Thinking of OB

Cilla, there's no way of deleting a thread after there's been a reply to it, apart than emailing a mod.

OB has seen it. She's really grateful for everyone's well wishes but is devastated by the hearts.

Such a shame that a thread with lovely intentions has been turned sour by someone with an obvious axe to grind.

Maybe we should all go on strike until they get rid of the hearts!

Will the hearts go once BT has gone?

Why not Darren? I doubt anyone on OT will complain! Or is it a formatting thing?

OB wanted me to let everyone know that she's really touched by everyone's messages. She says you're all lovely and kind.

Which you all are, obviously

Perhaps we need a petition as they do more harm than good.

That's ridiculous, BT is leaving soon anyway and I'm sure could cope without the hearts for a couple of weeks. It's a shame someone has felt the need to do this, what is the point?! I hope OB is as okay as she can be.

Hope today isn't too difficult, OB.

Surely hearts are a good thing? If I don't have time to comment on a FB status, for example, I like it instead. To let the person know I'm thinking of them/still around/agree with them, whatever. Similar thing could have happened here? No-one is likely to own up though now after all the names they've been called and the witch hunt that pursued. ?

If it's about the amount of hearts, why doesn't everyone just give it the maximum amount of hearts, and then everyone's happy.

*hugs* for OB

The hearts are rarely used on the OT forum yet recently, every thread by or about OB has been rewarded with hearts. A sad post was given five hearts. This one was given less. At first I thought nothing of it and thought perhaps it was someone meaning well, but not now.

BumbleBrat - I agree with you that a like button would be a much better idea. When the first of OB's threads related to her miscarriage got hearted, I would agree it may have been an accident or someone with good intentions. After OB said it upset her and it carried on happening every time, I don't think it can be called a coincidence. Especially as they kept only giving one star, which is actually a 'poor' rating. I can understand a like button, but I don't think you should be able to rate anything as poor on here.

I've just spent a minute clicking on the hearts on the main forum page wondering why it didn't let me! Didn't realise that you clicked on them in the thread. *stupid icon*

Makes me even more convinced it's not an accident.

Jo it gives an average rating.

BB - its not an accident. Sad posts have been rated excellent. Positive or support threads have been rated poor.

On facebook, if someone posted a sad status you wouldn't 'like' it.

I understand that it's easy to accidentally heart a thread, I do it all the time when using an iPhone. But you usually notice and can go back in to change it afterwards. It might seem silly to some and that it's 'just hearts' but hate easy to say when you're not in the same situation.

This is not a coincidence, it happens on everyone of OB's posts lately despite her saying she is upset by it. It's spiteful and vindictive and I hope the person behind it never finds themself in a similar situation where they need a support network and is made to feel like it has been taken away from them. Or actually, maybe I do!

You'd be surprised.

Maybe I'm just less sensitive about it all cos to me hearts = love, therefore a good thing. Either way, OB shouldn't let it bother her as I'm sure there are far more important things going on, real life things.

If there was a 'like' button, I would like this

It does seem too much of a coincidence to be another accident, that's really awful and whoever it is should be ashamed- I hope it's a troll or lurker that doesn't use this place for support. I'd hate to think that we are offering advice/support to someone like that. The hearts have caused upset over on BT in recent months when people have announced good news and horrible people have tried to lower the heart rating. It makes me cross to see it. I hope they do get rid of the hearts soon seeing as BT is leaving this Autumn.

HT, please send lots of love to OB and I hope she knows how welcome she is on here and how much everyone will miss her. I can't begin to pretend I know what she is going through but my heart breaks for her and I truly hope we hear some good news from her very very soon. Look after her please x

I don't think that's a very helpful comment, it's not for outsiders to deliberate the priority of OB's worries.

Like I said, when we are in a low place the smallest things can seem a million times worse. This was a place where OB came to for support, she now feels like she can't return here which IMO IS a big deal and I can fully understand why she is upset.

What's happened to OB? What have I missed??

She's left because it was upsetting her, I'm just saying maybe she shouldn't look today as it's just going to make her worse. There's no point upsetting herself further.

Sending lots of love to you, OB x ?

FFS some freaks on here! So sorry you have had to see this, today of all days OB.

And as for you phantom hearter I dont know what your problem with lovely Abi could possibly be. I hope you are proud of yourself.

Wss, I think the point here BB is that this IS a real thing. If u were upset about something and someone suggested it wasn't a real problem I don't think you would appreciate it.

HT please pass on all our love to OB x

So sorry to come back to find the phantom hearter has been at it again. Normally I ignore the hearts and initially thought that they might have been an accident/well-intentioned at first, but someone has clearly seen how much it upsets OB and continued to do it.

Another internet weirdy thinking of you, OB.

I wonder if the Hiched mods can see who's hearted threads? I see this as bullying too, especially when she has said in the past that they upset her so much.

Poor OB. Can someone send her my best too please?

Please pass on my thoughts and best wishes too.... I dont really know OB, or what she has really been through, but it is obvious she needs some TLC and hugs, and I always have plenty of them for those who need it.

x

I'll let her know ?

I hope OB's OK.

Re: hearts. They are not worth the upset. I hearted this thread yesterday, in an attempt to at least boost it to five (somebody suggested it and I think it's the best idea). I think we "take them back".

Me too!

Troll, you will not take our hearts!! Raaaaaaar!

I wish there was something we could do. OB sounds like such a lovely person and I know something of what she's going through. I would never wish it on anyone and, if you do have to go through it, NOTHING is more important. I never understood the complete devastation it causes people until earlier this year.

The mods must be able to see who hearts things. Surely there is some kind of coding left somewhere they can trace and get this sorted. I thought everything online could be traced, unless they are some crazy clever person routing through different ISPs all over the place, which hardly seems likely for something so petty.

Hope things start to get easier for you OB. You'll always have support here if you ever decide to come back xx

I'm sure they can, but I doubt they'd bother

Lots of internet weirdy hugs coming from me too. So sorry OB is having such a tough time, and if someone really is hearting the thread from meanness as opposed to accidental iPhone hearting (which I've been know to do, along with accidentally locking one of my threads last week) or trying to send love, then that's pretty low.

As a BT user I would be happy to see the hearts go, when I posted my scan update someone low hearted it and it is upsetting to think that people think ill of your good news - it happens alot over there and like others have said BT will be gone soon.

Hope you are ok OB xxx