The Non Fluffy Random Wedding Chat Thread

Where was that from???? I'm undecided whether or not to have a veil - I've always wanted one and still do, but my dress comes with a little lace bolero and it looks ace with a veil and no jacket, but the veil is too much with the jacket as well

Hahaha love it!! I bought mine sod making that lol. Its cost me about £10 lol

And my veil cost £13 but it was an exact match to the one I wanted in the shop lol.

And I agree for an hour its not worth spending a fortune on it

Hahahaha thats brilliant lol. Ur cats cute by the way lol. Looks like the cat I had when I was little.

Hahaha - yeah tell me about it lol - both of mine when I was a kid were Tuxes too - one more black and one more white.

The ones at mums now (one of which is mine) was the quiet one and hes a little sod too lol (he is also a tux) lol.

My OH's cat is a Tux and shes a little sod but the ginger one is brilliant LOL. Cats are buggers - think tis just the tuxes that are the problems lol

Another one.. If you don't want to be bridesmaid, then just say! Don't ignore my messages / emails and CBMs emails please!!

2nd that Kayl! I chose my cousin who is 19. At first she was happy and very excited but her mother has basically said that she'd prefer it if my cousin wasn't so now it's turning into a bit of a chore for the poor girl! My aunt has 2 other girls and is more worried about them looking pretty for the day than anything else, and that as a bridesmaid my little cousin may not be able to look her best. She heard somewhere that we have a lot of good looking eligible boys at our wedding so she wants them primped (sp) up for the day!

Here's mine to my mother

Do not go on about how my dad should pay this or that just because he was an absent father lets be honest who's fault was that oh wait it was YOURS !!

So if i want him there i will have him there and if he does attend it's because he wants to see his daughter get married it's NOT so he can get 'back' with you! Get over your self !!!

Wow it's really does work i feel so much better !!

A Mrs Bear - OMG?! That is her primary concern...... She really does need a sacking!!

My BM is busy I know - working 60 hour weeks, but I just want a Yes / No answer!!!!!!

Family politics about who is coming, why am I getting married so far away? Erm..it's two hours away and it's where me and OH used to live and met! Etc etc, it just makes me want to run away and get married!!

However the same people moaning at me now would moan at me for doing that, I just can't win!

:o Thats awful!! why has the aunt said she dosnt want her daughter being bridesmaid? Thats not fair

This sounds mean, but this is the non-fluffy thread...

I get annoyed when other hitchers describe dresses as "the one", it is a dress for goodness' sake not a person! Yes, by all means say that it was the perfect dress, or exactly what you are looking for, or even that you love it, but it is not "the one".

OMD!!!!!

You are living my life!!!

My mum said..."Don't put him next to me, he'll probably try and play footsie with me under the table!" YOU WISH!!!!!!!!

@ Dilly yes she is a Mrs Bennett, it's alwyas been her main concern and very one knows it. She's always been worried about boyfriends and how they look over anything! Also her eldest is my age and doesn't have a boyfriend so extra reason for her to care at my wedding. OH's friends are doctors so all the more reason for them to be at their best for the day!

She is still bridesmaid but not having any kind of jobs on the day, as my aunt said her hair may fall out etc

Ladies, I curse you all and this bloody thread!

Here I was sitting thinking what random person would invite them to a wedding or self appoint themselves BM etc! My gran has just called to say that my cousins in america want to be flower girls at the wedding! They are 8 and 11, but I already have one and she is 4 and I have her dress and everything too! I said the dresses are not in stock anymore and she said "oh you're so silly and particular about things, one white dress is the same as any!" I said that they are told as well "no it's not, the more kids the better" Because they are cming from america to be with me I shuld feel grateful and obviously bow to all their demands!

Sorry if that makes no sense she has just literally called and I'm still seething. My poor heart!!!!

BM's who go out and "decide to just buy" something "in a totally different colour" that matches nothing, without consulting me!! GRRRRRR!!

WTH!!!

Seriously? That's so out of order!!!!

Ha Ha so very true!

Its very much a taboo subject at the moment!! GRR

totally!

People keep saying 'remember its your day' straight after reeling off a list of their own suggestions for 'our day'! grrr

also MIL2b wearing same colour as one of my BMs double plus grrrr

Please can I steal this as my mantra?

No I will not be providing transport for your children to my wedding!!! You are welcome to order a cab from my parents house but I'm already putting on 2 cars I am NOT about to put on one for your rug rat of a child! Plus to be quiet honest I dont like him! There I said it!! Yes he may be OH's nephew but he is a spolit, selfish, rude little person!! (gosh that felt good!)

Ohh also! No I dont have any family in my wedding party other than my sister! Why the heck should I!! My girls have been there for me through thick and thin were as I see the family once or twice a year!

Yes I will have a white taxi for my wedding car if I want!

This is such a good thread to come back from work to!

My dear mother has decided that an ivory gerbera won't go with her black & white outfit and is worried she'll look silly unless she has something else. We agreed months ago on this.

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I have 2 topics that are peeing me off:

1. People saying 'I dont understand why you dont just go abroad and get married it would be so much cheaper than spending all that money' and after i explain that i want all my family and friends there, looking at me like i am an alien!

2. My mum inviting relatives i havent seen ever to the whole day!

Ha ha yes be my guest! It's my new outlook and everything is now rosy!!

I read from beginning to end of this post yesterday and its grown in 3 pages since I last read it!!

I am sick of wedding bl**dy planning at the moment I would much rather be spending my weekends with a hangover after a brill night out than be sat at a computer for hours seeing what I can and cant do!!

Also I may have called you my cousins for a few years until I hit 13 however you are now 18 years old and I'm 23 and should probably undertsand that for you to be my cousin your mum or dad would have to be brother or sister to my mum and dad. This is not the case so yes I am asking my other cousins to be bridesmaids however you arent my cousin please understand if you were bridesmaids then I would have to play my entrance song 3 times over to get my already big wedding party down the aisle. Plus your both chavs and could not picture you ever in a dress from Monsoon so do one!

No you cannot invite your boyfriend to my wedding for the day and evening! You asked me I said no so you got your mum to ask me I still said no! She can say she will pay for his meals but how the f*ck am I going to magic space for him I am allowed 80 guests I have 80 so unless he wants to sit in the garden on his own the answer is no! Bring him to the evening reception when I will be too drunk to notice your chavtastic boyfriend has arrived!!

FIL I would be grateful if you would keep your nose out of my business I will sit people were I see fit! If I want to put your daughters boyfriend with my brothers I will now get bent! I dont care how my OH's brother did it 3 years ago this is our wedding day not theirs if you dont like ity dont turn up in fact that would make my day if you didnt turn up saves everyone from listening to you go on and on about your weightloss can I remind you you only lost weight because your physco ex-fiance made you end of story!

Oh and one more thing if anybody wyhinges at the prices of the room I will tell them not to come! £155 is a small price to pay considering I paid close to £300 for a standard room to stop at my OH's brothers wedding this was also while I was redundant so go away and bother someone else with your complaints. Also FIL I will not be paying for your daughrter and her boyfriend to stay at the venue. They have just had a baby said they would rather stop at our flat but oh no you bulldoze as usual and pay the deposit on her room them proceed to tell me after I have finished a night shift and am visiting the venue that my OH and his brother will be splitting the remaining sot of her room. Erm hello do you not think we have enough to pay for?! Clearly not! Oh and more thing if I want to upgrade my mum and dads room and pay for it I bl**dy well will seeing as they are paying for most of the fecking wedding. Your response of oh Im just no frills I will have to settle for boring does not amuse me and yes it makes me want to puch you say it once more and I will kill you UNDERSTAND?!

Oh and breathe!!!!!

Let it all out SarB!! you must feel better now!

I do feel sooooooo much better!!

I went to visit the lady doing our stationary on Tuesday and she said how are the plans coming along so I proceeded to tell her about all our troubles she said oh wedding planning is meant to be fun! My response - Impossible with my OH's family around!!!

I had another non fluffy moment last night...

My Mum told me that Grandma doesn't want to stay at the hotel. But when I said that it was stupid because she can't come back to Mum's as noone will drive her, Mum told me that it was too early to be talking about it anyway. Er, hello? You brought it up, so expect me to question what on earth is going on!!

Dilly, seems like no matter what we do, we can't win!

Definitely feeling this specific pain! Why do people bring up the tiny details, expect me to have planned it all out already, and then complain "it's too early to talk about this". WHY BRING IT UP THEN?! Honestly.