The Pro's and Con's of Wedding Planning

PRO - I enjoy planning and I get to do loads of craft and DIY which is great.

CON'S - I'm struggling to make decisions on some things and don't really know how I'm suppose to make the wedding 'us'. Having no spare money is a definite con!

I love the fact that we are able to do what WE want, without worrying too much about what is expected of us. It's my second wedding, and as we are in our 40's we know what we like, what we don't like, and we are paying for it all ourselves. This means we don't have to worry about upsetting too many people, and we can invite our friends, choose our own menus, and really make it ours. I know most brides will say that they are doing the same, regardless of age, or who is paying, but the reality is (as will be seen from many posts on Hitched) that many end up having to do what is expected of them, rather than to enjoy their day their way. This was certainly the case for my first wedding, when I was very young (19) and I vowed that this time round there would be no stress, just lots of enjoyment as after all, a wedding is a celebration, not a chore.

But the best PRO is that me and my H2B are looking forward to a shared goal. We are planning this all together and I love the fact that he is as excited about it all as I am.

PROS

Exciting to have a day dedicated to myself and my hubby to be.

It's fun looking what bits to buy, trying things on and letting the creative flare take hold.

You can be a bit spoilt and you're allowed to change your mind

CONS

It's close to xmas and I don't feel christmassy at all.. not sure if its because of the wedding as its now in the final 6 month count down.. or what.

It's hard to know who to invite as well, some people are doing my nut in and their invited and part of the day.. i can hardly say "you've peed me off your not coming"... lol. That would be childish and unreasonable but I do hope they buck up and get their act together and be the person I actually like and get on with lol

The cost, Jesus... the money, we could have our first mortgage deposit down and have some left over the way we are going... it's gonna be one hell of a party.

I can't focus on work...

We're in the very early stages! But we're really enjoying the planning so far!

Pros - Getting to use a bit of creativity! I love planning things so this is right up my street. Knowing that My H2B and I get to have our dream day and we get to make that commitment in front of people we love.

Cons - THE MONEY. Oh my goodness. Having to make so many sacrifices to avoid any borrowing or debt, but it'll all be worth it in the end. We can give up my fancy gym membership, takeaways, shoes and phone upgrades for 18 months if it means we get what we both want!

Pros- marring the man I love, just organising you day is exciting! It's just the best feeling to know your getting married that 1 person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

cons- money- SOME peoples opinion. The worry that all your plans, hard work and ideas are going to look naff. How I'm going to look in pictures. For some reason when I look in the mirror I see someone that looks half decant. Bam, I have a picture and I look completely different and disgusting if it's someone else in the picture. I can't tell what's going on if I look like the girl in the mirror or the person in the picture. I hate friggin photos taken of me lol. I worry that the pictures are going to look really good but I won't. Think that's the main big con of this whole wedding organising is suspense.

I'm struggling to think of any pros apart from marrying the man I love. That's enough in itself and I'm acutely aware of how lucky I am - moaning about planning my wedding feels like a very first world problem, and I haven't had a tenth of the issues some people who post here seem to have had. But I can't say as I've truly enjoyed any of it! Cons: it's sucked up all of my money, I have had sleepless nights worrying about my dress, I am very anxious about being the centre of attention and have had hives and various other stress symptoms about my appearance, there have been disagreements with my mother (albeit fairly minor)...I could go on! Let's just say I'll be happy when it's all over and we're married. Sorry to be a downer

Pro -
Is the planning! I love it so much. I'm enjoying trying to get exactly what we both want for a fraction of the price. As the wedding is so far away, I have time to research and make sure we're happy with everything.

Pro - the idea of honeymoon! Having a tasting - our caterer is ace and today emailed to tell ask us how about 6pm for a tasting (which he travels to the house for free for) as that way we won't have to make dinner! Sharing ideas with my chief bridesmaid and hunting car boot sales for bargins - need lots and lots of china cups and plates!

Cons - the stress of trying to organise something over 600 miles away isn't easy.

Definate con is I sound like a parrot even when I try to avoid wedding talk something pops out of my mouth at least once a day - I feel really bad for my friends and collegues - I'm actually fed up myself of hearing about it but someone once a day always asks how the planning is going!

People's opinion or hints at invites etc - definately fed up of that one

The never ending searching online for stuff - even stuff I didn't consider - today's lunch break was linen style paper napkins.......️?️

Pros- marrying my OH. My mum being there (hopefully, crossing fingers and toes that she is well enough for at least the ceremony).

Cons- not having time to plan effectively, people being disinterested (including those I expected to be interested e.g. my MOH and at times my OH).

Pro - Doesn't it feel so good to have a colourful spreadsheet that pushes urges of having OCD into overdrive?!

Con - From what I've heard, overwhelming amounts of 'Wed-min' and forms + booking people well in advance!

Pro - me & the fella cementing our commitment to each other & the excuse for a holiday!

Con - the huge list of people who expect you to be all gushy just because youre getting married.(apologies to anyone this offends but i don't subscribe to all the 'dream wedding' & ' best day of my life' bullcr*p - it makes me want to vomit). Also the politics & keeping everyone happy is exhausting at times.

Pro - I know I'm going to end up married to my OH and I really just can't wait to be his wife.

Con - there's loads. I'm rubbish at organising anything and I am the worlds worst procrastinator (is that a word?!) so the planning thing does not come easy. Just the sheer amount of decisions to be made I guess. But yeah, first world problems and all that. Shouldn't complain!

Pro's: Knowing that at the end of it all, my OH and I will be our own little family (sorry if that's a bit mushy)
Having an excuse to make colour coded spreadsheets and have girly days with my MOH & bridesmaid

Con's: Failing epically at anything remotely creative
Trying to keep everybody happy and not fall out with OH's mum, which atm is really NOT easy
Wedding related nightmares ... what the heck is that all about?!
Struggling with money ... it's beans on toast till the wedding!

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Oooo love this thread!

PRO: All our family (so far) have been very supportive. We had an easy time writing the guest list and noone is trying to overpower or force their decisions on to us.

I am loving all of the planning and it's nice that we have something that everyone feels happy about, and that everyone is looking forward too.

CONS: Saving money. All day, every day, saving money. To be honest I am finding it a little disheartening. I genuinly came into wedding planning expecting to pay a lot for some things, but somehow things are even more expensive that we first envisaged. Most days I am ok with it, but sometimes it really really really gets me down. I do wonder how some services justify their prices.

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