The Non Fluffy Random Wedding Chat Thread

Seconded I am fed up to the back teeth of it and just want to go on holiday NOW!

I hate questions that fellow hitchers ask where they are clearly chuffed about something and think if they try to disguise their self satisfaction by a " what do you think" then get uppity when you disagree. Why not just say, these are my choices and I love hem and frankly believe that they are unbeatable, don't care what you think, I'm on here to gloat about my marvellous wedding stuff! Lol

Ooh ooh ooh and " no need to reply/comment" if that's the case why bother posting? Write it on a piece of paper and bin it if you really not want praise, comfort, sympathy!

That's my entire wedding, (well I'm calling it Royal purple)!! Best to avoid any flashes from me in the future ?

I'm very very grateful to my parents for paying for our wedding but I'm getting really fed up with having to justify every single decision we make and running eveything past them. Also, as they're hosting, the rsvp's are being sent to their house and I'm pissed that I won't get to have that excitement of receiving one.

I'm fed up of hearing "how much" when I mention the cost of anything. It's not the 1970s anymore, things cost more, and if thats what we want for our wedding, and its been agreed, what business is it of yours how much it costs?

Stop asking me how the planning's going as a permanent conversation opener. It's mostly done, I'm now bored. I'm not going to discuss details all the time cause 1. it will bore you and 2. it bloody bores me having to repeat everything.

I wish people wouldn't assume everything. Assume they automatically get invited. Assume they automatically get BM status... etc etc blah blah

I could go on but should stop now!

Oh and as a stupid rant to myself - I'm fed up of being a big fat ass but I like nice food!!

I'm fed up with ot posts being in the wp section of the forum!

I also don't like people asking all the time 'how is the planning going' fine now leave me alone!

I so love this thread. I tend to just not reply at all if I don't like something incase I offend, sometimes if I know the other hitcher hasn't bought the dress, shoes or decided on the hair I can make some suggestions but if I don't like the shoes or the photo of the bride in their pics I don't say anything. Not sure about you but wouldn't know how to word 'yuck you looked disgusting I'd never have picked that dress, those colours etc....' so best not to say anything! x

At the moment i tend not to reply to much- since i have joined i feel there is a different feel- cant put my finger on it though!

completly agree with the 'yuck you look horrid' thing- although i have had to bite my tongue and log off before i say it hehe!

I am sick and tired of people rubbing their amazing honeymoon plans in my face when I am not having one! ☹️

Also, feeling crap about having no sisters or friends to offer help etc and being left to do everything....even my own hen night (which will consist of my mum, aunts and the partners of my brothers and cousins!) grrrrr

I hate that my aunt who was the last one to get married in the family has appointed herself a 'wedding guru'. She somehow knows best and what makes it worse is that everyone thinks so too...purely because she has a whiney big ass mouth!

I've been given her tiara and veil and now am expected to wear it as she hasn't any girls of her own and it would be lovely as a little 'gift' to her on the day! I look like a right ninny in it, but guilt is a powerful thing and I may have to bend to their wishes!

I don't care if long cascading flowers might make me look more slimming, I want it MY WAY! But no no, my aunt wasn't satisfied with just telling me, she called my gran, my other aunts to tell them how silly I'm being and how it will ruin everything on the photo's. My gran then called my mum to tell her off for letting me choose something so awful and mum is miserable with people interfering though. Saying that, she is terrible and listens to everyone else's advice and proceeds to tell me how wrong my decisions are!

I hate that there must be a theme and everything must match with everything else...drives me nuts. As long as it all looks nice and not too stupid I don't think other people will notice!

If only I could have a select few helping me plan, and that everyone didn't automatically assume that they had a say in mine and my OH's wedding!

Also no I don't 'have' to go away on honeymoon straight away, we are waiting a while as work has been great allowing us 2 weeks off for our 2 weddings already. Leave us alone, we don't mind, why do other people get in a huff when things don't concern them?

I promise last one....how people ask how it is, you reply 'great thanks, everything is in order'. Then they proceed to say 'but have you thought of this to do...oh and this...you know it's not as simple as you think it is' Bugger off!

I'm pissed off with people who are telling me i'm going on to much about my wedding! Of course i'm going to go on about it..... i'm excited! So f*ck off and be a miserable twunt (Thanks Grace!) elsewhere!

My Mother in law to be is a dead ringer for Wee Jimmy Krankie.

There, I've said it.

LMAO!! I did have to google it first though! ?

We are having a Friday wedding, and so on my STDs I put FRIDAY 12th August - yet my BM informs me her sister (my cousin) didn't realise it was a Friday?! It's in Huuuuuuge letters!? So if I ever had a choice again, I wouldn't bothered - they haven't served any real purpose for me.!

Same for cousins daughter (the one previously refered to) except it's Monsoon bridesmaids range! Arrrgh!

This should be a REAL post!

What's doing my head in is when we were looking at venues etc people knew we were looking "out of the area" and ooh and ahh'd over the venue we picked. Now that the invites are going out all we're hearing is "oh, it's very far away - what possessed you?!". Umm, we had to get married out of the area because of OH's warring relatives!

Also, people phoning us up (generally late at night) to complain about the cost! I've been to a fair few weddings over the years in various places - Lincoln, the Wirral, Oldham, South West Wales and up near Newcastle to name a few and although it has cost me money to get there, I've gone and I haven't complained about the cost and I certainly wouldn't say anything to the happy couple.

I do love this non fluffy thread.

It just shows that wedding planning isn't just sparkles and rainbows!! ?

I would like to think those people who said they liked my plans were telling me the truth, because that's what i think this forum is about. When I flashed my dress and someone told me what they really thought (eg didnt like it as much as the one I was craving for), although I was a bit upset, it kinda confirmed what I was thinking. And it's all worked out for the best really as I've fallen for something else now and forgotten about the others. Even when my nearly-date-twin and another hitcher said they didn't like it, I really wasn't bothered - which just confirms that it really is "the one".

Hurrah for Hitched!

(Was that too fluffy?! ?)

BEST THREAD EVER!!

I've come into the office to a flurry of email notifications and have been merrily giggling away reading through them all.

I definitely agree with the questions about kids - you really wouldn't wish a child on me, it'd be terribly badly treated, so stop telling me I'll be focussing on a baby once the wedding's out of the way. I'll never be focussing on babies. Starting the sentence with 'Well, when you get to 30 you'll realise.....' isn't going to a) change my mind or b) make me feel any better. P*ss off!!

I've also had to bite my tongue (or fingers?) when some truly horrendous things or just plain boring ones have been flashed - but I know there'll be plenty of Hitchers who don't like my stuff so all's fair etc.

It annoys me when people ask the same things that have just been discussed at length in a post the day before - doesn't anyone read back through things to see what they've missed? Lazy.

Who cares if it might cost you a bit to attend my wedding, if you're going to moan please just decline and save everyone some money! I honestly won't care if you don't come.

Ooooh this one is great, long may it continue ? (it took everything I had not to LOL in this one!!)

I've had so many annoying things happen so far that I'd be going on for ages if I listed them (and I'd bore everyone)

Lets just say that I can't wait for the day to happen so I can stop thinking about it all the time, give my brain a rest, and not have my mother on the phone every day asking stupid questions.

Thats the thing as much as i am looking forward to my wedding day, i am more looking forward to just being married and having my husband....the warring interferring relatives, the where to sit H2B's mum in relation to H2B's dad so they don't tear chunks out of each other, the oh my god you aren't having fruit cake?! the SIL2B telling me that my colour scheme doesn't suit my bridesmaids...its taking all the fun out of what should be a day about me and H2B commiting our lives to each other in front to the people we care about. I really don't care if my bridesmaid would prefer to be wearing pink, at her wedding she can but this is my wedding and she will wear the colour i want her to wear, i don't care if my grandma sulks because a) she isn't making the wedding cake and b) it isn't fruit cake and c) it isn't a proper cake (we are ahving cupcakes because thats what I like) me and OH don't like fruit cake and oh by the way IT IS MY WEDDING!!!!

Sorry got carried away....feel better now.

Im totally scunnered that people try to give me advice when I havnt asked for it - Im secure in my own choices & opinions thanks!

Im scunnered that some people think they are more important than they actually are!

I hate that people have ideas / traditions that they think it is a crime to not have / go against - F**K off!

I hate that my cousin keeps talking about her wedding everytime were doing something 'oh I like that, thats like my BM dresses' etc This is MY WEDDING and I am having everything EXACTLY as I WANT - nothing to do with yours!

Im pissed that shes told her mum the BM colour - my aunt rang my mum to look her know what colour her outfit was - F**K off! My mum will wear what colour she likes, you are not important!

Im pissed that the people who I really thought would be at my hen do are not coming & one basically told me she had so much other things on (her best friend I was at the bottom of her list of priorities - well she can go and eat horsesh*t from here on in!

Phew - thats felt good!

U know what I really hate about weddings and planning...People think that its okay to invite other people even though theyre not on the invite....My OH aunt put on her meal thing Charlie and I wil have the same...ERM no you will not - he is NOT invited..DO ONE you were told when we got engaged that NO KIDS regardless of how old they are will NOT be invited....Even OH other cousin who is 18 isnt invited...so why would a 15 year old be...GRRR

Thank god I've just found this thread. A weight has been lifted!!

I thought I was the only one who doesn't really give a flying fish about all the crappy little expensive details that no one will even notice on the day.

"Bet you're excited... and there's so much to do!?" No, I am not excited and there's nothing to do actually. it's been a pain in the arse, every one has an opinion and plays the guilt trip and I've had enough!

I just want to be married and have a husband and go on a nice relaxing holiday and return back to normal with a bit of a tan!

Roll on July...

Well she hasnt said it to my face - she sent the menu back with Oh well charlie will... I cnt get hold of her - but its not my family Ishould have to do it - my MIL promised she would do it a month ago but she hasnt done it yet - and my OH was told by his mother that she had done it - he wasnt impressed when he found out she hadnt... GRR.

Feel better now - stupid woman making me angry.

I know right. It's just so annoying - her sister isn't having any of her kids to the wedding, and shes like oh well - gives me a day off and her kids are 5 and 13 (oh and 18 lol)

Like my friend said hes 15 - if people with babies can find babysitters im sure she can - or better yet leave him on his own - he wont enjoy it he'll moan all the time and ruin the day...hes a brat and would be the only kid there :/

Yes Gabs, I do.

Hehe, cheeky semi!

This thread is fabulous. I've only got as far as page 4 and intend to go back and catch up but for now just wanted to throw this one out there:

Right now, I f*cking hate weddings.

Ahhhh, that's better!

Oh there are so many things at the moment..

No mum I won't invite any more of your friends i think the ones I have invited are enough 3 couples.. No I won't invite the others no matter how many times you ask me all the time I havent seen them in 10 plus years!

Yes i know you are going to have to see my dad again for the 3rd time in 10 years, but really it is my day just get on with it!!!!

No we won't start a family when we get married I know how awful of us to be so selfish!!!?

I "Like" this!!

I "Like" this too - its my wedding all over lol def too cheap to buy it so ill make it instead for the sake of saving a tenner lol

Caught up now! I am definitely with the people who are fed up of being asked how the planning is going. You know what? I'm an intelligent person, I have a lot of qualifications, I have a very interesting job, a great group of friends, hobbies, interests, I'm always reading something... why do you think I would suddenly be interested in wedding planning and nothing else? It's boring, I have nothing new to tell you unless you really want to know about how I need to pay the balance on the honeymoon, which I know you don't. If I were you, I wouldn't want to hear it. So ask me something else, Go on, I dare you.