rather it was bigger and have it taken in. I bought it a month ago and I was between a size 10 and 12. The sample was a 12 and she said in a years time my mum tum will be flatter and ordered the 10. I'm hoping she's right otherwise I'm screwed!

I'm not over weight but I definitely don't want to put any weight on. I've given up biscuits and chocolate which are my two main vices. I'm still treating myself with a pudding here and there, just being sensible. Hoping to build up my exercise routine by then too (just recovering from a knee op).

I had been a yo yo dieter for all of my adult life (so 25 years, given that I started when I was 15). It was only when I met H2B at 41 that I started to see things differently. I'm not "big" but I do have hips, a backside, thighs that wobble, and I have stretch marks and cellulite. But I'm a size 10-12, not huge. I can go between an 8 on top, and a 14 on the bottom, depending on loads of stuff, so it is a case of finding clothes that fit properly for my shape, exercising and eating properly.....I like cake, I like wine, therefore I have to exercise in order that I can enjoy those foods.

and that makes life good, because H2B loves my curves, the backside that I had always destested as "too big", he (for some reason) thinks is the sexiest thing in the world, and therefore there is no need for me to constantly be looking to lose that extra 3lbs that I was always striving to lose before, on the basis that "if I just lost....." and we can enjoy our food without me counting points or whatever craze I was on at the time.

When I went to buy my dress, I said to the lady in the shop, make me look the very best you can, at THIS size, and I will maintain that. I am not going to stand here and be one of those brides who says they will lose a dress size, or lose half a stone. This is me, this is who I am, and this is who H2B loves. He doesn't want someone miserable because they are trying to lose those extra 2 inches or 3lbs! I also said I didn't want anything that was going to need the help of Spanx or Chicken Fillets....he won't be appreciating those on the wedding night!

And, you know what, she made me look A-Ma-Zing. The first dress she pulled out, was nothing I would have DARED try on myself.

https://www.purebrides.co.uk/wedding-dresses.php?dressId=84

This is the dress, that I am having, curves and all. I am a good half a stone over the top end of my BMI as far as weightwatchers is concerned, I am only 5ft 4 so can't get away with saying I am tall, but in this dress, I feel like a Hollywood Glamourpuss!

When she took my measurements, my boobs came out at a size 10, my waist at a size 8 (!) and my hips at a mahoosive 16 (for this particular designer). The dress in the shop that I tried on was a 10 but had been stretched by people trying it on, so I expected to order in a 12. But they have ordered a 14, and will bring everything in to fit perfectly. They know what they are doing, and if I can feel that good in the shop size 10, I can only imagine how good I will feel in the perfectly fitting version.

So, the point of this long rambling post is to be who you are, not who you think you should be. For some that means losing the weight they have genuinely wanted to lose before - and therefore is a good motivator. But for others who may be thinking "if I could only lose.....lbs.....I would be happier", I would say think about what really makes you, and your H2B (and your children if appropriate) happy.

Sorry - having been in such a bad place diet-wise/body image-wise over many years, I do get rather passionate about this subject!!

I have been umming and ahhing about the EXACT same thing!! Actually it could of been me writing this post, as we are the same dress size!

At the moment, I am unsure as to whether I will loose any weight. I always thought I would, as I didn't want to be a 'fat' bride, but is that me thinking that, or brain washing by magazines and society that I have to be a certain size?

I have put on about 1/2 stone since I started my new job nearly a year ago (less moving around, more time in front of a PC and a town centre 30 seconds walk away, NOT a good mix!!) which I think I would like to loose before the wedding, which will help with my moon face, as I call it, and slight double chin that I get when I put on weight. I do plan to tone my arms up as much as I can be bothered, as they will be on show.

I still want to feel like me on the wedding day, and slimming down to a size 8/10 isn't me, as I think I was a teenager the last time I was that small BUT on the flip side I do worry that I will look back at the pictures and regret now being slimmer etc!! My H2B has said he wants to loose his food baby belly before the wedding, so maybe we can do it together and loose a stone or two each?

Grrrr I find it so difficult!!

Sorry not a very helpful reply, but you are definitely not alone in thinking like this

I am on Slimming World at the moment and will carry on with that I think. I have never wanted to lose much weight in the first place - rather I wanted to drop a few lbs before my holiday (which I have just got back from) so that I could enjoy myself without worrying about what I was eating. Same for Christmas etc.

I don't want to look back at my pics and grimace but at the same time I don't want to put too much pressure on myself. I don't need to dress shop until May 2015 really so am going to keep on as I am and see where I am at the time. What I really want to do is start exercising so that I can tone up a bit (I also suffer with this laziness some of you are talking about lol)

But I think if a sales lady told me that by the time I got married I would have 'lost my tummy' I would really take that to heart and get upset by it. How dare she be so presumptuous and assume you are dieting!

A dear old lady who is a regular customer of mine asked me the other day if I'm dieting for my wedding. I know she didn't mean any harm, but the belief that all brides want to/should lose weight is so pervasive. This was on the same day that a strange man had yelled "SMILE" at me in the street, so I ended up feeling like my appearance clearly isn't socially acceptable! It sucks.

I have posted this article before but for those of you who didn't see it, it's worth a read:

http://www.xojane.com/healthy/um-no-i-didnt-lose-weight-for-my-wedding

Thanks for that article link, that was a really good read!

I was initially worrying about dieting and exercising as I do need to lose a few pounds before my dress fits properly.
However the weight I want to lose is the weight that was gained from to many take-aways and DVD Sundays ... oops ...so I'm not wanting to change beyond the point of recognition.

I'm confident (now) that eating healthy and reinstating my evening walks & weekend swims will have me back to where I was in no time.
But there's no way I want to be drastically different, after all my OH fell in love with me when I was curvy size 16 and that's enough to give me confidence.

It is bad that everyone assumes brides have to diet, but it is a personal choice
X

Hi there....

I am a size 20/22 and i was told by my oh so lovely work colleagues that i have to lose weight for my wedding so i will look nice in my wedding dress.... they got told where to go.

I did think, when we first got engaged in 2012, that i would lose weight but i've never actually 'gotten around to it' as it were lol! I hate having my photo taken any way but our photographer is amazing and our pre wedding shoot pictures are lovely so i didn;t feel as self conscious.

My dress is stunning with a corset which holds me in (and up!) and i felt beautiful in the dress without losing a load of weight (as it is i've lost half a stone without trying) and hubby to be says what the point in losing loads of weight to not look like me when he proposed to me because of who and what i am.

I guess what i am trying to say is that if you want to lose weight do it for you, noone else and not because you're expected to because 'thats what brides do'....not all of us do ?

If you are comfortable and happy with how you look then no way should you change yourself, go through months of misery and denying yourself treats for the sake of some wedding pictures!

I fluctuate between 12 and 14 and slimmed down to a small 12 for my first wedding dress appointment. I've lost about a stone, but my boobs have completely disappeared, my H2B not very happy ha! It all comes down to this society perception of everyone thinking they have to be a stick insect to look beautiful - you clearly know that you look and feel good the way that you are, it is YOUR day, make sure YOU are happy xx

Having dressed 240 brides in the last 2 years, all of them between a size 16 and 38 I can honestly say if you like yourself the way you are then dont stress yourself out by trying to lose weight to please other people!

You would not believe how many ladies I have walk into the shop and the first thing they announce is "obviously" they are going to be losing weight for the wedding. My reply is always "why?". Often they are a bit bemused by that as it is not what they are used to hearing in wedding dress shops but then I go on to explain that to start with they are getting married, so someone loves them just the way they are and how they feel about themselves is the only things that really matter. Once they have a well fitted gown on that supports and flatters they start to really believe what I see and that is that they can look amazing without actually losing an ounce.

If you WANT to lose weight then by all means go ahead and do it and im another advocate of Slimming World (I lost 5 1/2 stone on it until I realised I actually loved food too much and hated the gym, hence im now a size 22!) but find a good dress shop that has samples in your size and try some on, it can be a great confidence boost!

These are just a few of our brides. Every single one of them is over a size 16 and looked stunning!

I'm kinda loosing weight but I've been on a medical elimination diet for 10 weeks and 4 more to go where your not allowed sugar, caffine, alcohol, dairy, eggs, wheat, other glutens, yeast and high salt. So basically I'm forced to have a very healthy diet and have lost 15 lb's as a result.

My natural size used to be a size 8 and I'm about a size 10-12ish at the moment - I've got until April to be the size I'm going to be as that's when I'm getting my dress made.