The Second Weddings Thread

Loving the fact I'm going to be marrying my best friend and the most wonderful man that's given me my beautiful son.

Not loving the fact that some people assume I'll not be doing this/not be doing that this time, we're also having a very small wedding with only nearest and dearest (15 people) this time after a big white wedding the first time but I kind of resent that everyone just thinks it's going to go by with a blink of the eye or that it's not as special. I made a mistake last time as I was young but this time I know that I'm marrying my soulmate and the father of my baby which has made me love him to a whole new level.

We don't want to spend £££s on our wedding but we want to have an incredible, special day to remember for the rest of our lives which I think we can achieve. We've just had a baby, have loads of work going on with our house renovation and I'd love a nice holiday/honeymoon so we're trying to be sensible with the wedding day costs.

I'm still having my dad walk me down the aisle though, wouldn't be the same without a pep talk from him to calm the nerves on the big day. I've not personally heard of it not being the done thing and anyway it's your day so you can have what you want even if it breaks from tradition! X

I love that this time I know I'm not jumping in too soon and I really am marrying my forever man, instead of running into something naively with no concept of what love really means.

I don't like the expectation that we shouldn't have a "wedding" but should go to the registry office with a couple of witnesses,

I love that this time I get to wear the big dress instead of the maternity suit I had the first time round

I love that my kids are giving me away because it seems real!

It was the second time for both of us & we went to Jamaica, just the two of us. We walked down together & the wedding was just perfect. We satyed there for 2 weeks in a fab room with our own concierge. We had a party 2 weeks after we got back. I loved that we did what we wanted to do. We didnt need or want a big fuss & it was just beautiful & so romantic. In the evening we had a private candlelit dinner in the wedding gazebo where we were married. We had lots of pics don & a video to show people when we got home. Heres a pic of our perfect wedding, any excuse to flash lol.....

Well it's 3rd time lucky for both me and h2b lol. We're doing the full shebang too but main event for about 32 immediate family in a hotel away from home, with full gown and suits etc. then two weeks later a big party for all our friends and family in our home town. And I haven't met anyone who's said we shouldn't be doing anything but including all our family. It's our special day and we won't be compromising on what we want. Simple as x

Thank you all for sharing it's so nice to here from you all.

I think I'm going to get my daughter from first marriage to walk me down the aisle.

Another thing I'm loving is the small amount of friends I have coming are my "proper friends", they were there at the first wedding and they will be there again. Not the free meal ticket ones or the ones who didn't bother inviting us to there weddings.

I would like to think second weddings were acceptable but I still feel there is a bit of stigma that is should be low key.

I am hating the fact that when you say wedding it bumps the price up to a huge amount - no change there then.

3rd time round for me (1st for H2B). First time round I was only 20 and had a huge church wedding, 6 bridesmaids, big puffy sleeved dress, hotel reception etc. Was still paying for it when we separated! 2nd marriage we went away to Las Vegas on our own and got married out in the desert - was 2nd time for both of us - we already had a daughter and didn't want to spend a great deal, so it suited us both. This time round it's somewhere in the middle - Registry Office followed by informal reception in a pub. Main differences for me this time compared to 1st (can't really compare 2nd as that was all arranged very quickly and kind of on a whim) are that I'm enjoying planning the wedding *we* want rather than anyone else, and no one is interfering

With regards to being given away, I did jokily suggest that my ex should probably do it (but that was never really a serious suggestion, although he is invited to the evening as we get on very well and my daughter would like him there). I considered just walking down on my own, but wasn't sure if my Dad would like to give me away again, so I just asked him and he said he would. so he will

We're not engaged yet - partly because I'm still married to my ex - but we're discussing plans and budgets etc. This time, I'm looking forward to doing it our way. My first wedding was all about throwing a good party and having everyone there who expected to be there rather than about us. This time, I know it's the right man, we're being much more selective about venues, and we're having what WE want, not what everyone else expects us to want. We've got a stunning venue in mind, and we want to follow the ceremony with an afternoon tea instead of a three-course wedding breakfast, and with quiet drinks, not a DJ and party. I'm sure I'll get grief from friends about the lack of a party and from family about having a second expensive wedding and not inviting distant relatives who I never see, but I really don't care. It will be what my H2B(eventually! Lol) and I want, and that's all that matters. This time, it's about the marriage, not just the wedding.

It is both our second time around, we both had the big expensive wedding the first time, just married the wrong person, which I am sad about cos I wasted some many years with someone I shouldnt off, and resent that those years could of been with the man of my dreams.

I had everything I wanted in my first wedding and more, and I cant hand on heart say that if I hadnt done it then, I wouldnt be doing it now. However, this time, we have been engaged for 18 months, and was talking about the big wedding later in the year, but 3 weeks ago, my OH said do you know what, lets just do it and do it now. So we are in 3 weeks time. we are having a small personal service with 30 of the most special people there, yes I am having bridesmaids, yes my dad is going to give me away, we are then going back to a small italian place for a meal, followed by a champers and rugby party in my brother in laws garden pub, as it is the last day of the six nations.

AND I CANT BLOODY WAIT !!!

Lyons2b that sounds amazing!

Im loving that I have a dress I actually love this time and that it fits perfectly (im 5 stone lighter lol), its a zip up back and not a corset so feels more secure on me. I love that im with a man that's perfect for me and understands me so much better than my first husband ever did. I love that we are paying for this wedding ourselves and haven't got into debt for it either. I learnt not to sweat the small stuff this time round so its been a lot more relaxed and the wedding will be smaller.

I hate that my dad isn't here to see it and to walk me down the aisle. I hate that my dad also didn't meet my OH cos I think he would have loved him.

I think I will be walking down the aisle alone....if you can call it an aisle, im getting married in a registry office lol. Im not sure mum wants to, but then again, I haven't asked her. I must do that!

My first post on Hitched *waves*

This will be the second marriage for us both. We both had huge white church weddings the first time and are planning something much smaller this time around. We are still looking at venues but hope to get married 8th April 2017. The way prices have shot up with the closure of many Registry Offices is disheartening tbh. We want to do the whole day on a £1000 with the honeymoon on top and a joint 50th birthday/wedding knees up on our return. 45 guests to the ceremony and buffet with my son giving me away. My father already did it once so the duty falls onto Alex who will be 15 by then.

Hi welcome to Hitched. Just had my re-wedding also. Good luck with your planning. Look forward to reading about what your plans are. Everyone is really helpful and friendly here. X

This will be my second wedding. My first was in 2003 & it was huge with a pretty unlimited budget!

this time round it's much smaller, just 50 in the day with 25 more in the evening.

I'm only having 2 bridesmaids, I had 6 first time round! Ridiculous really.

i didn't have children from my first marriage, thank goodness, but I have a 2 year old with my now fiancée.

My dad will be giving me away again.

Getting married next March but I have no idea what to wear. I had a huge dress with massive veil first time but I think I want a short dress this time.

It's my 2nd time and OHs 3rd time. I had a very small wedding first time round with only 20 people and just a dinner afterwards. This time we are having a big affair which I am really excited about. I love all the organising and extra "stuff" we are having that I didn't have last time. I think the only thing I'm hating a bit is trying to decide who to include on the guest list - it's so hard with some people!

Our wedding will be my first, but H2B's third... Much as he would have been happy to pop down the registry office, I wouldn't have been- I only intend to do this once, so I'm DOING it! Luckily he appreciates that I haven't done it before and is happy to indulge me!

I'm exactly the same - first for me, second for my partner. I feel like I should get to have the wedding I want, whether big or small. I won't be doing this again! Luckily he's very happy with what we've chosen

Me too - I hadn't really thought about other people's opinions about it being my H2B's second time until I read this post! He tells me he's much more excited this time around as we're actually doing all of the planning together as he didn't feel very involved at all the first time around!

Second time for each of us... And definitely the last! W2B and I will be arriving together.