The dreaded 'D' word...

OMG I can totally identify with you. I too am hopeless at dieting although I relly need to lose some weight. I bought my wedding dress 2 sizes too small but was getting so stressed out that I have now bought a new dress and put my other one up for sale! I would still like to lose a stone tho with 15 weeks to go.

I would be happy to speak with you and see if we can encourage each other to maybe cope with this and share any advice we get from other people who are probably better at dieting than we are.

We could chat through PM too if you prefer.

Just to add if you have already lost 2 stones since the start of the year up until you became ill that is marvellous. That proves you can do it. You probably just need to get back on track since being ill.

Good luck !!

You know what, that would be so fantastic!! I need to make myself really obsess over my diet or I just eat rubbish - I have worked out that if I can consistently lose 2lbs a week from now until August then I should have lost enough weight for my dress fitting. I just need to stick to it and having that support there makes it so much easier - all my friends are sick of hearing me talk about salad now!!

My dress is only a size too small, and I've got a corset underneath it too, but I bought it thinking 'I WILL do this' - and as of yet I haven't! xx

Thank you! I just keep kicking myself, that if I didn't have so many slip ups I'd have easily reached my target by now! xx

I am also afraid I'm not entirely sure how to do this... (not very forum-savvy!) xx

Hey,

Don't beat yourself up about slip ups, I don't think anyone that has been on a diet has stuck to it religiously every single day! To echo what olderbride has said, you've already lost two stone which is fantastic! I've managed to lose a bit of weight over the past year - I've not been in the gym every day and I DEFINITELY haven't been keeping away from the chocolate, it's little things like walking to the next tube station on from my nearest one which isn't that far, but it adds ten minutes on. On the way home from the office I've also started to do a 30 minute walk to get to another tube station which, when I have my music on, doesn't seem that far at all and especially on sunny days, it doesn't seem like a chore. I'm strict with myself and I only don't do the walk if it's very very heavy rain. Is there anything like that you'd be able to do?

Best of luck, to the both of you ?

Hello! There's not really anything like that I can add into my day, but I can take the dogs a bit further every evening, and I'm going to turn the gym into my religion. Quiet excited about the 30 day shred too, although I'm a little worried there's not enough room in my lounge lol! 2lbs a week is manageable, I just need a kick up the backside whenever I think about cake!

BadgerBeetle can you Pleeeeeese add me to the motivation thingy! I also need to shift a couple of stone or 3!!!! My dress can be adjusted if needs be but I would love for it not to have to. I ideally need to shift 4 inches off my bust/back by mid October. My doctor very crudely (I prefer blunt & direct) says that nobody every came out of Belson fat!!! Horrid I know. Have you tried getting the portion control plate? I found one on Amazon and it was more than I would normally pay but ........ It is what that really annoying man uses on Fat Families!

Anyway I am dribbling....... Count me in for motivation please ?

The doctor at the family planning clinic told me - and I QUOTE - 'whenever you're about to eat, go to the mirror, strip off, wobble, and think about how disgusting you look to everybody else'. I left in tears, thought OH was going to flatten him and now see my GP instead of that horrid little man!!

I don't know if you'd be up for it, but I'd happily PM you my mobile number if you like. We can text each other whenever the threat of cake looms...

(someone will have to teach me how to PM first, of course...)

I empathise - I USED to be excellent at losing the weight, but would yoyo back up within a year. My wardrobe is full of clothes from size 12 to size 18!

I technically don't *need* to lose weight for my dress (I had ordered it 2 sizes smaller, bespoke dress anyway, and they cocked up another aspect of it (length and fastening) so were having to re-make it again anyway so they offered to measure me and make it to my then-size to take the weight-loss pressure off. When she measured me, she recorded my waist as 38" [:'(] and it's now down to 35" but I really want it at 32" and me as a 'loose size 16' rather than the current tight 16!

I have less than 10 weeks, and really struggle with motivation. I've decided the 'calories in' is what I struggle to control, so have decided to up my exercise to try and increase 'calories out' in an effort to burn some fat - I've started a very gradual running programme to take me from totally unfit (I had an accident 10 months ago and then surgery on my ankle and am only just at the stage where I can do more exercise) to running for 30 mins continually, in 10 weeks. If nothing else, I'll be fat and fit which I know will make me look better as I'll be more toned!

Good luck ladies...

Hi ladies

Have any of you tried my fitness pal? I was needing to lose an inch all over to fit into my dress so set up an account on there and downloaded the app to my phone.

You'd be suprised how quickly things fall off when you try something new. In a week I lost 3 pounds (well to date, I need to weigh myself again) and an inch all over! I actually couldn't believe it.

I set it so I was supposed to lose a pound a week so fully expect it to slow down with the loss, but its a great kick start, so maybe try that? I doesnt tell you off if you go over your targets either, it just tells you how much you will weigh in 5 weeks instead of what it could have been if you had less calories.

It's all based on percentages, so you are eating the right balance of nutrients to keep your body going so no starving - although my fiance is doing it too and chose to lose 2 pounds a week and did nearly starve, it was a bit of a shock for him lol

Anyway, hope it all goes well, the fact you have lost weight before shows you can do it so kee your spirits up!

I've started reading labels a lot more - I was struggling at work when everyone else nipped to the staff shop for afternoon treats, but was settling for Drench orange juice drinks to be 'healthy' and still have something sweet. No wonder it's bloody sweet, there's as much sugar in one 400ml bottle as there is in THREE WHOLE DOUGHNUTS!! Volvic 'touch of' flavoured water is no better - 27g of sugar in one bottle!!

So it's plain water for me, and I'm cutting out bread and pasta too. Tomorrow's tea is rice and slow-cooked aubergine, spinach and tomatoes (I'm a vegetarian, so aside from my sweet tooth I'm relatively healthy, just eat too much of everything!). xx

Just eaten my last bit of chocolate!!! ?

I've just had 2 chocolate teacakes... and a peanut butter kitkat... and a crabbies ginger beer....

One last calorific blow out before tomorrow :-/

Well, here we go. 10 minutes in to the wedding dress fat melt.

I SHALL do this!!

10 mins in - love it ?

I've registered with My Fitness Pal - sadly drowned my android phone, so have a clunky old nokia so no app for me but I'm logging on when I get in from work instead.

It's very motivating - tonight I went for a walk / jog, and despite eating breakfast, lunch, 2 jaffa cakes and a chocolate crispy cake (!) I still have over 700 cals left for dinner thanks mainly to the run (and I only ran for a total of 9 mins, split up into 6 x 90 second bursts with walking in between as I'm VERY unfit!)

We can do this ladies!!

Please can I join?!??

I am such a yo-yo-er too! I've been as much as 3 stone lighter than I am currently and nearly a stone heavier too (so currently nearer my heaviest ☹️)

I've been meaning to get slim 'for the wedding' well not just for the wedding maybe I should say in time for the wedding and I did start and then fall off the wagon but currently back on it at the moment!

If I'm really strict I could lose that 3 stone (lost 7lb of it already) by the wedding, although think 2 stone may be more realistic, my main problem is the exercise side of things! I can never seem to find the time or motivation to exercise! I love swimming but not got the money for that with the wedding to pay for! And I work 7:30-6 most days!

The thing I hate most is I know the weight falls off when I'm really 'good' so I can do it it's just never that easy is it?!

Definately do-able. My wife and daughter have been on a bespoke diet and have shifted 3.5 stone each in 5 months. Daughter lost 6" off her waist in the process. and is now at her target weight and spot on mid BMI range. Home cooked food rather than quickie off the shelf dinners and strict calorie counting worked well for them. Many of their dishes have the option of being veggie including a veggie tandoori paneer whih comes in at 375 calories, is absolutely gorgeous(and I am not on a diet) and is almost too much to eat, even for me. Dieting does not have to mean eating less, just eating wisely.

Good luck. With the right attitude, you can really do it.?

Peter

edited to add that we just had Cauldron saugages(not bad veggie stuff for meateater me) in a toad in the hole with vegetables which came in at 360 calories....

The more the merrier as far as I'm concerned! Today hasn't been a brilliant first day to be honest (I'm well within my calorie count, but it's not been very *good* food on the menu). Just made my salad up for work tomorrow though, and I'm hitting the gym tomorrow evening! It (supposedly) takes 21 days to form a habit, so I'm going to force myself to go as often as possible.

I just keep thinking of how gutted I'm going to be if I feel fat on my wedding day

Peter - TThanks for the encouragement!! Cauldron is lush! Try Redwood Foods too if you can (some Morrisons sell them, and Holland and Barratt). Heavenly - especially the fishless fingers!!

How's everyone getting on? I've had 7 days on MFP now and it's very educational! Overall, I've been within my weekly calorie limits (by 720 cals so managing it quite comfortably!) but I've realised I'm still eating too many carbs and not enough protein, so my aim this week is to rectify that. I've done tonnes of exercise - burnt double the 'goal' amount of weekly calories and relaised I'd done nearly 6 hours worth of exercise!

Weigh in this morning and lost 2lbs, feels slow compared to some of the previous diets I've done, but if I keep that rate up I'll be more than a stone lighter by the wedding (2 months today!) and I hope this is an eating plan for life.

Another one here that would advocate MyFitnessPal!

I lost 19lbs on it and you really think about what you're eating because you can type in what you're about to eat before you eat it and it will tell you what the cals, fat, protein and carbs would be!

There is a fantastic forum on there too.

Also, if you exercise, you get to eat more because MFP calculates what you could eat in calories etc and still lose weight without exercising, so if you do any exercise, you burn off calories, so you need to eat them back or you would go into 'starvation mode' where your body clings onto its' fat. Complicated but it really works!

I'm on MFP too

Definitely agree with Skyrocket on aiming to track your food before you eat it! On really organised weeks I track my meals before I do the main food shop - stops me buying anything I'm not really meant to be eating.

I lost 21 pounds in the run up to my friend's wedding last year, of which I put on about 7 back in a year of not really tracking. I've lost that 7 again in the past 3 months, and am aiming to lose another 7 or so in the next 4 weeks before my final dress fitting in mid-June!

Good luck everyone!

Hello!

Do you mind if I join too. I've been using a website called Slimkicker, which is good as it gives you points for all the good choices you make and exercise you do but I think it's an American site and I've found the food log side a little limited, so I'm going to try MFP. My problem isn't exercising it's overeating or choosing the sugary option rather than the healthy options. They say loosing weight is 30% exercise and 70% diet so I need to sort out the 70%!

I get married in around four months and want to loose at least 3 stone, so after a really piggy weekend I'm starting fresh today.

Hey All,

I'm not looking to lose weight but I have been steadily eating more and more and more n the past few months and most of that has been very bad foods!

So me and my sister are trying to take back control and eat healthily. My self control is usually pretty good but lately it has been terrible so bring on the motivation!

as I'm a big foodie and love to eat good organic and all that jazz - here's a website that I love

http://www.dietriffic.com/weight-loss/ it has some great tips about eating the right foods to keep you on track and some good info to help you understand stuff as well. for eg if you crave sweet things then why not have peanut butter (sugar free ofc) with natural honey on a ricer?! lot of sweetness and protein so also an energy boost. or instead of sugar/honey use a fruit syrup which is much heathier and natural.

another good one for getting a good balance of food is eatingwell.com

good luck everyone!
xx

Hello! Finally found a few minutes to get on here (sorry for my slow reply!).

To be honest, I'm struggling a bit. All I want to do is eat! Although having said that, I am staying within my calorie allowance.

Where has all my motivation gone girls?! xx

Don't give up! We all get days (err, weeks and months!) like this.

Maybe don't put too much pressure on yourself? I have found that I've struggled to stay motivated more since I realised my dress fitting is less than 4 weeks away - you think it would be the other way around, but I think the idea that I have a finite (and small!) amount of time makes something in my brain determined to sabotage my best efforts!

*All I can think about at the moment is the creme egg in the fridge*

What an awful person. I think I would flatten him, never mind my OH. I can't believe someone would SAY that!! Good luck anyway, i'm sure you'll lose what you need to

S x

Daughter hit "goal" weight today......4 stone lost in 5.5 months, now weighing in at 10st 3lbs....congratulations to a great daughter.....

Peter

I know!! I know I'm overweight but no need to be so cruel about it! Worst part was, as I was leaving a very heavy lady went in after me - felt like warning her!! xx

Well done her!!!! I now have 2 months to lose 2 stone. And today, I discovered that new Truvia sweetener. A love affair has started... xx

Of course you can do it! You have proved to yourself that it has worked and don't beat yourself up about a couple of weeks slip up.I'm terrible at dieting, but I find it helps if you have a word with OH. Mine will not let me eat his left overs and give me disapproving looks if I eat too many biscuits! Also stick pictures of the dress everywhere; just to keep your mind on track what your aiming for. Good luck you'll be fine xxx